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To think postmen etc should not be allowed to deliver parcels to neighbours without explicit permission

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Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:13

it's insane in 2026 this isn't a country village in a miss marple

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Friendlygingercat · 14/03/2026 00:13

I was expecting a parcel from Royal Mail on wednesday but the driver lied and said no one was in. CCTV on both sides of my house and no sign of a delivery van at that time. Reordered delivery for friday. Package arrived thrsday at 8pm! Go figure. Left a thumbs down revue.

ilovesooty · 14/03/2026 00:11

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You confiscate deliveries you disapprove of and you gossip online about people who don't open their curtains early enough?

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 14/03/2026 00:10

ElenOfTheWays · 14/03/2026 00:09

You sound insufferable and I bet all your neighbours hate you.
(Really hoping this was satire/sarcasm - but it can be so hard to tell online)

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I agree with you! I. Really hope Bernad is joking!

ElenOfTheWays · 14/03/2026 00:09

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You sound insufferable and I bet all your neighbours hate you.
(Really hoping this was satire/sarcasm - but it can be so hard to tell online)

ElenOfTheWays · 14/03/2026 00:05

Jossse · 13/03/2026 23:50

Buy a big delivery box, screw it to your wall … happy days

My mum got one of those. The postman never uses it.
Hopeless!

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 14/03/2026 00:05

I wish all the delivery companies would leave my parcels with my neighbour as requested if I'm not in. I'm sick of them being stolen from my doorstep.

ilovesooty · 14/03/2026 00:02

Zingy123 · 13/03/2026 22:27

It costs a fortune to keep redelivering each time. If no safe place is specified we try the neighbours.

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If you know you're going to be getting a parcel surely it's not hard to specify what delivery options you want / choose a safe place.

BernardNW · 14/03/2026 00:01

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NotMeAtAll · 13/03/2026 23:57

My postie and couriers usually leave stuff in my recycling bin if I'm not home. I hope they never deliver to my packages to my neighbours from Hell. Amazon sometimes leave packages outside my front door. I live in a city and luckily nothing has been stolen (yet).

beencaughttrollin · 13/03/2026 23:56

notmuchtoit · 13/03/2026 22:26

What?

You think your neighbours are wanking over your Amazon delivery?

Oh, bro. Sit down, take a deep fortifying breath, and google Epstein.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 13/03/2026 23:56

Zingy123 · 13/03/2026 22:21

If people were in when we tried to deliver we wouldn't need to.

A female postie.

Yeah, because we're mind readers who know exactly what date and time you're gonna show up. Get a reality check. Oh and next time your employer emails me that a delivery is out for delivery that day, please actually deliver it that day when I've waited in all day long for it, and not the next fucking day instead.

Jossse · 13/03/2026 23:50

Buy a big delivery box, screw it to your wall … happy days

SugarPuffSandwiches · 13/03/2026 23:46

Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:24

Clearly you live in 1952

A lot of people live next to someone on the sex offenders register these days

"Hiya Wayne I think you've got my parcel?"

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Bloody hell, bit of an overreaction 😂

3678194b · 13/03/2026 23:44

For Royal Mail our designated 'safe place' is the step. I also have a note saying leave parcel on step and the doorbell camera plays the same message. Our door can't be seen from the road and we're on a quiet road. So ours are never left with neighbours.

So most companies will leave on doorstep if no one home. There is only one, I think it may be Yodel, who refuse to do this.

Strandlover · 13/03/2026 23:42

Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:19

Most of them leave it on my doorstep WHICH IS WHAT I WANT

I don't want the haunting stress of sheepishly going around to my neighbours to get it

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Leaving it on my doorstep is exactly WHAT I DON'T WANT! There for anyone to steal and advertising that the house is empty. Much rather it went to one of my lovely neighbours.

IDontHateRainbows · 13/03/2026 23:39

Zingy123 · 13/03/2026 22:21

If people were in when we tried to deliver we wouldn't need to.

A female postie.

If you delivered when I was expecting it and not several days later, I probably would have been in.

Anyahyacinth · 13/03/2026 23:38

Wow I didn’t realise my northern city was Miss Marple territory….my kind neighbours take parcels and I do for them. No issue. FAR better than going to the depot

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Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 23:32

Zingy123 · 13/03/2026 23:29

Your front step is not a safe place. I would lose my job if I just dumped your parcel there. What you are asking is not reasonable.

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Everyone else does it. It's safer than making me go and ask a stranger to give it to me. Take it back to the van otherwise.

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Happyjoe · 13/03/2026 23:31

Zingy123 · 13/03/2026 22:21

If people were in when we tried to deliver we wouldn't need to.

A female postie.

My heart sinks now when I have a parcel from RM. It takes all day, from 7am to 7pm and often half way through the day I will suddenly get an email to tell me it's out for delivery....
So I duly sit indoors if lucky enough to see the unexpected email, changing my plans occasionally, for it not to arrive.

I never thought I'd ever say this - Evri are better than RM around my neck of the woods. Sorry female postie!

Zingy123 · 13/03/2026 23:29

Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:45

My safe place is my front step. Some delivery people ignore this. I think it should be a criminal offence to deliver private correspondence to the wrong address without explicit instruments to do so.

As it is I've had to resort to a thumbs down review

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Your front step is not a safe place. I would lose my job if I just dumped your parcel there. What you are asking is not reasonable.

Happyjoe · 13/03/2026 23:26

Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:19

Most of them leave it on my doorstep WHICH IS WHAT I WANT

I don't want the haunting stress of sheepishly going around to my neighbours to get it

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Try this?
https://www.royalmail.com/personal/receiving-mail/delivery-to-neighbour-opt-out

I did it when moved temporarily away. Then you can either rearrange delivery or go collect from sorting office.

notatinydancer · 13/03/2026 23:09

Agree. I had a card saying my parcel was left at a number that doesn’t exist. I went to the houses with the next numbers - all denied all knowledge. No one has dropped anything round. I wish they’d take it back to the sorting office like they used to.

DappledThings · 13/03/2026 23:07

I'd far rather walk 10 metres at a convenient time to collect a parcel from a neighbour than have to rearrange delivery or schlep half an hour into town at weird hours during work time to the sorting office.

JTRSOP · 13/03/2026 23:06

I haven’t had a parcel left with a neighbour since before Coronavirus. Or had one left with me. They always leave them by our front door or in our back garden.

WallaceinAnderland · 13/03/2026 22:58

The alternative is return it to the sorting office for collection. Thats a lot more inconvenient for everybody IMHO.

You just write NATA on the envelope and stick it in the post box. You don't need to go to the post office or sorting office.