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AIBU to complain again about sandwich shop manager.

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StressedOutButProudMama · 16/03/2026 20:03

AIBU to be annoyed at new Sandwich shop manager . So for years we've used the same Shop for sandwiches (a well known firm) and me and my son get two half white subs. I have issues with texture due to autism and prefer softer bread and my son prepares harder bread. So for years we've always asked for the the roll to be sliced and two bottoms used for my sub and two tops for my son's. I'll then add chicken mayo and cheese and my son tuna mayo and cheese. Staff had no issue as they are charging same amount because we both have a 6 inch sub roll it's just the tops are switched with each other. So essentially it's one 12" sub cut in half and the tops switched, I have the two bottoms he has the two tops. I'll say nothing about the staff who worked there up until now they are fantastic.

But yesterday we went in and there is a new manager. The girl who usually serves us started to swap the tops but was stopped. The manager insists that if we want two bottoms and two tops then we'd each have to buy a 12" and discard the half of the bread that's wasted. No amount of pointing out that we were paying for the whole sub anyway and were just a asking that she swap the tops over would register. She was adamant that we should have been served for a 12" every sandwich before then and that we'd effectively been getting freebies for years⁶⁸⁸. Even the normal staff tried to explain. But she wouldn't have it. Her other suggestion was that we dismantle our sandwiches after purchase and do it ourselves. Again tried to explain that it doesn't work like that with autism my son won't touch the bread once it comes into contact with chicken and I certainly don't want my chicken tasting of tuna. Well we ended up leaving and travelling a town away to get the same at another subway. (No issues there, and they gave us contact details for corporate)
So I emailed the firm asking why they had managed to do it so long but now the manager couldn't. Had a lovely call follow from them and was told they'd ensure the new manager was spoken too and would serve as normal after that they'd be advised that the method she suggested of buying a 12" each isn't acceptable as it would lead to unnecessary waste and overcharging us, when we only wanted a 6" and they should in fact give me two bottoms even if I wasn't swapping with my son if I requested it, because customers have ultimate choice of bread and filling.
So today we returned hoping that this manager was at least a little apologetic or would act as if nothing had happened. Instead she almost threw our sandwiches together while berating me for wasting corporates time and that insisted that clearly I had talked corporate into getting a freebie because they only value me because they believe the customer is always right, but she disagreed with that decision and she wasn't afraid to tell me and I shouldn't expect service with a smile when I'm taking advantage of the firm. AIBU if I went back to corporate because this woman is impossible. Even her staff asked her to stop but she ignored them. She isn't much nicer with them from what I have observed and much as I don't wish to stop going there because the other staff are lovely and it's a massive break in our routine,. But I really don't wish to deal with her much more.

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OntheOtherFlipper · 19/03/2026 04:57

JMSA · 19/03/2026 04:51

Totally 🙄
Oh, to have all that time on my hands!

Well, you could save some precious time by not commenting on posts like these 😊

JMSA · 19/03/2026 04:51

sugarshales · 16/03/2026 20:23

All this over a sub.

Totally 🙄
Oh, to have all that time on my hands!

Zanatdy · 19/03/2026 04:43

Yes, they should know, terrible way to speak to you.

canisquaeso · 19/03/2026 03:42

Why is she going to bat for a company that probably pays her nearly fuck all

Everything about this story is annoying

HumbleStumble · 19/03/2026 02:38

6 or 12 inch subs at a well known firm for making sandwiches who have another branch called Subway... I think I have an inkling of where you went OP

SummerFrog2026 · 19/03/2026 01:38

FruitFlyPie · 18/03/2026 23:56

She sounds horrible but would you want to go back to that store? I wouldn't. Life's too short, just go to another store.

Well she does because it's convenient & she likes the other staff, just not this new twst.

@StressedOutButProudMama

ignore the rude posters.

definitely reply to the email that was sent to you & tell them whst happened today. Not only for you, but also for the poor staff who are having to tolerate this stupid & rude woman!

