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Foul language on here.

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Lemondrizzle4A · 15/03/2026 11:15

AIBU to expect people to use less foul language on here. I’m put off by people using c , f.
Im not a prude and believe me there is many a time I’ve used the F word in conversations but wouldn’t dream of using it on here and never the c word.
Edited as deleted the asterisks - obviously doesn’t like them.

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FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 17/03/2026 01:23

JacquesHarlow · 15/03/2026 23:09

Every single poster who has gleefully said "off you go to Netmums, off you fuck!" is a bully.

There you go - I said it.

You lot revel in saying "fuck" and cunt" on here to intimidate posters who aren't comfortable with that language.

You belittle them into thinking they're not "cool" somehow by adopting the language of the in club on here.

How much more interesting it would have been to read an analysis of why middle-class women on Mumsnet seem to find the need to let it out by swearing in a "tinkly-laugh" kind of way, all knowing and asides etc

Instead, we just get page after page of posters trying to out-swear each other in what they think are creative ways, which instead reads like a long thread of people trying to ingratiate with each other.

YANBU @Lemondrizzle4A , it's tiresome and I actually agree with you.

I think this is a bit disturbing to be honest. You think someone cursing is a bully but NOT the person coming to the place where swearing is acceptable and complaining about everyone doing it? I also enjoyed the poster who pointed out what would happen to children in school. Um, yes, that’s part of growing up - you learn that it is inappropriate to swear in professional situations. If you think Mumsnet is a professional situation… I have bad news for you…

But yes, most of us grew up and reached a point where nothing^ makes us uncomfortable. And it’s interesting - I mean, no one is EVER going to go on Reddit or some male-oriented talk space and ask other males to stop swearing because it’s “uncomfortable” and “intimidating” (intimating??? Really?!? Uh, it’s a WORD, used by a stranger, with absolutely no effect on your life, so this is a weird take, in my opinion).

Are people who are “intimidated” by these words the same people who “shake and cry” when someone unexpectedly knocks on their front door? I bet there’s a Venn diagram showing a lot of overlap.

^ I mean words, but I obviously don’t include any racist, sexist, or homophobic terms in this assessment - of course those can be intimidating.

Giraffehaver · 17/03/2026 01:19

Studies have shown that intelligent people swear more so fuck off!

ThatPearlkitty · 17/03/2026 01:17

RobinInTheCrabApple · 15/03/2026 11:32

Sometimes though, it is the only word that will do.

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but what about the public that voted for him ?

XenoBitch · 17/03/2026 01:13

YABVfuckingU

We are all adults here. No one is going to burst into flame for seeing the words fuck or cunt.
And sometimes, fuck or cunt is the most appropriate word.

SnowFrogJelly · 17/03/2026 01:09

YourShyLion · 17/03/2026 00:44

Not unreasonable at all. Unfortunately it's indicitive of the type of people on this site.

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ErrolTheDragon · 17/03/2026 00:45

Vivienne1000 · 16/03/2026 18:18

So have I. But I have worked in the real world, in the NHS and education, not stuck hidden in an office. Looks like you need to get out more. I have heard it for as long as we have reported things on a system. I don’t suppose you have to database many incidents which involve real people.

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😂

YourShyLion · 17/03/2026 00:44

Not unreasonable at all. Unfortunately it's indicitive of the type of people on this site.

mazedasamarchhare · 17/03/2026 00:40

Vivienne1000 · 16/03/2026 18:18

So have I. But I have worked in the real world, in the NHS and education, not stuck hidden in an office. Looks like you need to get out more. I have heard it for as long as we have reported things on a system. I don’t suppose you have to database many incidents which involve real people.

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right given this some more thought. If you use database as a verb ‘to database an incident’ since database is now the action where are you going to database the incident? It’s a bit like saying ‘I’ll report the incident’ which is a meaningless statement if you don’t use a qualifier. So would you say ‘I’ll database the incident on the database?’ I mean that’s just gibberish.
Please make it make sense.

Forthesteps · 17/03/2026 00:14

CactusSwoonedEnding · 16/03/2026 23:16

Being pleasant can also fuck right off. You are not the police and I do not owe you pleasant. People who aren't judgy about language are much more interesting and worthwhile to be with. I do not need your approval to be happy and the sour expression on your face right now is just a symptom of the poison that has infected your soul. It is not trying to "behave like men" by living free unless you first accept that only men have the right to be free.

