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To get DD out of a rave

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TheSassyHedgehog · 15/03/2026 01:56

We've just realised DD (17) is probably at a rave in the middle of nowhere. We knew she was going to a party with a friend but thought it was in the city we live in. However from her last location on phone, DH and I can see she's a good 20 ish miles away, probably in woodland, no houses for miles, and there's no signal now so we don't know how she'll organise to get home, plus have all the worries about whatever's going on there. We were young once though and know she could be having the time of her life but we want to get her home as it'll be getting cold. We think DH should drive to last known location and look for her but she may well be furious. AIBU?

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4wardlooking · 15/03/2026 02:30

liveforsummer · 15/03/2026 01:59

Surely there are no raves in woodlands in early March? It’s freezing! I know she’s 17 but I’d maybe go for a drive at least to see what’s going on. It’s quite odd to be in woodland at this time at any time of year let alone winter

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They happen all year round!

4wardlooking · 15/03/2026 02:29

Out of all the things you could be worried about from going to a rave, you decide to pick her up as she could be cold 😂.

She’ll be dancing and drinking and won’t even feel it. Leave her be.

wombat1a · 15/03/2026 02:06

Leave her alone, you only have a last location not a current location, your DH could easily end up 20 miles in the wrong direction when she walking thro the door.

scott2609 · 15/03/2026 02:03

Absolutely no way should you pick her up in the absence of her having asked for help or any suggestion that something is wrong, unless she’s a particularly vulnerable young person. She’s 17, not a baby, she’ll be absolutely fine if she’s cold! Does she know that you’re able to check on her location? I am so glad that this kind of technology didn’t form part of my teenage years. I can understand the temptation to check on her and realise you must be worried, but she surely does deserve privacy.

CoyGoldenKoi · 15/03/2026 02:02

Leave her alone.

If it's all good, she won't thank you for interrupting her fun. If it's not, she'll learn.

Location tracking on phones is terrible for letting nearly adults take responsibility for themselves.

liveforsummer · 15/03/2026 01:59

Surely there are no raves in woodlands in early March? It’s freezing! I know she’s 17 but I’d maybe go for a drive at least to see what’s going on. It’s quite odd to be in woodland at this time at any time of year let alone winter