ItsGooodToTalk · 19/03/2026 01:29

Not only is she an idiot, but her behaviour is incredibly unprofessional, so a complaint here is more than justified.

KitTea3 · 19/03/2026 01:28

She sounds like she's not a great manager or people person 😳

At the end of the day, you had some kind of long standing arrangement and they were happy and able to accommodate it. And it seems like this has only changed since she started. You've already complained and if it's within the remit of company policy and she's been reprimanded it shouldnt still be an issue. Her attitude sounds bad tbh.

My own work have a policy that we can't make sandwiches during the busiest period of the day. We don't have the staff spare and have to serve customers. . And it's company policy not to do so. But that's always been explained. I did once have a customer ask me to make one and add on extra ingredients. Unfortunately as we are not subway we can only, due to allergen etc and all the costing and make up guides, remove ingredients and not add them. One woman was insistent that I was in the wrong and that "other shops do it". I tried to politely explain it was company policy and tried to offer an alternative. She still wasnt happy.

Luckily for me my area manager was actually visiting that day so when she asked to speak to management I brought in the area manager. Who also tried her best to explain what the policy was..and then she kicked off even more and said other shops do it so we should to. At which point my area manager asked which shops were doing that and told her she'd make sure the training and staff were up to date.

Sorry waffled a bit there (my meds have worn off 🫠🙃)

But back on topic I don't think you'd be in the wrong or unreasonable to put in another complaint

CassandraCan · 19/03/2026 01:05

You seem to have a lot of time on your hands. Make your own subs?

Itsabingthin · 19/03/2026 00:16

Sounds very irritating all round

FruitFlyPie · 18/03/2026 23:56

She sounds horrible but would you want to go back to that store? I wouldn't. Life's too short, just go to another store.

Wholelottawoman · 18/03/2026 23:50

She’s disrespectful to customers, staff members and corporate team (and a petty bitch) - she shouldn’t be a manager. I think you 100% need to complain again x

Miaminmoo · 18/03/2026 23:36

She needs to get a different job - she’d do well as a doctors receptionist (joking before you all start)

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 16/03/2026 22:20

They are so in the wrong job. Complain again, they sound like a nightmare to customers and staff.

ThisMustBeMyDream · 16/03/2026 22:04

ExitPursuedByABare · 16/03/2026 20:31

Do they serve 6” sandwiches?

Of course. It's Subway. They are famous for it.

ExitPursuedByABare · 16/03/2026 20:31

Do they serve 6” sandwiches?

ThisMustBeMyDream · 16/03/2026 20:29

I'd email again with a complaint on the basis that those poor staff shouldn't be putting up with such an awful manager. Imagine how she treats them if she treats a paying customer like that? Unbelievable! I'd be hoping she'd be removed and the nice staff have their happy working environment back again!

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 16/03/2026 20:26

That another email to head office then. She won’t be there long.

CynthiaRothrock · 16/03/2026 20:25

Definitely complain again, even if your request was unreasonable (which it isnt) she shouldn't be berating a customer.

sugarshales · 16/03/2026 20:23

All this over a sub.

Holdmybeermoment · 16/03/2026 20:19

Given what their head office said to you then yes, go back to them and tell them exactly what she said to you today. Thats totally out of order and she sounds a bit thick… what does she think you are getting for free?

dooadoobydoobydoo · 16/03/2026 20:19

Please do complain again. She needs serious customer service retraining!

Flannelfeet · 16/03/2026 20:18

Greedy for money.

I dont see what the problem is with sharing the same bloody roll with your son but how you like it!! 😤.

Hope you told him to stick it up his erse.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 16/03/2026 20:15

She’s being a complete twat. How can she actually think you’re getting freebies when she also suggested that you could swap the tops yourselves, therefore clearly you are not getting anything extra above what you’d be getting anyway (I understand why you don’t swap the tops).

Poppins2016 · 16/03/2026 20:12

I'd complain. The woman doesn't sound cut out for hospitality/customer facing roles/management. I feel really sorry for her team.