AIBU to think DD’s ‘friend’ got a buzz cut to spite her?

Perhaps he is hard of hearing and thought they said they like them.

It's actually quite revolting that you think a man not doing what a woman wants is misogyny.

100%

There are certain men who go on and on and on about how women 'should' have long hair, how only long hair is attractive for women, etc etc So many stories about men not wanting their wives to cut their hair, even though their wives want to. MN would 100% be absolutely telling her she should have the haircut/length she wanted and to go do it.

Imagine if a man was commenting on which physical features his sons 'girlfriend' are attractive and why she shouldn't have changed something because it makes her less physically attractive in his eyes. Weird.

Where do fuck buddies come into this categorisation or is that the same as FWB?

The one taking a stand on doing what he wants is narcissistic. The ones making judgements on hair are the poor victims of . . . something I guess.

I can't say you over thinking, because surely you couldn't end up there if you thought too much . . .

It’s not entirely nothing but it’s definitely not something. 🥲.

Maybe he's a secret agent and had to get it done for his lastest undercover assignment.

So your DD doesn't like it but hasn't mentioned it. Why do you have a problem with it?

Not liking something doesn't mean their partner (on/off or permanent) shouldn't be allowed to do something.

I don't like certain things and people know it. It's never crossed my mind that they do things to spite me. That is a strange thought to have.

It would be better for you to keep your thoughts to yourself than project them on to your DD.

YABU for calling it a “situationship” 🤮. They’re friends with benefits by the sound of it.

You don't know what you don't know I guess.

I sometimes wish I was like you.

If I were sat around my male friend’s mum’s kitchen island, and all the men were saying they didn’t like pixie cuts in girls, I would probably consider getting a pixie cut for the first time, wonder about it, think it might like to give it a go, get one and thank them for pointing out the option.

If I were the mum of any of the people concerned I would fleetingly marvel at how life is sweet when you’re young and you can chat shit all day while other people pay the bills and go back to thinking about actually consequential things going on in my life.

The only people whose hair you get to dictate is your own and your children's while they're young. I have no idea why you'd give this head room let alone allow it to irk you. You're the mum of the girl he shags occasionally. If she doesn't fancy him with short hair she can remove the with benefits part of their friendship

I think there’s definitely narcissism at play. And it’s not from Mr Buzzcut.

Are you generally quite lonely or bored @RedBear685 because I can’t think how else you’d have the time or energy to be so over invested in something that is not only nothing to do with you, but embarrassing for you to be reaching so far over it to need validation on here.

There’s a whole big world out there with plenty of things to get involved in.

I think you’re overthinking it.
If he seems like a nice lad I wouldn’t worry.

Oh my life- get a life, a hobby, a job, anything to not give topics like this a second thought.

please confuse up that this a joke post.

you are hugely over thinking this!!!! Your poor poor daughter!

God almighty.

Now im more confused 😕

It wasn't my favourite but my teenage boyfriend had one as it was his choice and o e the raf found d acceptable

So nothing really ?
In.my day I woukd have called it a bit of a fling.

That’s for friends and having sex.

just having sex is a situationship.

fuck how do I know this?

Everything about this thread is mental.

I actually don't think this is unique to you.

I think with intergenerational living people should come up with ways to keep their privacy/have boundaries and separate interests and social spheres.

Your daughter doesn't need to tell you her exact relationship status, it's a bit odd you seeing this young man turning up to take your daughter on a "casual" date. Maybe they should meet out side the home or she makes her way independently?

Plus her friends should be a bit more formal/polite/reserved if you're in the room.

I honestly feel super uncomfortable being in the household of a family member as their CHILD seems to know too much about my personal life (along with opinions and analysis).

It's very unsettling.

Just to extrapolate: they shag every so often when it’s convenient so no regular pattern. No commitment.

I dont think you understand what narcissistic or misogynistic means
A man is allowed to get this hair cut in a style he prefers ,they are not evem in a proper relationship it has nothing to do with either tou are your daughter how has his hair
And I have no doubt you would be outraged if he tried to dictate to your daughter how she should style her hair.