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To be upset over ruined photo shoot?

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iamjustgutted · 14/03/2026 12:33

Gutted about this.

I spent admittedly far too much on a Mother’s Day photo shoot. Had it today and was awful. Kids not playing ball at all; ds wild and charging around like a complete lunatic, dd whiny and refusing to do anything she was asked.

I know it’s just kids etc but I can’t lie; I’m gutted.

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Disturbia81 · 14/03/2026 13:02

tinyspiny · 14/03/2026 12:52

Why not ? Does nobody ever take ad hoc photos of you with your children ?

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Sadly not many men are as into photos and memories as women. It’s very common for there to be loads of photos of kids with dad and none with mum. Then you have to ask for some to be taken but then don’t feel natural.

MrsHaroldWilson · 14/03/2026 13:01

Have you had the proofs yet? They might better than you think. Regardless, the pictures have captured a moment in time, which is what photos are meant to do. In 20 years' time you'll look at them and remember it was the morning when your children were a complete nightmare, which will be far more evocative than looking back at a perfectly posed family group!

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WibbleWob · 14/03/2026 13:00

Have you seen the photos yet- the photographer might have captured some good ones?

Smartiepants79 · 14/03/2026 12:57

People are right. In 10 years time the memory of this will be more precious than any staged, smiling photo.
Photo set ups with small children are a recipe for disappointment.
Next time- book the photographer very carefully. Some are really good at getting small kids to cooperate. Find one of those.
And I would have a shoot that is outside. Or doing something they really enjoy. More candid than family group shots. Might be more successful.

JaneBoleyn · 14/03/2026 12:53

You might well laugh in the future!

One of my favourite pictures is the DC in hiking gear in the dales, smiling through the rain... with DS on the ground throwing a tantrum ! It makes me laugh every time.

tinyspiny · 14/03/2026 12:52

iamjustgutted · 14/03/2026 12:47

Wow thanks. I feel better now 😂

Point is I’m in none of those everyday moments.

Why not ? Does nobody ever take ad hoc photos of you with your children ?

ThatHappyBlueCritic · 14/03/2026 12:51

I had some interesting photo shoots with my girls and I look at those photos now they are getting so grown up and they are much better photos than I thought at the time! Even the ones with my toddler throwing a temper tantrum and refusing to pose and she had to hold our car keys to stop crying - that photo makes me smile now so I am going to hope your photos do the same for you when you look back at them. Definitely agree photos with kids and animals never go to plan but it’s ok to be sad that they didn’t and ask husband to take more photos of you with the kids when on outings. Mine has to be reminded too!

Springisspringingnow · 14/03/2026 12:49

I didn't even know Mother's Day photo shoots was a ' a thing". Although I shouldn't be surprised as some people's whole lives seem to be photo shoots for some reason or other.
Surely Mother's Day is abput your children giving you a card and possibly a small gift. And if they are too young to organise that themselves then the other parent or some one organises it for them?
Honestly OP I woukd chalk this down to experience and stick to what Mother's Day is meant to be about another year

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iamjustgutted · 14/03/2026 12:47

Wow thanks. I feel better now 😂

Point is I’m in none of those everyday moments.

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Callmebubblesdarlingeverybodydoes · 14/03/2026 12:42

Photoshoots are pointless with young children, you’re better off capturing adorable moments of everyday life, not fake smiles and attempts at hiding stress.