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To think postmen etc should not be allowed to deliver parcels to neighbours without explicit permission

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Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:13

it's insane in 2026 this isn't a country village in a miss marple

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SugarPuffSandwiches · 14/03/2026 01:48

What? This is batshit 😂
What do you mean, you " confiscate parcels"? What are you, the Parcel Police?!
It sounds like you open some of them too, as they "intrigue you?"

I believe @BernardNW is actually Martin from Ever Decreasing Circles.

Missey85 · 14/03/2026 02:26

Their not allowed to here in Australia if nobodys home it goes back to the post office and they leave a card to collect it from there 💕

MarxistMags · 14/03/2026 02:17

@BernardNW I hope your neighbours hang their washing out in an orderly fashion with colour coordinated pegs ?

nomas · 14/03/2026 01:58

Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:22

if I were in whenever you were delivering I would be unemployed and unable to buy the things to be delivered

Do not leave my private shit with randoms and don't ask me to take the private shit or randoms

No one wants to be constantly re-delivering your shit for your £3.99 delivery fee for your fast fashion tat.

Either be home for your shit or get it delivered to your work address or a Click and Collect to a shop.You can’t get it on your doorstep every time.

You are expecting DHL type service for your measly fee. The first time you’re doorstep robbed you’ll be complaining to the shop.

SugarPuffSandwiches · 14/03/2026 01:48

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What? This is batshit 😂
What do you mean, you " confiscate parcels"? What are you, the Parcel Police?!
It sounds like you open some of them too, as they "intrigue you?"

Tetchypants · 14/03/2026 01:47

Maybe it should be the case that if you want things leaving on your doorstep in plain view of passers by, you accept liability if the parcel is stolen. I don’t think it’s fair that the delivery firms should have to cover the cost of missing parcels, if the customer has taken that risk.

SugarPuffSandwiches · 14/03/2026 01:43

MarxistMags · 14/03/2026 01:40

Are you all insane ? It's a parcel not an Atom Bomb.
I don't mind at all taking in a neighbour's parcel. If you're not at home then make a safe place for it to be left in.
It's nice to be, ahem, neighbourly.
I also take my neighbour's bins in. Is that allowable ?

I agree, I take in parcels sometimes too - as you say, it's nice to be neighbourly.
Had about 3 the other day, joked to DH "looks like the bloody parcel depot in here this afternoon" 😁

MarxistMags · 14/03/2026 01:40

Are you all insane ? It's a parcel not an Atom Bomb.
I don't mind at all taking in a neighbour's parcel. If you're not at home then make a safe place for it to be left in.
It's nice to be, ahem, neighbourly.
I also take my neighbour's bins in. Is that allowable ?

ilovesooty · 14/03/2026 01:29

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This has to be a joke.

InterestedDad37 · 14/03/2026 01:04

Thinking about it, since 1989, I've had 6 addresses, and in all of those, I've known my neighbours, and would have trusted them to take delivery of my drugs illicit items French cheese parcels.

ElenOfTheWays · 14/03/2026 00:46

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I don't have any neighbours as such. I live on my own private estate.

You may consider me "undesirable" but you will never have to concern yourself with my presence in your little "cul-de-sac"

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 14/03/2026 00:46

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What about night staff? Are they allowed their curtains closed during the day? Or when it's really hot and that's actually recommend to keep the house cool?

Not that you're being serious of course.

Elliania · 14/03/2026 00:40

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You don't have awful neighbours because you ARE the awful neighbour.

BernardNW · 14/03/2026 00:38

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Nipnap · 14/03/2026 00:38

It dont bother me at all, i take some parcels in and give them to the neighbour when they come ask for them.
They have done it for me it dont happen all the time maybe every few months.
Lifes to short and the world is full of drama to worry over a parcel coming to my door for the neighbour.

ElenOfTheWays · 14/03/2026 00:37

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Yeah. They hate you. Guaranteed. 😂
Anyway, what are you doing up so late? Gotta get those Zs in so you can be up bright and early for the spying. It's downright decadent to be up past midnight.

TomBaileysFlyingGoggles · 14/03/2026 00:33

I don't appreciate parcels being left in front of my door, in full view of anyone passing by. I don't consider it a safe space. And Amazon just drop it there and ring door bell, not waiting to see if anyone answers! I always text back to say it has not been securely delivered and I don't accept responsibility for the parcel. My postman and other couriers always use either my recycling bin or drop to neighbours if it needs to be signed for. I have lovely neighbours, they all accept my parcels if in, as I accept theirs. I work from home three days a week, I'm happy to take in a parcel or two.

BernardNW · 14/03/2026 00:33

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Elliania · 14/03/2026 00:32

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Why do you think you have the right to confiscate people's deliveries that don't meet your standards? You understand this is theft yes?

Also you do realise tampering (i.e opening) deliveries is illegal if they aren't for you?

So you've confessed to two potential crimes - maybe you'd better step down from heading the Neighbourhood Watch.

BernardNW · 14/03/2026 00:29

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lilybit2025 · 14/03/2026 00:23

Can't believe people are complaining about this. If they left it on the front door step you'd be equally as peed off, it's better to leave with a neighbour than for someone to rob it in daylight. My entire estate take parcels in for each other, it's never even crossed my mind to be pissed off with a delivery driver for doing so.

Friendlygingercat · 14/03/2026 00:22

My curtains are blinds too. I dont want randoms staring into my house and deciding what to steal.

marmaladejam1 · 14/03/2026 00:20

I presume the pp was joking but whats the deal with opening the curtains. I never open my front curtains ( they are actually blinds)

3678194b · 14/03/2026 00:17

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Hahaha this is so funny.

'Head of Neighbourhood Watch', keeping an eye on neighbours, confiscating post, ensuring mail is ready for neighbours (?) making sure curtains are open, bins are put out in a correct and ordering manner..... Well what a laugh this is.

saraclara · 14/03/2026 00:15

Czerwonitz · 13/03/2026 22:45

My safe place is my front step. Some delivery people ignore this. I think it should be a criminal offence to deliver private correspondence to the wrong address without explicit instruments to do so.

As it is I've had to resort to a thumbs down review

Your front step isn't considered a safe place, by the Royal Mail. That's because it isn't a safe place. Do you have a garage, or it a rear garden, or somewhere else where the parcel isn't visible? I've had my rear garden registered as my safe place for years, so that's where my parcels end up.

Their site also allows you to select a neighbour to take it in/say NOT NUMBER 24.

I'm feeling that you've not really tried.