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"The poison that has infected [her] soul"? Talk about overreaction! You sound ridiculous

Llttledrummergirls · 17/03/2026 00:05

I'm British and database as a verb can fuck right off. It sounds ridiculous.

mazedasamarchhare · 16/03/2026 23:56

Vivienne1000 · 16/03/2026 05:22

You might be alarmed by our isolation manager. She would eat you alive! Look it up - database is a verb. Did you go to school?

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Well I’m not American, and therefore database acting as a verb can fuck right off!

BlackeyedSusan · 16/03/2026 23:49

Mumsnet self styles as 'the sweary one;' there's been swearing since it was all fields round here. What's really weird is coming onto a site with a sweary ethos and expecting everyone to change for you. This site is sweary. You can either put up with it or go elsewhere. There are lots of sites where there is a no swear policy.

We have had these threads regularly over the past 15 or so years I've been reading. And we are still sweary fuckers.

Greyblankie · 16/03/2026 23:23

You’re never going to stop the swearing on mumsnet, it’s pretty famous for it.

I personally love the word “cunt”. I don’t use it often but when I do it feels good to get it out.

CactusSwoonedEnding · 16/03/2026 23:16

OhDear111 · 16/03/2026 23:08

@CactusSwoonedEnding How unpleasant. Cannot see how behaving like a man makes you free from anything. Certainly not men!

Being pleasant can also fuck right off. You are not the police and I do not owe you pleasant. People who aren't judgy about language are much more interesting and worthwhile to be with. I do not need your approval to be happy and the sour expression on your face right now is just a symptom of the poison that has infected your soul. It is not trying to "behave like men" by living free unless you first accept that only men have the right to be free.

OhDear111 · 16/03/2026 23:08

@CactusSwoonedEnding How unpleasant. Cannot see how behaving like a man makes you free from anything. Certainly not men!

CactusSwoonedEnding · 16/03/2026 22:49

Yabu

If you don't like swearing there are other platforms available that are heavily moderated to make sure all the women are nice and kind and don't rock the boat. Go and use them.

Here, we are allowed to be honest and that includes getting angry and expressing that anger eloquently with the full range of expletives if we choose. It's part and parcel of living free from patriarchal oppression. We don't owe you "nice"

ThankFuckTheSunIsHere · 16/03/2026 22:45

AnnieLummox · 16/03/2026 22:42

Yeah. Yeah, it’s almost exactly like murder.

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ThankFuckTheSunIsHere · 16/03/2026 22:45

FFS 🙄

AnnieLummox · 16/03/2026 22:42

OhDear111 · 16/03/2026 21:39

@Naunet I don’t expect to stop it, but I don’t have to read it. Or take much notice of it. I was brought up in a no swearing house and I don’t have to get used to it in real life. Friends and family don’t do it. If DDs swear, it’s not around me but I suspect they don’t need to. Just because people do it, doesn’t make it right. A bit like murder.

Yeah. Yeah, it’s almost exactly like murder.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/03/2026 22:26

FoxRedPuppy · 16/03/2026 21:51

CUNT is my favourite word.

Same here.

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2026 21:54

Lemondrizzle4A · 15/03/2026 11:15

AIBU to expect people to use less foul language on here. I’m put off by people using c , f.
Im not a prude and believe me there is many a time I’ve used the F word in conversations but wouldn’t dream of using it on here and never the c word.
Edited as deleted the asterisks - obviously doesn’t like them.

Jesus Christ. STOP policing EVERYTHING.

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2026 21:53

ThatCyanCat · 15/03/2026 11:16

AIBU to expect people to use less foul language on here

Fuck yes.

😂

FoxRedPuppy · 16/03/2026 21:51

CUNT is my favourite word.

EstherGreenwood63 · 16/03/2026 21:46

Oh Oh has someone chimed in with 'Off you fuck then cunty chops' yet? I still chuckle about that sometimes... LEGEND.

OhDear111 · 16/03/2026 21:39

@Naunet I don’t expect to stop it, but I don’t have to read it. Or take much notice of it. I was brought up in a no swearing house and I don’t have to get used to it in real life. Friends and family don’t do it. If DDs swear, it’s not around me but I suspect they don’t need to. Just because people do it, doesn’t make it right. A bit like murder.