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How long must I keep neighbours’ parcels left at my house?

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Spring1664 · 16/03/2026 06:46

How long do I have to leave neighbours parcels which have been left at my house before I can get rid of them? I have not accepted these parcels, there is more than one notice saying don’t leave parcels here that are not addressed to [address redacted], the other houses have their house number clearly displayed, everybody has been warned I am not redelivering parcels anymore. If I catch a courier trying to leave a parcel I insist they take it back and either keep it or take it to the correct address.
The background. Ever since moving couriers have left parcels for other houses. One week I had about 8 parcels left that were for other addresses no one came for them and I had to drop them off and I said no more.
I am still getting some parcels left, I did leave one at the end of their driveway the other week and they drove past it for 2 days! It was quite a large parcel. There’s one tucked in near my gate atm and they could just reach round and get it but it’s been there for over a week now.
I would like to get a parcel bin thing for my own parcels but at this rate it’ll just fill up with other people’s.

OP posts:
Prancingpickle · 16/03/2026 11:16

CautiousLurker2 · 16/03/2026 08:23

I genuinely think it will be because your neighbours have ticked ‘deliver to a neighbour if out’ - they may even have an historic ‘if out, leave at No XX’ from previous neighbour - so they need to update this on every courier platform.

On all the platforms I use (Evri, DHL, DPD etc) I have ‘if out, please try neighbour at no XX’ so I have one nominated neighbour, and they have the same notice on their orders, so it is reciprocal. But the courier always knocks to check I am in and ask if I am happy to take it. It’s never just left - otherwise, why not just leave it on the recipients door step?

I would definitely drop a note in all their doors and say something like please amend your delivery preferences or any future parcels will be returned to sender or binned.

What a cheek!

Or what is more reasonable is that it's shitty couriers that don't read the house numbers or even street names.
I've had parcels left with neighbours, in the street over from me, and also in a block of flats 5 minutes drive from my house!

popcornlova · 16/03/2026 11:13

When I went on maternity leave last year suddenly I started getting parcels for a house across and up from me. So not even a direct neighbour. They were left in my garden too for me to deliver. No thanks to that I was not picking up a shift for Royal mail while on mat leave. Anyway turned out she had left a note to go to me knowing i was off now. Check that out

ConstanzeMozart · 16/03/2026 11:05

Spring1664 · 16/03/2026 08:20

Yes I does say who they are from and it’s a variety of couriers. I might start taking the parcels back to the drop off points if I am taking a parcel I am sending at the same time.
I don’t want to spend ages on the phone to courier companies and I don’t think it’ll make any difference as many of the drivers as self employed

I might start taking the parcels back to the drop off points if I am taking a parcel I am sending at the same time.
I would do this. Don't put yourself out, but do it if it suits you.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 16/03/2026 11:03

Have you got gates you can close over? Bit of a pain for a month but by putting the house number on the gate latch [No 15 only] you might curb things a bit.

I wouldn't be bothering with the neighbours parcel box, I'd just lob it down the driveway but to be fair to your neighbours they aren't the cause of this either unless they've put you down as a default address.

CautiousLurker2 · 16/03/2026 10:55

ExOptimist · 16/03/2026 09:01

I have come to the conclusion that some delivery drivers are actually illiterate.

I put a note right on my doorbell last week telling the courier to leave the parcel in a specific place if I was out. They ignored it and took it back to their depot and I had to drive 15 miles to get it as their next delivery day was after the weekend and I needed it before then.

Sadly I think many really do not actually read English, especially if handwritten, and don’t bother to use the translate apps because they are penalised for non delivery or for not completing them in any given day.

In our road we have a whatsapp, and in these circs would simply leave the parcel on the door step and announce in the app, ‘parcel received for Jo Blogs in error. Left on doorstep as I am out’. Then it’s down to them to come and collect it, which luckily people always seem to do. Not sure what you are supposed to do if you have ‘busy’ or forgetful neighbours who don’t collect them? Chuck them over the fence onto their property? But threatening to bin them is legal IMHO - if you have notified them that this is the action you are taking for any wrongly delivered items. If they do not collect their items, then they have technically been abandoned and you are within your rights to bin them.

jetlag92 · 16/03/2026 10:53

Repeat offenders I would leave the parcel there and pour a bucket of water over it/jump on it (especially if it says fragile). You've hadn't accepted the parcel and therefore you are not responsible for it.

Ritaskitchen · 16/03/2026 10:48

Is there a local whatapp group? If there is then you could send a to say
Due to personal reasons I cannot accept parcels that are being left at my gate.
If you don’t I would pop a note through the relevant doors and then leave it. And what @NorthSouthEast wrote

Changename12 · 16/03/2026 10:46

If your neighbours have gates and they the delivery drivers can’t access for delivery that is probably why they are being left at your house.

minipie · 16/03/2026 10:44

Actually I like the idea of delivering them to the neighbours’ drived but the WRONG neighbours (obviously only the ones she keeps getting parcels for).

Let them see how annoying it is.

CAMHShelp · 16/03/2026 10:27

godmum56 · 16/03/2026 10:17

why did you get up?

Like I said because I was half asleep and I wasn’t even sure of the time until I shut the door and looked at the clock. I assumed it was 9 or something

Spring1664 · 16/03/2026 10:18

ThreeDeafMice · 16/03/2026 09:03

If stuff is delivered to you that you didn’t order, you can tell the vendor (not the delivery company) that they have thirty days to remove it from your property at their own cost or you’ll either keep it, dispose of it, or pay for it to be removed and issue proceedings to recover the cost (if it’s something big you don’t want) at your own choice.

