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AIBU to want husband to stay awake for time together?

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Teamthree · 14/03/2026 21:56

My husband sleeps roughly 8 hours, albeit on a mattress on our 6yo daughter’s floor, every night while I sleep with our 19 month daughter and breastfeed through the night to get her back to sleep after every wake (she is not a good sleeper, never has been). If we are having a particularly rough night he will take her downstairs for me for a break, but this happens a lot less now she’s older as she only wants me in the night. He falls asleep almost every night when putting our big girl to bed at 8pm, when all I want is an hour or two together to chill and watch tv and unwind without the kids. I get cross and try to wake him up and that annoys him! I know I’m more triggered because I'm the one with chronic broken sleep, I haven't slept more than 5-7 broken hours since she was born, so feel he shouldn't be that tired! AIBU to want him to stay awake with me?

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Maryamlouise · 14/03/2026 22:12

Does he get up really early if he sleeps 8hrs from 8pm? If not and he is sleeping like 10+hrs that seems like an abnormal amount of sleep to need every night and still be tired so maybe he should see GP. If I wanted to sleep though and someone wanted me to watch TV with them instead I wouldn't be impressed - not my idea of a fun evening. Maybe join him with the early nights for a while and catch up on sleep yourself and talk to him about spending more time together and what you could do