Am I over sensitive

You've read it a few dozen times but I will add my words to the mix.

You deserve better. If youare nervous to talk to him because he gets defensive it will only get worse, not better.

You deserve better. You deserve to go away for a weekend with a new boyfriend and come home with butterflies in your stomach and excitement to see him again and he should feel the same. You do not have that. At all.

You deserve better, you really, truly do.

P.S. I am also an insomniac. It's really hell at times but DH and I work around it and the word "lazy" has never left his lips, even after 48 years.

You deserve better. Please repeat that to yourself until you believe it fully and completely.

He called you lazy because he couldn't put his cock inside you? And you really need advice?
Wobble that head, put some trainers on and run for the hills

Dump the bastard.
He is not the man for you.

As Alice DJ used to sing, 'you are better off alone'.
Xx

People can’t help if they’ve had a hard week or are just plain tired.

Im guilty of having early nights when on holiday or away at a hotel.

You already had one late night out celebrating so spending the other having a quieter one seems perfectly reasonable.

With regards to the lazy woman comment, was it a cheeky “Get up you lazy woman.” In a loving jokey manner or actually serious?

It sounds like you’re being overly sensitive.

If you're not great at explaining yourself in a face to face conversation, put it in a text. I find this explains everything clearly and he can read it and accept how you felt or try to diminish your feelings - if he does that, he clearly does not respect you.

I think it’s outrageous, ungrateful behaviour and I’d be giving him his marching orders. He sounds like a petulant child who wasn’t getting his own way, and made sure to spoil it for everyone. Run for the hills; this will be one of many versions of the same story.

Hum! Sounds like damage limitation to me. He realised he behaved like a total arse and is trying to save his face/retrieve the situation. Also: you think he was short of cash to pay for dinner? He's a real Prince Charming, isn't he? So, he was expecting you to foot it for the whole weekend, was he?

He's a bin-job, in my view. You deserve better.

So what on earth is it that is in it for you, a long-distance rel where you rarely see one another and you can’t talk frankly to him when you do?

Yeah so he didn’t want to pay for dinner, couldn’t afford it so ruined the night, bin him off,

I can’t beleive some of these answers blaming the op. Would I fuck be ok with faking my husband away for the night and him going to sleep at 7;15 and refusing dinner and having a snack and a drink in the room then waking up, demanding sex and calling me lazy

and some posters are saying neither is more right than the other. Seriously. Raise your bar ladies.

op, he could have suggested somewhere else for dinner, did he think he may have to pay? Over all I’d bin him off, I’d not want to see him again, what a shit way to behave.

Nope, he’s a dickhead who called you lazy because you didn’t want to fuck him at 6am.

A normal healthy adult doesn’t need to ‘pace themselves’ to stay up past teatime and enjoy a couple of drinks two nights in a row FFS. They had two nights at a hotel, not a week in Magaluf.

This is the actual problem with the relationship. A mismatch in sleep schedules can be worked round (and IME is brilliant when you have a small child!). But if you can’t talk to him about it, that’s a problem. He was entirely out of order to expect you to be up and at ‘em at 6am on a weekend away. My husband gets up this early no matter where we are, always has done. But he takes himself off out and finds somewhere to sit and have a coffee until a more reasonable hour. He has never once expected me to be up at that time with him. If you can’t speak to this guy about what he has done wrong, that’s a problem.

Aldo, nobody should be name calling in a relationship. As others have said, throw this one back.

So why would you want to spend any more time with him ?

Putting aside how rude he was to sleep through your weekend together, that you'd arranged as a birthday treat for him, it is this ^ that should make you realise this isn't someone you want to get into a relationship with. Why would any self respecting person want to get into a relationship with someone they are afraid to talk to ?

Throw this one back, OP.

You are supposed to be in the early giddy exciting stage, not 'ignoring my feelings so he won't get defensive'. This one isn't for you.

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Bloody hell, if a young (presumably) man can't have two nights of going out to dinner, without having to go back to the room at five, and go to sleep a couple of hors later for ELEVEN HOURS... I think he needs to get a medical checkup.

All of this!

@Ceci693 he's an infuriating, rude, cockwomble you deserve & can find MUCH better!

It sounds like you didn't pace yourselves for the weekend. Better to have an earlier night, no drinks the first night and have your late night and drinks the second night, especially as you had a late checkout.

I thought exactly the same, but you have worded it better than me.

What an absolute waste of money. Then eating snacks in the room 😳😲 that's something you do when you've kids and they are getting ready for bed. I'd have to ask him if he normally goes to bed at a child's time because that would answer the question if you're compatible. If it was a one off and he'd worked with very little rest then see if they do the same again. Away at a nice hotel should be making the most of every minute especially in the early days.

I’ve got twins, work full time and have a 3hr work commute. I get deeply crash-tired as much as anyone.

Where did I say OP’s sleep problems were his fault? It’s a special occasion and she’s made a big effort. He can perk himself up for one more night.

Well you would, that is why he is doing it, he wants you to feel like shit. I get up at 5:45 am every morning and am in my 50's. I still manage to stay up at night, I am not missing dinner to go to bed.

Yeah I don't really think this is a bit deal they were just sleeping totally opposite to each other. He shouldn't have called her lazy, though I suppose it's the tone he will have said it in which only OP knows

Oh look at your energy bunny. Gosh some days I’m absolutely shattered and asleep before 8! In fact dh and I did this while away too.

How is op being unable to sleep his problem? So he’s exhausted after a hard week and a previous late night, and falls asleep early and he’s terrible yet op who stays up till 4 gets sympathy? Both had a reason for their sleep situation equally