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AIBU to expect posters to read the OP’s updates before replying?

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RupertTheBlackCat · 14/03/2026 07:49

The reason for my title is that I'm getting increasingly frustrated with posters who clearly have not read all the preceding posts by the original author of the thread. There is a recent one about Mothering Sunday that is a classic example - the poor (and extremely patient!) OP is having to repeat the same points over and over and over and over..... again, simply because contributors have not read all her posts.

Now, I entirely appreciate that it's not always possible to read every post on a thread - of course not! - but surely it's possible (and, I would say, essential) to read every post by the initiator of the subject before making a response.

So, AIBU? Or is it okay to just launch in without reference to the opening poster's actual situation?

OP posts:
HesarealJacquelineHigh · 14/03/2026 08:03

Doggymummar · 14/03/2026 08:02

It's exactly what she it talking about 🤣

I think (or at least hope) that poster was making a joke

Doggymummar · 14/03/2026 08:02

Sskka · 14/03/2026 08:01

Have you read the Mothering Sunday one? It’s like this.

It's exactly what she it talking about 🤣

Sskka · 14/03/2026 08:01

Have you read the Mothering Sunday one? It’s like this.

Springisspringingnow · 14/03/2026 08:01

This is a frequently expressed annoyance OP.

It's guaranteed that when a thread gets a large number of replies people jump in without having read any of the OP's updates and totally oblivious to the fact the situation has moved on and developed since the opening post. Then you get repeated annoyed responses to the late comers telling them to " read the thread"

It's farcical. Why posters can't read the OP's updates before they comment is a mystery to me. But I don't see what can be done about it

somanychristmaslights · 14/03/2026 08:00

Yeah it’s annoying. That’s what the filter button is for so you can read just the Ops posts!

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