Childhood bedroom off limits?

It's really not going to affect her bond. She will just learn that different places have different rules and stick to the lower areas of the house. Nothing wrong with that. It won't make her less or more close.

I don't think your child will have any interest in your childhood bedroom either, since it's not set up like it was then. It's just a room to her.

and being devastated......

I imagine lots of sobbing and shaking.

That’s such a sad way to view things, my childhood home is thankfully still my home. Regardless of the fact I haven’t lived there for the past 25 years. And my child will be welcome in his grandparents’ home for as long as they’re alive and kicking.

It wouldn’t be ok in our home or any home I know of to be honest. I never ever let my kids go through any family rooms / bedrooms unaccompanied. Didn’t do it in my parents house either.

@LiviaDrusillaAugusta no you are missing the point I would respect it but I would be upset by another woman moving into my mums home and changing how our family usually are. I would respect it but it would upset me and that’s ok as they are my emotions. The OP sounds entirely reasonable.

No, they’re not allowed. Evidently.

It was his bedroom. It no longer is. No matter the sentimental attachment, it isn’t his house.

That’s totally missing the point here.of course if there’s a lodger it’s a different story, but in OP’s case there isn’t.

Don’t know why many have turned you into a her but I think you’re being overly sentimental about a bedroom. Surely your two year old could care less, she’s just exploring. I think it’s more important that you teach the two year old that the upstairs is off limits. If you want to have a look at your old room just ask. Don’t let this create unnecessary friction in your family. It’s not worth it.

Just fine, based on his reasonable responses here, even in response to quite harsh replies.

Also, it would be irrelevant given it wouldn’t be his childhood home, of course…

Wonder how OP would have coped if his dad had moved into new wife’s home instead?

Actually I have. But I’m also aware that you can have a loving family and also respect people’s privacy.

Maybe you haven’t been as lucky as me in having a fabulous family and respect for others’ private property.

How would some posters on here cope if their parents sell their childhood home?

@BajaBaja but it’s not his bedroom anymore.

If your parents got a lodger/guest who was using your old bedroom would you still demand to be able to go in/see it? Or a younger sibling using it.

What ONCE was a child’s bedroom - now it’s the dressing room.

Exactly this

So a grandchild and a child (adult child) aren’t allowed into what once was a children’s bedroom?!!! What is everyone saying here! Shocking to me and I go to stay at my parents’ home in my old childhood bedroom allllll the time and so does my child, their grandson! It’s still my bedroom!!!

@LiviaDrusillaAugusta no I’d be devastated. Maybe you haven’t been as lucky as me in having a lovely welcoming family home

It isn’t his parents - it is his father and step mother. Perhaps the SM doesn’t want her SS and his daughter in her private space esp as the OP is very judgy about the doors being shut etc.

I am assuming you are exaggerating when you say devastated?

Actually it’s how YOUR family does things. Some families have different rules. It’s not like the SM kicked off, the house belongs to her and the OPs father and the child will not be bothered about daddy’s old bedroom unless the OP makes a big deal of it.

Plus it sounds like only the ceiling is remaining.

I’d feel the same OP my 2 year old has free reign at
my mum and dads and we have a complete open door policy. I’d be devastated for this to change if one of my parents passed and for someone new to be making the rules in my childhood home. Rightly or wrongly that’s how I would feel

I find all these responses saying they wouldnt go anywhere in their parents house with or without their children without being invited. I'd find that very strange like I was a visitor in my own family. Would make me feel very on edge.
My parents downsized from my childhood home and when my DS and I go over we can go anywhere in the house. I often wander to one of the upstairs rooms they use as a storage room come reading room as it gets the afternoon sun, or into my parents room to look out of the window as it has a lovely view. One of my parents will usually come and join me for a chat. Thats just normal family.

My grandchildren are allowed to go into any room in my house which is their mother's childhood home. I like that they feel comfortable and able to do that.
It's sad that your child isn't allowed to but I guess some people are just more precious about their personal space.

haven't RTFT but kindly OP get a grip! Do you honestly think a 2 YO is going to give a tuppenny damn about "this used to be Mummy's bedroom" Its not your house now, its not your bedroom. I sense that you disapprove of your father's new wife despite your saying that you get on well...I mean you dispprove because doors are kept closed? Get the pitchforks and flaming torches out!

Not really. They live with me, my bedroom is my only sanctuary, the handprints on my mirror drive me mental.