To be annoyed by the volume of deleted comments which are merely mildly provocative or robustly stating an opposing opinion, rather than being unacceptably rude or offensive?

I agree. It’s hard to follow some threads because of so many deletions, and when I’ve returned to a thread - I have seen posts deleted that I recall as being completely - well, harmless.

I think a lot of the deletions are people who have multiple accounts or have broken guidelines some other way, so all their comments have been removed. It's not necessarily that the comment in question was a problem.

Surely you have come across threads where even the OP is flummoxed as to why the heck posts were deleted?

Well they have been deleted now so…

A lot of deletions are for troll hunting. People seem to find it hard to grasp that if you don't think a poster is genuine, you need to report.

I think in this situation, the deletion message should reflect that the account has been deleted. The poster I think you're referring to had posted a lot on multiple threads and all were deleted, so the threads were full of holes. Maybe a PBP, but other posters were engaging with their comments and there was nothing to suggest they were all offensive.

I was deleted last night. It was one sentence saying it sounded like the OP didn't like her husband and was there any point in continuing to be with him. Gone! But I stand by my observation.

What innocuous posts do you think have been deleted then? For each post that's been deleted, it's because it's been reported to MNHQ, who then make the decision whether or not to delete. They only delete if they think there's a good reason.

a) many of the deletions are not farcical - there's been a big rise in racist posts, for example
b) many of them are because they are personal attacks or deliberately goady
c) increasingly MNHQ are deleting those which are deemed unnecessarily aggressive or unpleasant, as there's a recognition that the tone of the site is much the worse because of this
d) many of them are being started by trolls/bots/PBPs

I doubt there are many, if any, truly "innocuous" posts that have been deleted (although it's undoubtedly true that some get deleted by mistake). Unless you're someone who thinks that 'free speech' means you can post whatever racist or homophobic or misogynistic or ageist shit you like?

I wouldn't dream of posting about a serious problem on here. I wouldn't expect to access any meaningful support and I don't think this is a secure place to talk about anything important. I'd expect MNHQ to be able to look at reports in context but I suppose it depends who's on duty and how busy they are.

When I have an actual problem, I do not mention it on MN. I think it’s more for trivial grumbles than serious problems.

I suspect that the MN crew don’t read threads for context because so many threads are a bit of a rabbit hole. There are long running threads with in jokes that seem fairly unintelligible at the outset. Some threads are a bit niche.

This is the bit I don't get. They can't possibly trawl through everything but if someone reports a post as a personal attack they have to read it to decide if its appropriate to delete or not. So they read someone saying 'you are racist / sexist@username ' usually quoting the offensive post. Yet they can't be bothered to read a few extra lines. I am all for free speech but I think most people agree there is a line that can be crossed. I think it suits MN to have extreme and controversial / provocative views so they increase traffic for advertising revenue. There is absolutely no moral compass here, they are happy to cause distress or allow misinformation spread. They also choose to not pay more staff to police it better, they are no better than the other grabby tech companies. Yet they market themselves as a helpful and supportive platform, that's what really annoys me.

You need to report it. MNHQ won't look through a thread for context unfortunately.

I have an anti vaxxer stepson who sent me a load of crap with the guise of being concerned for my baby before his first jabs. I ignored the message completely and told my husband to tell him to stop because I won't engage with him on it

Just experienced this today. The post I was replying to was an absolute screed of misogynistic insults to the women on the thread and women in general. Word for word the sort of thing you see on "Alpha male podcasts" so I suggested the poster had been absorbing too much red pill content (can't remember my exact wording)
Deleted for a personal attack. Yet the horrible post I was answering was left up.

So do I.

Imagine being unlucky enough to be poor at spelling and grammar, in a day and age where so many of us hardly go a day without texting or posting on the internet.

And then imagine being corrected by insufferable twats every time you do.

If it’s so important to them they should’ve taken up teaching.

Good.
I find people correcting grammar unbearably condescending and rude.

I was expecting the poll to be roughly 50:50, but it's currently over 80% in agreement

Which means absolutely nothing.

I have the voting thing turned off so I never see the buttons or the % breakdown, but I have lost count of the number of times I see "oops, I pressed the wrong button", and so many threads make it obvious that a poster hasn't even bothered to read the OP, so their "vote" is worth .the square root of fuck all.

Yes I find it very irritating. I had comments deleted once, I had no idea why as I didn’t say anything remotely offensive. Someone reporting me and Mumsnet kept removing every thing I said. It was very weird. I feel like a lot of the time if someone doesn’t like the way their thread is going they will start reporting comments they don’t agree with. Same as threads kept being deleted. It’s annoying

In fairness I remember reading threads that were more hole than content years ago.

Hence I have never reported a comment nor been offended by one. I think some people have nothing better to do than go looking for comments to report as some sort of game. We don't all subscribe to a moderators opinion.