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4 children, no happy Mother’s Day

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bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 11:52

Just feeling a bit unappreciated about that.
Usually I get a card or some flowers which dh would have bought with them and always make the effort for Father’s Day but this year nothing.
I thought one of them might have uttered the words Happy Mother’s Day.

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Bogofftosomewherehot · 15/03/2026 12:30

It's not acceptable and this is on your husband, but equally, you're martyring yourself by rushing around after their demands for drinks and lunch.

I'd be taking myself out and leaving husband to it.

sunsetsites · 15/03/2026 12:30

bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:20

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

God, why do women feel the need for this level of martyrdom?!
No one’s making you run around like a slave for them!

Dweetfidilove · 15/03/2026 12:29

bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:20

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.

How have you responded to this? Have you set yourself up as a regular skivvy, so they're experienced in not appreciating you while you run around pleasing everyone?

There's another adult in the house. Down tools. Take yourself off for a walk, nap or some other activity and ignore them.

MyOliveStork · 15/03/2026 12:24

Have you pointed out to them it Mothers Day and that they can do lunch?
Have you sat down and said it’s Mothers Day, I’d love a cup of tea.
I would be annoyed too, but sometimes we can all do the martyr thing (done it myself many times) and just carry on as normal ignoring the fact that they haven’t made any effort at all.

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bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:24

truffleruffle · 15/03/2026 12:21

Yes I blame your husband but also agree your 13 year old should have done something. Are they a girl or boy? Usually girls are more switched on to these things. You could ask are we just forgetting memorable days like birthdays Father’s Day etc?

Eldest is a boy but the others are girls.

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 15/03/2026 12:23

truffleruffle · 15/03/2026 12:21

Yes I blame your husband but also agree your 13 year old should have done something. Are they a girl or boy? Usually girls are more switched on to these things. You could ask are we just forgetting memorable days like birthdays Father’s Day etc?

Girls are only more switched on if you teach them to be. There’s nothing innate in girls to make them remember important dates.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 15/03/2026 12:21

bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:20

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

Then tell them.
Make it clear that you’re not happy.

truffleruffle · 15/03/2026 12:21

Yes I blame your husband but also agree your 13 year old should have done something. Are they a girl or boy? Usually girls are more switched on to these things. You could ask are we just forgetting memorable days like birthdays Father’s Day etc?

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bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:20

The 10 year old has even written it on her calendar and mentioned yesterday to me that it was going to be Mother’s Day so it’s not that nobody remembered.
They are all watching a film together in the lounge while I
run around doing everything for them as they call out for me to get lunch ready and bring drinks in.
A home made card from one would have been nice but just the words or some acknowledgement would have been nice instead of just no mention as it’s just another day.

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 15/03/2026 12:11

OneTealTurtle · 15/03/2026 12:09

Your husband is obviously inconsiderate, but at this ages your children can and should do something for Mother’s Day for you, even if it’s as simple as making a card, which they are all able to do by themselves.

My eldest is 5 and she was SO excited to celebrate Mother’s Day. She made me lots of things and she has been on the lookout for a present for me for weeks until she found the right one and got DH to buy it in secret.

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I’m guessing an adult told her it was Mother’s Day though?

OneTealTurtle · 15/03/2026 12:09

bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:04

5.8.10.13

Your husband is obviously inconsiderate, but at this ages your children can and should do something for Mother’s Day for you, even if it’s as simple as making a card, which they are all able to do by themselves.

My eldest is 5 and she was SO excited to celebrate Mother’s Day. She made me lots of things and she has been on the lookout for a present for me for weeks until she found the right one and got DH to buy it in secret.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 15/03/2026 12:06

bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:04

5.8.10.13

The 13 year old should know better but tbh your husband is at fault here.

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bytheway9 · 15/03/2026 12:04

5.8.10.13

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 15/03/2026 11:57

Unless your children are adults this is all on your DH.

Smartiepants79 · 15/03/2026 11:56

How old are they? Why has DH not done anything this year.
Mine are teens. The elder has been very good and I know the younger has got me a gift etc but she is a bit weird about this kind of thing and still hasn’t acknowledged it. I’ve taken her to her sports match so we’ll see what I get when that’s over!
Any child over the age of about 10 should be able to come up with at least a card. I do find it so lazy, thoughtless and uncaring when they can’t even be arsed to do that. Sorry yours are being a bit shit. My youngest isn’t winning any medals right now either! 🙄

OneTealTurtle · 15/03/2026 11:55

Instead of feeling resentful and sorry for yourself I would make changes to make your children more appreciative and grateful, and your husband more considerate.

They should be excited to do something for you for Mother’s Day.

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