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AIBU to think DD’s ‘friend’ got a buzz cut to spite her?

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RedBear685 · 15/03/2026 12:53

My 22 year old DD has a male ‘friend’ who she has been on and off in a situationship with for a few months, they were friends before that.
On Wednesday she had a few girlfriends over as well as him and were just randomly discussing hairstyles. All the girls including DD mentioned they don’t like buzz cuts and then that was that. Yesterday, he came over to pick up DD to go out and he had been to the barbers and had a buzz cut! Only 3 days after he heard that DD and the other girls mentioned they don’t like them, he got one. I thought it was weird. He had really attractive blond wavy hair and he got rid of it for what?

AIBU to think this was quite narcissistic and he wanted to spite her, could be a bit of a stretch but perhaps even slightly misogynistic. Some males often do try to put down things women like and I’ve seen an increase in these buzz cuts recently.

Am I thinking too much into it or was he being spiteful? It’s just really irked me!

OP posts:
FKAT · 15/03/2026 13:03

Bloody hell, I'm trying to imagine any mother being THIS invested in her adult daughter's minor boy dramas. Have you not got anything better to think about?

itsthetea · 15/03/2026 13:02

Perhaps he feels she is controlling?

perhaps he had already planned a haircut and barely registered the conversation ? I mean not many men pay attention to hair cut conversations

Simonjt · 15/03/2026 13:01

But it doesn’t matter what their preferences are, if they don’t like buzz cuts they have the option of not getting a buzz cut themselves, they rightly have no say over what anyone else does with their hair.

I also dislike buzz cuts, my husband has blonde hair, he grows it out and then every two years or so buzzes it. It doesn’t matter that I don’t like it as it isn’t my hair.

aBuffetofunreasonableness · 15/03/2026 13:01

Is your adult daughter telling you about these chats? I'd zone out in seconds, just say that's nice darling.

Man has haircut.

Auroraloves · 15/03/2026 13:00

Situationship?

Deerinflashlights · 15/03/2026 13:00

What is the narcissistic behaviour here? I think the girls were expressing preferences on haircuts which is allowed but dictating what haircuts men have is crossing a line.

FaceBothered · 15/03/2026 13:00

'Could' be a bit of a stretch!' 🤣🤣

So he's shagging your DD on and off and that means he should ask her permission to change his hairstyle?

Bonkers lol.

HornyHornersPinkyWinky · 15/03/2026 13:00

So wait, you think this guy is narcissistic and mysogynistic for getting his hair cut?

Can you imagine if your daughter got her hair cut into a style he didn’t like, and he took it this badly… you’d be righly calling him a controlling asshole.

JLou08 · 15/03/2026 12:59

I think you're paranoid and too invested in your adult Dds friend/situation ships.

Original poster
RedBear685 · 15/03/2026 12:59

@WonderingWanda they we’re not casting judgement, they were just mentioning their preferences, which is a normal thing to have.

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OverlyFragrant · 15/03/2026 12:58

Umm, not everything is about you, or your DD.

TigTails · 15/03/2026 12:57

Swap the sexes here and everyone would be cheering for the girl.

WonderingWanda · 15/03/2026 12:56

Why would it be spiteful? Perhaps he was pissed off sat in a room full of women casting judgement on men based on appearance. I mean, I sat with a group of men judging womens hair styles I might want to give them a little fuck you too!