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I don’t want to be thought about on Mother’s Day

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switchedoff14 · 15/03/2026 17:40

I lost my mother a couple of years ago. It is hard but life goes on. I know Mother’s Day is coming, know I’ll see my friends celebrating. That’s natural. But I really hate the multiple posts thinking of those of us who’ve lost our mothers. I know people’s hearts are in the right place, I know I’m being unreasonable, but I know I’ve lost my mother. I don’t need people or want people’s sympathy today repeatedly reminding me and feeling sorry for me. I hate those stupid memes. Does it bring comfort to anyone at all?

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Darker · 15/03/2026 18:02

Grief is such a personal thing. It’s ok not to feel comfort from other people’s words, however kindly meant, however thoughtful.

JugglingMyNuts · 15/03/2026 17:52

No it doesn’t bring comfort personally but it’s done from a thoughtful place.

JetSkiRentals · 15/03/2026 17:49

It might be best to avoid social media for the day? Distract yourself with something. People mean well but if it’s not for you then find ways to avoid it.

December2025 · 15/03/2026 17:49

K.
I lost mine last year and a few friends reaching out to me has really helped on my first mother's day without my mum.

XenoBitch · 15/03/2026 17:49

Then ignore it then. For some people, it brings comfort.

Rizzz · 15/03/2026 17:48

Yes, the basic kindness behind it does bring me a bit of comfort.

OneGreySeal · 15/03/2026 17:47

No it’s kind and thoughtful.

Blacksheepatnewyear · 15/03/2026 17:45

Yes it does. It's a day of mixed emotions for me. Im a Mum of 2 & have also lost my Mum. It's still raw but it brings me comfort to know this is acknowledged. If you don't like it just scroll on by...