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DG annoyed about pregnancy worries raised while he was gaming

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GrubbyHouse1 · 14/03/2026 12:31

(I meant DH in title. Can't work out how to edit title)

My husband plays video games to relax. Quite a fair bit to be honest. He often says talk to him when he's finished playing which i guess is reasonable as if Im watching a film or something I might feel irritated if he started chatting loads to me about things

But I realised my period is late. We already have two young kids. Im 40. And this last week I've been feeling v emotional - like tearful randomly.

I was just tidying up (sat morning) and said to him (as he was gaming - some gun game) and I said "God you know what the last time I felt so randomly tearful during the day was when I was pregnant with DS2"

And he took off his headphones and said "FFS. You've given me anxiety now. FFS. God. I cant even focus on the game now you've said that. Could you not keep comments like to yoruseld until I've done with the game"

And honestly I felt my last iota of respect for him dry up in a second

But AIBU? Or a gaming snob? Its his hobby so maybe I shouldn't be thinking out loud to him. I said I wanted to share my thoughts and maybe some support would be nice. He said "yeah well I've got my own feelinsh and im much more likely to respond better if you wait till im done gaming"

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usedtobeaylis · 14/03/2026 12:53

What is he like with your children if that's what he's like with you?

MeganM3 · 14/03/2026 12:48

My partner also games and I find it extremely unattractive. Partner snaps at me if playing on the FIFA game and seeing him play it, and how he is while playing it makes me lose attraction to him & I could certainly understand losing all respect in the scenario you’ve given. So YANBU.

p.s I don’t think it is like watching a film as you could easily pause a film, and you wouldn’t be as engrossed as they are while gaming, you’d still be conscious of what’s going on around you and the film lasts 1.5 - 2 hours.. Gaming they hide away for hours on end, engrossed, not wanting to interact with anything else. I’d never get away with hiding away for hours with headphones on having an excessive nap (my hobby) no questions asked. Never.

scatterolight · 14/03/2026 12:42

He's a man child. I don't know why men want to emasculate themselves like this and basically appear child-like to their partners. Unable to regulate emotions and being deeply engaged in pathetic button mashing fantasy role play is a massive turn off.

Callmebubblesdarlingeverybodydoes · 14/03/2026 12:40

Gaming isn’t the issue as long as he does his fair share around the house & with childcare but his attitude towards you is awful.

Take a pregnancy test and find out if you are or not, if you are, consider your options, especially at 40. If you’re not pregnant, great. But you still need to consider relationship options.

LightYearsAgo · 14/03/2026 12:40

Are you sure you have your abbreviations correct, did you mean DS? Surely a grown adult wouldn't react like that

Laiste · 14/03/2026 12:39

He's a massive immature prick and you deserve better.

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Dont have any more kids with him. Or do and accept him for what he is. More of a pain in the arse pet who bites occasionally.

whattheysay · 14/03/2026 12:37

He games all day while you look after the young children?

ProfessorRedshoeblueshoe · 14/03/2026 12:36

What a prick

PrismRain · 14/03/2026 12:34

He sounds like a total prick….a massive man child. How on earth did you find the desire to actually have sex with him three times to procreate?

TheTattooedLady · 14/03/2026 12:34

YANBU. He sounds like a selfish, man child. I would struggle to have any respect for him.

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