Open the package if you need to find out who sent it, email them, and put the package in your shed or somewhere out of sight. If they don’t arrange to collect (at your convenience) in a month, then it’s yours to keep.

I didn’t know this and I’ll give this a go

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godmum56 · 16/03/2026 10:17

CAMHShelp · 16/03/2026 09:58

I was having a lie in because my meeting didn’t start until 10am wfh and I hadn’t slept well for a few days so was fast asleep when my neighbour rang my phone asking for her parcel at 7:15am. I was so taken aback and sleepy that I just handed it over without a word but not impressed.

why did you get up?

CAMHShelp · 16/03/2026 09:58

I was having a lie in because my meeting didn’t start until 10am wfh and I hadn’t slept well for a few days so was fast asleep when my neighbour rang my phone asking for her parcel at 7:15am. I was so taken aback and sleepy that I just handed it over without a word but not impressed.

Anonomoso · 16/03/2026 09:56

Soontobe60 · 16/03/2026 08:25

There’s no way a courier is leaving a parcel outside a neighbours house instead of outside the recipients house. Not in a million years.

Absolutely they are, happened to me on many occation.
Equally every day on SM there are multiple posts asking if "anyone knows who's front door this is as my parcel has been left there" or "does anyone know a Mr/s x as I have their parcel".
Evri are mainly the worst.

countrygirl99 · 16/03/2026 09:52

Soontobe60 · 16/03/2026 08:25

There’s no way a courier is leaving a parcel outside a neighbours house instead of outside the recipients house. Not in a million years.

They do with us because our house is set back up a footpath and sometimes they can't be bothered. Amazon were really bad for this and used to leave it at our nasty neighbours. They eventually got the message that we weren't going round to collect as it would end up with police involvement and no way would they bring to ours so they had to keep sending replacements.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 16/03/2026 09:51

Put it outside your gate. And then ignore it.

If may get stolen. But it could get stolen off your garden furniture, so...

NoisyMonster678 · 16/03/2026 09:49

Put up a large sign on your door in capital letters saying that you accept parcels only for this property.

ThreeDeafMice · 16/03/2026 09:45

Thereissnowinmywellies · 16/03/2026 09:39

I was answering the poster Anapple who said to keep the parcels and open them, keeping the good stuff and throwing the rest, THAT is theft if she knowinlg deprives the legal owner of the goods by keeping them herself.

I do agree she can’t just open and keep the stuff on the day of delivery.

As a strategy, I think the right way to fix things long term is to put pressure on the neighbours by getting the vendor to have their courier collect the items. When the neighbours’ orders aren’t delivered in time they will chase up with the vendor.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 16/03/2026 09:42

We get this. It drives me round the bend as we are rural and it involves me traipsing off to find the correct houses. I find the couriers don't even knock, just leave the parcel in the porch so I sometimes have people knocking on my door to ask for a parcel I didn't even know was there. Worst case was when a parcel arrived and no one came to collect it. I kept going to the correct house but no one ever in and the parcel wouldn't fit though their letterbox. About 9.30pm after I'd had the parcel for about two weeks, neighbour hammering on the door, tears in her eyes, absolutely furious because I had been 'keeping' her engagement ring! I tried to explain that I had been down to her house on a number of occasions, but nope, she just kept ranting at me and then stormed off! If I do catch the courier now, I refuse to take any parcels but it doesn't help with the ones that just get left. I wish I knew how to stop it.

Thereissnowinmywellies · 16/03/2026 09:42

Even as an involuntary bailee she can't destroy or dispose of goods wirhout legal prodecure.

Thereissnowinmywellies · 16/03/2026 09:39

ThreeDeafMice · 16/03/2026 09:30

I don’t think that’s correct.

If she tells the delivery company and gives them the opportunity to collect the parcels and within a reasonable time they don’t, she’s entitled to keep them.

I believe she is in the role of an “involuntary Bailee” in legal terms and there are well established rules for that.

Edited

I was answering the poster Anapple who said to keep the parcels and open them, keeping the good stuff and throwing the rest, THAT is theft if she knowinlg deprives the legal owner of the goods by keeping them herself.

Tessasanderson · 16/03/2026 09:35

You have done enough.

If the couriers are leaving them without you present then there is zero proof they are in your posession.

Either throw them in the bin, leave them outside the relevant addresses or open them, take what you want and bin the rest. You have done your bit, who is to say they werent all stolen from where the couriers dumped them.

itsthetea · 16/03/2026 09:33

If she has refused to accept the parcel - which is clear given she has put a notice up - you could argue it’s been dumped and is rubbish that could be binned

i would think however it would be classed as lost property then you have to take some kind of step to avoid becoming responsible- a note on social media of the company or a note in the neighbours door and keep it for a month ( or if you do a note in ther door you could probably get away with stating 7 days )

i would NOT take the item - I would put a note through the door because they need to take responsibility

ThreeDeafMice · 16/03/2026 09:30

Thereissnowinmywellies · 16/03/2026 09:24

It would be seen as theft on part of OP if she is knowingly depriving the cfers of their parcels. They don't deserve them I agree but OP need to do things properly or she could get into trouble.

I don’t think that’s correct.

If she tells the delivery company and gives them the opportunity to collect the parcels and within a reasonable time they don’t, she’s entitled to keep them.

I believe she is in the role of an “involuntary Bailee” in legal terms and there are well established rules for that.

sueelleker · 16/03/2026 09:29

Spring1664 · 16/03/2026 07:51

Yes this one baffles me.
I have quite big signs and the parcels are still left

Couriers don't read signs. My front door opens outwards, and I have 3 signs at varying heights that state this. They still leave parcels propped up against the door.