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To interfere with the floral flow?

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WombAndBiled · 14/03/2026 15:27

Would I be a ungracious wretch if I politely requested no more flowers?

I've currently got 17 bouquets at home, was my birthday last Sunday and I was thoroughly cherished and indulged.

Today 2 more deliveries have arrived, from a couple of Dc's friends.

I'm seeing my 4 DC plus they're partners tomorrow for a big family lunch and I would imagine they'll all turn up with more.

I absolutely cannot give them all the enjoyment they deserve wth them all in bulk than if they'd arrived separately.

I'm fully aware how blessed I am and would be worried about coming across ungrateful if I messaged (my DC only; not other folk who have traditionally treated me to flowers in Mother's Day) of I messaged to ask not to bring flowers if they hadn't already organised them.

Your presence is more appreciated than your floral presents sort of malarkey?

So I guess my AIBU is

YANBU - ask them gently to pause the petals?

YABU - stop being a flipping miserable wretch, enjoy the abundance.

💐

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Vaxtable · 14/03/2026 15:42

Personally I would not do this. If they want to give flowers fine, and if there are to many how about taking some small bunches to the local churchyard and laying in graves of women (ok no idea if they were mothers) or perhaps your own mothers grave if she has one?

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WombAndBiled · 14/03/2026 15:40

Ella31 · 14/03/2026 15:37

Sorry for your loss x

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Thank you.

She was quite unwell for a while and I've made my peace with her passing.

But it's definitely one of those hard hard moments.

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WombAndBiled · 14/03/2026 15:39

SanctyMoanyArse · 14/03/2026 15:29

Wtf, why are so many people sending you flowers? Why are your DC's friends sending you flowers? Who other than your DC traditionally sends you flowers for Mother's Day?

My dad and my aunt generally buy me some.

And there's normally four or five of the DC's friends who treat me to some one my birthday and Mother's Day.

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WombAndBiled · 14/03/2026 15:37

Coconutter24 · 14/03/2026 15:36

You’ve left it to late to mention flowers, they may of already bought you some to bring tomorrow

Yes yes that's why I said in the OP I'd ask them not to get some if they hadn't already organised.

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Ella31 · 14/03/2026 15:37

WombAndBiled · 14/03/2026 15:32

Be gentle, my first year without my own mom.

Sorry for your loss x

Ella31 · 14/03/2026 15:36

Can you regift them to local nursing homes, hospitals (if allowed) ect....probably a bit late and awkward to say no more.

Coconutter24 · 14/03/2026 15:36

You’ve left it to late to mention flowers, they may of already bought you some to bring tomorrow

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WombAndBiled · 14/03/2026 15:32

Be gentle, my first year without my own mom.

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LittlePetitePsychopath · 14/03/2026 15:30

It’s a bit too late notice for tomorrow, I’d think. Not many people will be risking buying one on the morning of Mother’s Day!

Can you regift some? Neighbours might be able to appreciate them?

Bluewombler · 14/03/2026 15:30

I see, just sounded like you made up a new phrase 😀

SanctyMoanyArse · 14/03/2026 15:29

Wtf, why are so many people sending you flowers? Why are your DC's friends sending you flowers? Who other than your DC traditionally sends you flowers for Mother's Day?

Bluewombler · 14/03/2026 15:28

Floral Flow??

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