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AIBU to expect anything from my husband for my first mother's day?

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Armandi110 · 15/03/2026 10:03

Good morning and happy mother's day to all the moms out there.

AIBU to expect anything for my first mother's day? My baby is 3 months old so obviously not expecting anything from her, but some kind of acknowledgement from my husband that it's actually mother's day?

I am not a demanding person and would have been delighted with a hug and a "happy first mother's day". A box of chocolates or bunch of flowers would have been a bonus, but I wasn't expecting that. I went through IVF so it's been a long and emotional journey to get here and I spent many a mother's day in tears, so today means a lot to me. I've even had messages from friends and family wishing me a happy first mother's day.

My husband has not even acknowledged the fact that it's mothers day, despite the fact he is watching Formula 1 and Lewis Hamilton just wished his mom and all the other moms a happy mothers day.

He is generally quite lacklustre in life and not one for a gesture but this has got me wondering if he is even the right person for me any more. Am I overreacting?

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MyCatPrefersPeaches · 15/03/2026 10:13

I know a few friends this happened to for their first Mother’s Day. Clueless and thoughtless husbands - didn’t happen for the second! Have a word with him for next year. Meanwhile, congratulations on your baby and Happy Mother’s Day!

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Armandi110 · 15/03/2026 10:13

Needmorelego · 15/03/2026 10:09

Does he know it's Mother's Day?
It's early this year.

I asked him if he forgot it was mothers day and he said no. He's just said he tried to make me a card with AI but it didn't work out

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user2848502016 · 15/03/2026 10:12

You need to tell him, my DH was a bit rubbish on my first Mother’s Day and I was upset. It was actually because he lost his mum quite young so had never really “done” Mother’s Day and just kind of didn’t think about it - plus he’s rubbish at knowing what day it is. Anyway after that he has learnt and been better!

Divebar2021 · 15/03/2026 10:11

You’re not being unreasonable. My first Mother’s Day my DH bought me a beautiful cashmere dressing gown ( from the baby obviously). I can remember his friend did not in fact buy his wife anything for the first one and was taken the piss out of massively by us and other friends. All he could say was “ she’s not my mother “. Unimpressive. I don’t think he did it again though.

INX · 15/03/2026 10:11

He sounds pretty thoughtless.

But, hopefully you two have had this conversation over the last couple of days and you've mentioned that you'd like him to mark it in some way?

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Armandi110 · 15/03/2026 10:11

Biscuit12 · 15/03/2026 10:06

Thoughtless of him I’d say. Happy first Mother’s Day xx

Thank you Biscuit12 xx you too xxx

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Needmorelego · 15/03/2026 10:09

Does he know it's Mother's Day?
It's early this year.

Biscuit12 · 15/03/2026 10:06

Thoughtless of him I’d say. Happy first Mother’s Day xx

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