AIBU to worry about my 19-year-old after his first breakup?

I remember the heartbreak and also the next few years of craziness. The crazy rebound stage wasn’t so bad in hindsight. Those initial few days and weeks were fairly brutal tho.

Be prepared that this might not be a clean break. She might have a wobble, they reconcile, only for her to break it off again. Or maybe he has to see her with another guy he knows.

Or he might move on quicker than you expect and realise it was for the best.

It’s the human condition. First heartbreak is the worst. There is literally nothing he can do. That’s why it’s inspired pretty much every pop song ever written. He just has to plod on until he starts to feel better.

Dreading this as Dd has a devoted lad who is lovely but can see her spreading her wings and breaking his heart. Was the same with my sister. Small town boy wants to marry and put down roots but girl wants to go out into the world.

Ah, teenage heartbreak. Nothing quite like it, I don’t think. I was ‘lucky’ and always did the dumping, rather than being the dumpee, but this sounds so normal. Though, of course, absolutely awful for you to have to sit by and watch x

I remember this too, it was awful at that age. Still remember it to this day. My DM suggested I see a GP but he said time is all that is needed to heal. He was right of course. I was in a state and couldn't stop crying even though it was the right decision.

Your DS will move on and it's okay to grieve what's lost. That's a long time to be together ❤️

Oh it’s awful when they are heartbroken. I felt so sad when it was my DD. It’s hard to not be able to make things better, it’s just a very steep learning curve. It’ll likely bring you very close together helping him through it. I felt miserable the whole time she was devastated, it’s such a horrible feeling, I sympathise with you a lot.

It’s awful seeing your child in pain, physical or emotional. All you can do is be there. Telling him he’ll get over it a meet someone else in future is probably not that helpful at the moment, as when you’re in this state and it’s the first time, you genuinely don’t believe you will. This is just one of those experiences we all have to have, part of becoming a resilient adult. Keep reminding him how loved he is by you, his friends, etc. That his worth is not tied up in this one relationship.

You aren’t unreasonable to feel sad for him and it’s incredibly hard to see your child suffering. But it sounds like normal teenage heartbreak - I might be in my 40s now but I can remember the excruciating pain of being dumped by someone I was still infatuated with. It’s all consuming and a real physical pain. All you can do is be there for them, offer reassurance, tell them that what they are feeling and experiencing is normal, give hugs, try distract them by doing nice things with their family and friends. He will get over it in a couple of weeks and it will strengthen his relationship with you if you can be his rock during this time. Recovering and moving on from heartbreak makes you a stronger and more resilient person, makes you better equipped going into your future relationships (even though it’s torture at the time!)