4 children, no happy Mother’s Day

Well my son went out after lunch and returned home with a card and a bar of chocolate which I was so pleased with.
Dh looked awkward and said ‘oh crap was that this week?

Ds then asked his sisters what they had bought and they said they thought Dad would have bought something so Dh apologised saying he didn’t realise it was today, he then asked me if I was upset or mad at him which I thought was strange, I said I was a bit disappointed and he said ‘do you want me to go out and get you something quick? So I reminded him it was Sunday and he said well do you want something from the co-op?
I joked we could do with some bananas and he said ‘what about a bottle of wine to cheer you up and suddenly I thought of @trufflerufflesuggestion of sitting on a park bench eating a sandwich in the pouring rain except this time I pictured me sat there with a bottle of wine and decided actually I’m ok.

I did go out and buy the cushions though.

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

I certainly will be.

I intend to bring it up the next time I Facetime them. I have no issue addressing it with them although I know they will both feel incredibly bad to think they made me feel this way. But unless I communicate, then how else will they know how I have felt today.

This made me laugh as I looked out the window at the pouring rain and pictured myself on a park bench eating a soggy sandwich to cheer myself up but I know what you mean.

I did see some nice cushions yesterday while I was out which I liked but they were a bit pricey so I might just treat myself and buy them as they are lovely.

I have to say I feel a little like you this year.

I have two adult DD's. Neither of them live at home. I have had Facetime calls this morning individually from each and both of them said 'Happy Mothers Day' first before we continued with our chats.

However I have had no cards, no flowers, and no gifts.

My DH hasn't mentioned anything about it so its just a normal day here and I have just been sat here, thinking about my own Mum, who passed away suddenly a couple of years ago, and how much I loved Mothers Day because it was my chance to spoil her a little, to say thank you for everything she does for me, and to show her how special she is.

I also went on Facebook and saw a post from friends of ours gushing about his wife and thanking her for being an outstanding mother to their children. My family have never been 'facebook gushers' and neither have I, we just don't do that kind of thing. However I found myself feeling a little sad and unappreciated today although I know its silly. I know my girls love me, and I know my DH loves and appreciates me. I guess its just nice to be told sometimes and to be made to feel it.

I have just been on Amazon and ordered myself some pink prosecco and chocolates to arrive tomorrow.

Happy Mothers Day OP and to all other mothers feeling a little underwhelmed today.

Are you going to mention it to your daughters then?

No not this year, usually they do bring something home.

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

rather than get into it in the heat of the moment - I waited til the following March. And sent this a few years back. It worked.

Whilst I have your attention….

It is the first of March.
In March every year is Mother’s Day. In Jan every year is my birthday.

Now that you are all 16 & over (can marry, join army etc! 😀) I want to lay out what I think are reasonable expectations on these 2 days.

I would like cards from you collectively or individually to arrive on or before said day from wherever you are in the world. Moonpig is your friend in this. Your phone and diarised advance reminders will also help you.

Anything else is above & beyond & thoughtfulness is what is of value not cost - but it is the thought and planning - as I do for your birthdays, Xmas and so on - that I think is a minimum requirement. Ideally again that should be given on the day in question. Sometimes of course things happen beyond our control but in general that’s something to aim for.

I think you all know the dimmunition in emotional value of something is handed over weeks later.

It should also be something you bring into your future significant relationships.

Last Mother’s Day I did not receive a card from one of you and it really really upset me. It’s not how you were raised. You all have of course given me many thoughtful beautiful cards and gifts loads of times over the years but last Mother’s Day was a bit of a low.
Lots & lots of love, Mum xxx

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

I have to say I feel a little like you this year.

I have two adult DD's. Neither of them live at home. I have had Facetime calls this morning individually from each and both of them said 'Happy Mothers Day' first before we continued with our chats.

However I have had no cards, no flowers, and no gifts.

My DH hasn't mentioned anything about it so its just a normal day here and I have just been sat here, thinking about my own Mum, who passed away suddenly a couple of years ago, and how much I loved Mothers Day because it was my chance to spoil her a little, to say thank you for everything she does for me, and to show her how special she is.

I also went on Facebook and saw a post from friends of ours gushing about his wife and thanking her for being an outstanding mother to their children. My family have never been 'facebook gushers' and neither have I, we just don't do that kind of thing. However I found myself feeling a little sad and unappreciated today although I know its silly. I know my girls love me, and I know my DH loves and appreciates me. I guess its just nice to be told sometimes and to be made to feel it.

I have just been on Amazon and ordered myself some pink prosecco and chocolates to arrive tomorrow.

Happy Mothers Day OP and to all other mothers feeling a little underwhelmed today.

Fuck that, get rid.

Why are you allowing this?

Surely you say, DH, today is Mother’s Day so I’d appreciate you doing xyz whilst I watch a film with the children/ go for a walk/ whatever?

He also should have got them organised to get a card etc

I am running about a bit doing things this pm but I had a lovely walk with my eldest (17) and a film yesterday whilst my youngest (12) was at Scout camp. So I’ve sort of chosen to be doing the washing etc today. Had some lovely flowers from DD17 as well, and she’s done some gardening for me.

Now she’s doing her homework and DS12 is recovering from camp having done his on Friday evening in preparation for being tired today.

I’m a single parent to said teens though so have sort of chosen for this to be an afternoon with chores and yesterday not to be.

This evening’s dinner will be courtesy of Cook! Because I work full time in a stressful job and both deserve and can afford it!

Instead of feeling resentful and sorry for yourself I would make changes to make your children more appreciative and grateful, and your husband more considerate.

They should be excited to do something for you for Mother’s Day.

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

Just feeling a bit unappreciated about that.
Usually I get a card or some flowers which dh would have bought with them and always make the effort for Father’s Day but this year nothing.
I thought one of them might have uttered the words Happy Mother’s Day.