Is this what I asked for??

And the way you judge your partners ex is really horrible too. She is raising 4 children you are struggling to raise 1.

You don’t speak very nicely of your anyone, in fact you speak like you hate everyone around you. This has to affect your relationship with others especially your own son.

What a mess.

You're NC with your mother (rightly so by the sounds of it) but send your DS there multiple times a week because it's easier for you. So you won't put yourself in the way of her harm, but you're happy to subject your DS to it?

You know DS dislikes your partner but you put your romantic life above your son's wellbeing?

And to follow MN logic (often seen when new mums are upset about not getting a card from a young child) , your partner is not your child so doesn't need to do anything for mothers day, why would you expect him to prioritise you when it's just another Sunday?

I feel really sorry for your DS and you should be working to improve your relationship with him before it's too late - he should be the priority here and it sounds like he's last on the list.

I agree. The whole thread is full of posts from folk with poor reading comprehension.

But I digress, this is another issue
It really isn't. You hardly see your son in the week and during the weekend, he spends at least one day with his nan. I assume some of the Saturday is spent with his dad. You hardly ever spent time with home for longer than a few hours.

The one day you should have want to spend quality time with him, it sounds you were relieved he still preferred to spend time with his nan and so did nothing to insist you enjoy the day together. He is 7, not 14. If you had arrange something special, of course your son should have wanted to spend the day with you. You don't seem concern about it though, you're just furious you didn't have a child free day to do whatever you wanted to do with your partner... which even brings suspicion anyway because what can't you do when a 17yo who can look after himself fully is there?

It's all very sad, but for your son rather than you.

I hear that you're angry, but is it possible that he thought you wanted a day without any demands? So he busied himself with his DS so you could just chill?

Also, a 17 year old in a room playing on an Xbox doesn't need parenting.

If you barely see your son it may have been nice for you to a planned a day together doing something fun. Maybe then he might have preferred to be with you?

Good grandparents have rules and boundaries which these ones apparently do not.

Well her partner is neither her mother nor the father of a child too young to effort in. Her partners 17 year old is similarly not one of the two classes of people who are expected to make some effort for OP on Mother’s Day - those two people being herself for her own mother and her son’s father on behalf of his young son.

Nasty! And no need.

A real sign of maturity would be an attempt to heal the wounds, for the sake of the child. How does he process a loving relationship with a grandparent, who is NC with his own mother? How is that a healthy situation? Going to counselling, encouraging the mother to address previous addiction problems and what they led to. Family therapy to open communication.
I'm not saying it's easy, but this situation isn't a good one, and the OP genuinely sounds like she's suffering.

I can see why your child doesn't want to spend time with you.

@ClownsDontHaveNipples now that he’s gone, keep him gone!

Move on with your life, head held high, you’ll be happier without anyone than someone who disappoints you continuously.

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Yes, that's certainly a very confusing situation for that young child.

Abusive parents often make great grandparents for complex reasons.

The OP definitely does not need to repair the relationship with her own mother in order to allow space for her son’s relationship with her. It’s a sign of maturity and strength that she allows it.

Wow! If I started treating my equal partner like that, he’d walk and I actually wouldn’t blame him!

The fact they didn't is very telling is it not?

Well ops response to similar query was (sic) “why should I pay for childcare when I can get it for free?”

The OP was raised by an abusive mother. That can impact on all kinds of things including choice of partner.

Her mum should be encouraging the boy to do something nice for his mum.

Her partner should be doing something nice for her.

The op doesn’t spend every day with her ds. This is a completely different scenario.

Is that not mn gold standard though? Prioritising your child over your partner?

What a weekend you’ve had. It’s for the better that your partner is gone. You can now focus on rebuilding your life with your son. Onwards and upwards OP 💐

I don't know why people find this so strange. I am with my kids every single day. If Mother's Day is a day for me then why can't I spend it in peace by myself lying on the sofa eating chocolate without caring for my children?

I'm sorry you had a shit day op.

Ouch.