4 children, no happy Mother’s Day

How nasty and condescending

Have you only managed to raise one?

Stop excusing the older kids. I bet they can very well remember to list their demands if it was a birthday of theirs. Why can’t you expect a 10yo and 13yo to be held to this? They are not toddlers. Even my friends 7yo was able to make the day special for them.

I know you mean well, but how to kick someone when they’re down. You didn’t need to add the last sentence.

They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.

Why are you doing this?

I am a single parent and I’ve barely lifted a finger today.

There are 2 days a year that I do as little as possible and that’s my bday and Mother’s Day.
If I lived with my DCs dad then I wouldn’t be doing any of it.

Go sit on the sofa and tell your DH to sort it all.

So you got the gift for being a martyr - no thanks. So keep running around after them and don’t complain.
Why haven’t you said anything? Both your 10 and 13yo are disgraceful. To not even utter the words to wish you??
I have a 10yo boy who wrote a beautiful letter, helped dh make breakfast, and bought something for me with his own money! It’s how you raise them op.

So once again it’s the woman who has to force others to appreciate her? Fuck that.

What do YOU want to do today? Get your family together in one room and tell them what you want to do, whether you go to the cinema alone, see a friend, all go for a meal or tell them they’re cooking dinner tonight - whatever. Own Mother’s Day and tell them that you want to do.

I couldn't tell you the last time anyone in this house watched an advert. Shops maybe but taking much notice probably not. I would 3xpect at 5 for an adult to still need to tell them its going to be mothers day

I never understand how no one has spoken about the plan before today. I see this all the time on mn for special days.

Weeks ago we spoke about what we wanted to do/would I see my own mum etc.. so there was a mothers day plan just like we would for birthdays, fathers day etc

In any case. Hope youre not being a martyr and told them straight what a disappointment they are and have done something nice for you!

I agree, I'd be like what another poster said - "actually, I'm having a sit down for 5 minutes, seeing as it's Mother's Day get the kettle on please as I'd love you to make me a cup of tea."

Don't they watch TV or go to the shops?

I'd check the local cinema listings and then fuck them all off. Let your husband cook them all dinner tonight and go and do something nice for yourself.

The kitchen is closed today because it’s Mother’s Day. And get your feet off the table! I don’t want to hear a word from any of you.

This is your husband's failure. Your children aren't yet adults and he should very much be the driver of thoughtful behaviour and gestures so that the children understand.

I know it's not the point and it won't make you much happier, but this year don't do anything for father's day. And today, take yourself out of the house, do some retail therapy, and leave them to themselves.

It gets better when they grow up. Flowers, chocolates and cards from younger two (teens) and went out for a lovely dog walk and lunch with eldest daughter as the others are working today.

You have to tell people how you feel . Go in there tell them you are hurt and upset that no one has acknowledged Mother’s Day and say you are disappointed after all you do for them . Your children and husband need to hear this and know it’s not ok to be selfish and take people for granted and that they should appreciate and acknowledge what they have .
Then go out buy your cushions and whatever you fancy . It doesn’t make up for the hurt but don’t just carry on in silence secretly brooding .

I have to say I feel a little like you this year.

I have two adult DD's. Neither of them live at home. I have had Facetime calls this morning individually from each and both of them said 'Happy Mothers Day' first before we continued with our chats.

However I have had no cards, no flowers, and no gifts.

My DH hasn't mentioned anything about it so its just a normal day here and I have just been sat here, thinking about my own Mum, who passed away suddenly a couple of years ago, and how much I loved Mothers Day because it was my chance to spoil her a little, to say thank you for everything she does for me, and to show her how special she is.

I also went on Facebook and saw a post from friends of ours gushing about his wife and thanking her for being an outstanding mother to their children. My family have never been 'facebook gushers' and neither have I, we just don't do that kind of thing. However I found myself feeling a little sad and unappreciated today although I know its silly. I know my girls love me, and I know my DH loves and appreciates me. I guess its just nice to be told sometimes and to be made to feel it.

I have just been on Amazon and ordered myself some pink prosecco and chocolates to arrive tomorrow.

Happy Mothers Day OP and to all other mothers feeling a little underwhelmed today.

I'd take it a stage further and do buggerall for the lot of them for a few days.

Then when you get "where's my clean shirt/dinner money/biscuits/PE kit ?"
Say "I don't know. Maybe with my card and pressy for Mother's Day?"

( I'm not nice sometimes 😁)

Well, there's your problem. If you usually "do it all", when is anyone teaching them how to look after themselves and others? Or have they just learned that 'mums do everything' and they needn't bother?

Sit down stop running round for a minute make yourself a cup of tea and in front of husband and eldest ( others a bit young tbh ) say happy Mother’s Day to me now you can do the washing up! And next year don’t let your husband off

What has happened on previous years OP? Are you normally the house slave so today is just another day? Is this unusual behaviour?

More importantly, are you going to take on any of the comments and actually assert yourself?

People treat you how you let them. It is not victim-blaming to say this. You need to stand in front of that screen, turn off the film and say it’s Mother’s Day, what have you lot done about it?

Your husband should have been organising this sort of thing for at least 13 years now. He and your older two children need a bollocking.

Because its so important to her. And obviously not to him.

So she should be vocal and active about getting things set up for herself. Instead of relying on someone else.

No-one loves a martyr.

My children are 5, 8 and 10, they all made hand made cards at school and chose gifts that school organised (parent's paid for them) it was a lovely idea, especially for single mums who don't have a husband to sort something. Why haven't your primary aged children done something in school? My husband also got them to chose a card from all of them and my favourite chocolates. They made me breakfast in bed (well my husband did) and left me to lie in. Can't believe your children's school or husband didn't do anything to help your children organise something. The older one could have got you a card themselves. It's shit all round.