I have been with my partner for 20 years, never married but have 4 dcs, youngest is 6 months. It was my birthday around Valentine’s Day and I didn’t even get a card from him for either day which I thought it’s fine he’s been busy with decorating and work. Well now it’s Mother’s Day and he said to go and get my own Mother’s Day gifts as well as his mums! I feel pretty upset that he can’t even take the kids out to buy me a card, and now expects me to go and buy his mum and myself gifts.
recently I haven been feeling pretty down about his lack of interest in my life, so I could say I feel ill and he’ll just ignore me, never asks how my days been and feel like he treats me as the hired help rather then his partner so thinking am I letting the resentment cloud my judgement?
for context he works 12 hour shifts 4 days a week and has 4 days off. He does clean and tidy sometimes when he’s off but I do everything else indoors and looking after the children