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To wish my neighbour would just fuck off?

33 replies

DoomCup · 16/03/2026 20:23

He bought the flat underneath me and moved in around a year ago and it's been an absolute piss take since day dot.

He has a small terrier which yaps and barks incessantly for 20 minutes or so at a time. This is punctuated by him yelling it's name intermittently to shush it, to no avail.

He has the loudest phonecalls for up to an hour at least once every evening - I can hear him word for word.

Most evenings/nights and every weekend since he moved in, he has been doing some sort of noisy DIY. This can be anything from loud power tools which make my floor shake, to hammering and drilling, to the slightly quieter sanding and painting.

Occasionally (maybe once every six weeks or so) he gets absolutely pissed and blasts music in the middle of the night (3am-4am).

I rent and I think my only option is to move. I've been here for years and had several tennants live in that flat before it was sold - guitarists who practiced loudly but at reasonable times, a young couple with a baby who I could often hear crying or them bickering, the last one liked to yell at the tv when there was football on - all of which were a bit annoying but not intrusive or beyond what might be expected when living in a flat.

I doubt the police will be interested and I know that other neighbours have chapped his door and complained face to face but it doesn't seem to have changed things.

I have heard him being aggressive over the phone when drunk so a bit wary of pissing him off as I'm a lone female.

One night I lost it and thumped the floor repeatedly with a broom until he took the hint but I don't think that's a long term solution.

OP posts:
Latenightreader · 16/03/2026 21:22

I think now is the time to reignight your childhood ambition and learn tapdancing. What a shame that work pressures mean practicing 5-6am.

SquallyShowersLater · 16/03/2026 21:18

If you can hear his phone calls word for word then the problem is not with him, it's with the noise insulation in your flat. You need to speak to the LL and if he won't do anything then just move and be thankful you don't have to try and sell the place.

4wardlooking · 16/03/2026 21:13

@DoomCup the DIY will eventually stop but the dog yapping and his loud voice booming on the phone won’t, some men’s voices just travel.

If he’s bought the place, he’s staying put for the foreseeable, so you’ll have to move to get some peace.

SapphOhNo · 16/03/2026 20:56

Surely you can win the noise games given you're the flat above. Invest in some clogs.

AcquadiP · 16/03/2026 20:54

It's possible he doesn't appreciate how much noise travels between the flats so I'd be imitating what he does, preferably when he's asleep. Loud music in the middle of the night? Put your radio on top volume before you go to work for an hour. Jazz Fm is a good choice, I used this successfully with a noisy neighbour. You can download mp3s of dogs barking and create a loop. I'd go with German Shepherd as their bark is very loud.
Hammer a very large nail into the wall and periodically hammer on it for 5 minutes. If none of this works, he's an inconsiderate twat who doesn't care and you'd be better off moving.

FishFingerFred · 16/03/2026 20:49

This is why I could never live in a flat — sorry not helpful!

DoomCup · 16/03/2026 20:44

My flat is well carpeted throughout and I use rugs where there is space.

I could complain to my landlord but not sure what he could do since the guy underneath owns his flat - which also means he probably doesn't plan on moving any time soon.

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ProseccoPie · 16/03/2026 20:31

Thicker carpet on your floors, and earplugs!!
Either that or move out……
Is there a landlord you can complain to?