Mother’s Day - AIBU to say ‘let’s keep it in perspective’ on Mumsnet

I feel the same about it for me. But I do understand that others feel differently and it's horrible to see some mothers who want that recognition on this day not getting it. I feel for them.

Although I have missed the sandwich platters drama...

Hosting in laws who are quite hard work so not going to be a particularly great day for me. Would much rather have a day of peace reading my book! Hey ho. At least MIL will have a nice day.

Mumsnet is crazy on mother's day. It's late stage capitalism in action. We've taken a lovely tradition and made it into a consumer trap with a side order of social media pressure. People need to get a grip.

You are absolutely right that we are blessed to be a mother! This is my second mother's day after an infertility battle that destroyed my mental health after 15 years of endometriosis making my life a misery. Just being in the mum club makes me feel giddy, last year I just couldn't believe I was finally getting a mother's day, a day I thought would never come!y daughter is a gift and a miracle, I don't need a sandwich platter making by hand to make me happy I could cry with joy just looking at her! People here really do expect too much and are so ungrateful.

YANBU I think though it’s a bit more complicated than that. A lot of labour women do just isn’t recognised, the saying that men buy their leisure with women’s labour is still true for a lot of women imo. I think for some it’s only the high days or holidays when their families really show appreciation for what they do so it becomes a big deal for them when these days are not what they hoped.

It’s not the day itself imo that is the problem it’s the fact that some feel a real lack of appreciation throughout the rest of the year. If you feel respected and cared for most of the time then a bunch of flowers and a homemade card are just lovely. DD made a lovely one, a lot of effort clearly went into it.

Hear hear. Also, it’s how loved you are every day that really counts. Not how much praise you get in a social media post!

Have you just read the nutcase one about shop bought M&S sandwiches!?! I agree OP. I think though it’s a symptom of a deeper insecurity and feeling under appreciated when women go cray cray over this.