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AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?

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Alcoholtakingherlife · 14/03/2026 03:28

I don't mind little hair bows on small children, massively dislike Jojo bows though. My pet hate is those huge oversized bows that grown women wear. I never say anything in real life but why? A huge black or navy coloured bow perched at the back of your head? Nope from me. I know it's fashion but they really irritate me to be honest. Anyone else?

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TheChosenTwo · 14/03/2026 07:13

I really like them 😂
I don’t know why as they’re rather twee (not meant as an insult I just can’t think of a better word) - I don’t have one because I think it would look silly on my head but I do think they look quite sweet really.
mind you I saw them everywhere at Christmas and then not since so perhaps they’re more seasonal around here?

Riapia · 14/03/2026 07:12

It’s one of life’s greatest mysteries, other people liking things that I find ridiculous. 😉

Ohmygeorgey · 14/03/2026 07:10

People get all worked up on threads like these about being “judgy” and “what’s it to do with you”, but people are allowed to express opinions and have conversations. It’s not something to be offended by.

I have mixed feelings on them. I think they look nice in the pictures up thread but would never wear one myself, I’d feel like a total prick.

I do absolutely hate a bow on a baby though. People only put them on so everyone knows it’s a girl and I think they are ugly, probably uncomfortable and pose a slight danger in some cases. I saw one the other day and the bow was literally as big as the babies head. Tragic.

GodSaveTheClean · 14/03/2026 07:09

I’ve seen half up, half down hair with a small bow or a messy bun with a small bow at the side look pretty on adult women. Must be the way they wear it!

I’ve never seen a JoJo bow on an adult though.

LadyVioletBridgerton · 14/03/2026 07:08

I just don’t care 🤷‍♀️ Don’t go to DisneyWorld then, everyone there, adults and kids alike, are sporting Minnie Mouse ears. I myself have 7 very fetching pairs and don’t care if anyone calls me a Disney adult.

hazelnutvanillalatte · 14/03/2026 07:05

Why does a baby need any decorating?

Not everything we do in life is a 'need'...

StarlightLady · 14/03/2026 06:53

YABU because it has no impact on anyone else.

I don’t like dungarees nor trousers worn with skirts or dresses. So l don’t wear either. Simples!

SpanThatWorld · 14/03/2026 06:49

I wore big hair bows in the 1980s.
Now i have a pixie cut which is shaved on one side.

Bodily autonomy. You do you.

muddyford · 14/03/2026 06:42

Better than the single huge artificial flowers strapped to the head, on children or adults.. The velvet bow looks quite elegant.

youalright · 14/03/2026 06:38

Mmmchocolatebuttons · 14/03/2026 04:52

I've never seen a huge hair bow on an adult woman.

I came to say the exact same thing

Thesnailonthewhale · 14/03/2026 06:37

PollyBell · 14/03/2026 04:00

Why does a baby need any decorating?

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Why does anyone need decorations?

Get rid of all piercings, jewellery, hair styles, tattoos, make up...

CrochetGrannySquare · 14/03/2026 06:31

These were very fashionable in the eighties. It doesn't perturb me what other women wear in their hair. In fact, sometimes I find myself being pleasantly surprised by what some might term 'eccentric' dressing.

Coverofstars · 14/03/2026 06:07

I think those shown in the picture posted above look very elegant, especially the low bun and ribbon. Its a trend I like alot. Might get one today.

Charlize43 · 14/03/2026 06:06

Agree.

They give me a Baby Jane Hudson vibe.

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Vivienne1000 · 14/03/2026 06:04

It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. But then I work in a school, so I am used to strange accessories…

WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 14/03/2026 06:02

The people I’ve seen wearing them look really nice. Enough so that I think about wearing one myself but when I go to buy or imagine myself with one in, i think about how silly it would look on me because I’m not of that style. Have you tried being less judgy?

RawBloomers · 14/03/2026 05:45

Like many things I dislike that are a matter of taste, I silently think "Why?". But at the same time, I realise people are different and it would be pretty dull if we all had the same taste.

JellyComb · 14/03/2026 05:43

Around where we live there are loads of people in a religious cult that all wear Alice bands and huge bows. They’re the only people I see with them.

Nsky62 · 14/03/2026 05:32

Alcoholtakingherlife · 14/03/2026 03:45

Agreed although o dislike headbands on babies less for some reason.

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Me too

Malasana · 14/03/2026 05:30

Then don’t wear them.

magicscares · 14/03/2026 05:27

Ha, I love them. Think those lovely velvet bows are gorgeous, especially around Christmas. Might go & buy myself one later today, I’m in my 40s 😊.

Mmmchocolatebuttons · 14/03/2026 05:15

GarlicFound · 14/03/2026 05:07

For everyone going around with their eyes shut ...

My eyes are open, but apparently this just isn't a thing in my area.

GarlicFound · 14/03/2026 05:07

For everyone going around with their eyes shut ...

AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?
AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?
AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?
AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?
AIBU to really not like hair bows on grown ups?
GarlicFound · 14/03/2026 04:59

I don't like it either, OP. I can see it looks good at times, even elegant, yet it gives me a creepy feeling. I am definitely being unreasonable, but there it is.