To be pissed off DP has left me with his ex’s child and gone to work?

There’s nothing to suggest he’d risk job security by not cancelling his planned leave.

You’re not unreasonable to be pissed off with your partner, who it seems has dumped his responsibilities on you.

You would be unreasonable to contact the ex.

Can the SS take the toddler to the park for an hour after school?

With all the details you've included here this is really identifying Op.
Yes, YANBU.

I’d be so interested to know what line of work this is and persuade him to get a wiggle on with a proper job.

You don’t even know what his job is so how can you imply he hasn’t got a ‘proper’ job?

Depends what his job is?

A shit partner?!

Who has gone into work because they need his help and obviously values his job / security for his family?!

Or who has taken on the responsibility of another child temporarily for an ex partner who has nobody else?!

Wow. Men really cannot do anything right on this site.

Running out the door in his work clothes and only telling you because you challenged him is really naughty. He knew exactly what he was doing.

It’s one day? Am I right?

i would just make it work

I'm sorry you have a shit partner OP. Is this making you re-evaluate your relationship or is this going to be it for you now?

He has mistaken your kindness for weakness , let him know that you will bring the toddler to his work place if he does this again, it's not acceptable.

OP - I understand why you feel put upon and it isn't easy. It would have been a good opportunity for your DH to set a boundary with work if possible.

At least your DH now has an extra day of leave 'in hand'.

It's the OP's DSC's half sibling

The OP's DSC will presumably concerned about their half sibling.

If I was the OP's DH I would be very concerned about my own Dc's half sibling.

The child could die. Imagine the impact on the DH's child, the OP's step child.

This is worded perfectly.

It's one day (which you're already halfway through). If your DH going into work paints him in a good light with his employers then that goes a long way when it comes to promotions / pay increases which will benefit you all.

But yes, by all means speak to him when he gets home and say you don't want to / aren't prepared to manage the rest of the week alone so he needs to speak to his manager and be honest. I'm sure they'll understand.

I’d message any chance you can come home early it’s hard going

but also say today needs to be a one off your not doing it again

with kindness working yourself up into a lather over this will make it worse than it is

not really the point of the thread it’s quite heart warming to see people being adults and pitching in for others where others would just say it’s an EX though shit

This sounds like a hard situation for everyone involved. I would be inclined to suck it up today and have a word when he is back from work.

I think you have signed up to helping a woman out with a very complex family situation with very young children. Which is admirable and wonderful of you. Unfortunately these sorts of things do not run smoothly - 'never work with children and animals' anything and everything could crop up with such young children. I think this unfortunately is the really shit part of doing this other mum a favour and you're going to have to suck it up, you did sign up for things going wrong because everything can go wrong with these sorts of situations. What if there are complications with the surgery, you could be stuck with the 16month old for more than a week?

I would however be really pissed off with my husband, he should have asked you first, to see how you think you would cope, but is he worried about losing his job if he doesn't turn up? An incredibly stressful situation it seems. I think he needs to tell work no for the rest of the week.

Thank you.
How amazing!
Clearly my hubby is in the wrong job!
He is a qualified electrician, so hopefully I can get him out of the c of e, I feel so screwed over as a wife….thats before I get started on the low pay and crap holidays you can’t take when you want to!
They keep reporting that no one wants to be a vicar, but it’s not surprising to me having lived it!
Glad you got treated so well by octopus! Nice to know some organisations give a toss about family even if the church don’t!

Not if he's taken annual leave. He's not available. He has a legal right to that.

While it clearly isn't ideal. Sometimes work has to take priority
These are exceptional circumstances. Can't the teenager look after the younger sibling ?

The 4yo and the ex have no idea so there's no callousness towards them.

People are using the word callous in relation to PP's suggestion that OP drops the toddler back with his or her mum.

So you /him when he’s home are looking after children who have no blood ties to you at all

tho are his sons half siblings as same mum but diff dad

that’s a really kind thing to do. Esp as mum th ex is in hospital with her child which must be scary for her

yes he needs to come home and help as it’s his sons half sibling and no relations at all to you - and you have a small baby to look after as well

My DP gets 3 months full pay. At no point did they ever ask him to come in at all. He actually hadn't even worked there long enough to qualify but they have him it anyway. He also had 2 months off full pay after he injured himself at home at couldn't drive, he went back about 2 weeks before our baby was born. He works for octopus energy.

The four year old is having surgery. They're looking after a 16 month old. A baby.

I find comments like this so sad. A bunch of adults being a village to a group of children is a good thing. A bit more kindness in the world would make it a much nicer place.

It’s very easy to offer to be kind and generous to help out this poor mum whose child is undergoing open heart surgery.
But it’s not so easy to follow through when things go slightly wrong.

I say ‘slightly’ wrong because in the great scheme of things OP, your own child and your own step child are healthy and fine and this little 4 year old will be just fine too if you go for a walk this morning and again this afternoon and stick the tv on in between times.

By all means have the conversation with your DH when he gets home and figure out a solution that suits you better for the rest of the week.
If I’ve read correctly, it sounds to me as if it’s his own business and livelihood and therefore he can’t help but have to be there to keep the business going.
If that’s the case, he shouldn’t have offered to help out in the first place without your express agreement that you could cope alone with two children for a week.

You already have empathy for this mum in her anxious state, and this four year old without her mum for a week, or you wouldn’t have offered to help out in the first place.

I wouldn’t be adding to the other mum’s current burden by letting her know you don’t want to look after her four year old after all.