To interfere with the floral flow?

I’ve never known anyone buy their friends mum flowers for Mother’s Day?! And you say your children do this for their friend’s mums too? That’s really really odd.
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Forty plus 12 plus 2, hmm, you are mid 50s, correct?

Hi op please can you update to say what happened in the end?

If you received 17 bunches very recently, why would the same people buy you more a week later?

Agree this is an odd thread! How old are all your children?

The lady's chamber reference is from a nursery rhyme, it's not a real room!
Goosey goosey gander, where does she wander? Upstairs, downstairs and in my lady's chamber.

I doubt I'll get flowers from my own children, never mind from their friends as well. But agree that you have left it too late to mention now OP. Just tell them afterwards to stave off next year's onslaught.

I am also so intrigued by the friends of DC giving flowers - what culture or background are you from/living in? Are you very rich, or live somewhere very rural and cosy, or part of a religious sect, or on a hippy commune…?

But no it’s too late to do anything about tomorrow!

You have 17 vases?!

I would say it’s most unusual to get that many bouquets of flowers. A bunch of flowers from time to time is nice, but that many shows a certain lack of imagination from your friends and family. I’d rather have a plant I can put in the garden to be honest rather than cut flowers that will just die.

i would say it’s very unusual to get Mother’s Day and birthday bunches of flowers from several of your DC’s fringes every year as well!

Having that many bunches of flowers around the house needing seeing to/fresh water etc is just giving you chores 😂

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Sorry for your loss OP, and sending you the best for tomorrow on that front.

I had this same issue once and it was actually after my mum died - I had 15 bunches of flowers!! It was lovely but a bit overwhelming. I took some to a couple of neighbours and explained, they happily received them - worth a try?

But yes maybe too late to mention anything ahead of tomorrow.

First mother's day for me tomorrow without my mum and not one friend or person other than my DH has got me flowers. You certainly are very blessed. My mum only died a few months ago.

I mean, I'm not expecting any flowers from anyone else other than DH, but I'm surprised your friends are being so thoughtful, my oldest friend who is thoughtful wouldn't do that for me! Are you a real lover for flowers? Did you tell people to buy you a lot? I note you said "mom" in your second post, are you American, is this an American thing? To buy someone other than your partner or parent loads of flowers for their birthday or mother's day after a bereavement? I barely got any flowers when my mum died never mind for mother's day. I'm finding this quite...odd.

Also, so sorry for your loss, I'm really missing my mum so much right now. Christmas was really hard without her and I'm hoping my DH takes my mind off things tomorrow.x

Do you think for future years you could set up an account with a local florist which people contribute to to provide regular deliveries through the year? We did this for my granny one year and she ended up with flowers every couple of weeks for ages and she could enjoy them all much more as they came

As mentioned by a PP, the whole thread is a bit odd.

The OP can't have just turned 40,surely that's too young to have all your 4 children living away with partners and 17+vases and a lady's chamber

Also agree it's weird for your children's frienda to be buying you flowers on multiple occasions

Take the flowers you don't want to the local nursing home so the residents there can enjoy them on Mother's Day.
I'm baffled that so many of your children's friends buy you flowers though, that's very odd.

That is so deeply weird.

I have never heard of DC’s friends giving each other’s mums flowers for Mother’s Day, very odd and must cost a fortune!

I love receiving flowers (as long as they are things I like), but I don’t think I’ve ever had 17 bunches delivered, even when either parent died. There’s not a lot you can do at this late stage to prevent more coming tomorrow.

When my dad died, one of my friends arranged for me to have a fortnightly delivery for an entire year. Lovely, kind gesture - but I am extremely fussy and really disliked a lot of the colours/types so gave loads away. Thankfully, she lives abroad so was none the wiser.

I actually preferred receiving garden plants (hydrangeas, roses, a jasmine and an olive tree), which several nice friends sent me. I get loads of pleasure seeing them thrive.

I asked for no more flowers a few years ago. I have a big bountiful garden and I know I'm a bit of a grump but I'd rather have garden centre vouchers plants or even hand cream than sit and watch a couple of hundred quid wilt and rot. Dh and adult dc took it well and it's stopped they actually put a lot more thought in now so that's a bonus.

Nursing home would be really nice.

Absolutely don’t mention it. They will have for them if they are going to and will just feel crap and not know whether to hand them over or not.

Just enjoy them. Take some photos of them. And be glad so many people keep you in mind.

She just turned 40 and it's Mother's Day. I got a silly amount of flowers for my 40th from friends and colleagues. I can see how this would lead to a lot of flowers!