to keep him off school some days at the moment

You keep repeating this but OP has said she takes the children to a local park ten minutes away and to the local shops, then the rest of the time is spent playing with toys or watching TV at home. There is no mention of groups or soft play, or meeting up with friends with small children. At almost five her DS should have the opportunity to socialise with children other than his siblings (one of whom is a tiny baby) and if he does not he will find it even harder to fit back in to his class at school when OP finds a solution to getting him there.

Most people exercise self censorship around other people's kids but People think they can say literally anything to parents of disabled children. It's a thing. I didn't personally delete your comment but I felt it wasn't ok to say that to the parent.
if you want a philosophical discussion about the value of human life in all it's manifestations perhaps start anther thread and keep it general.

I’m not sure what evidence you’re talking about or in what capacity you worked in education but as a KS1 teacher for 25 years I can tell you that children who miss significant chunks of their education and have poor attendance are seriously impacted in confidence, socialisation and attainment. That’s my experience.

Quite the opposite actually, starting school too early can cause anxiety and lack of confidence. No difference found at age 11 in reading & writing and maths for children starting at 5.

I worked in education for most of my career. It's been diminishing returns over recent years unfortunately. The school system is not really fit for purpose any longer but political short termism means the change needed is too much of a project and commitment of funds for a parliamentary term.

No, research indicates the opposite. I'm not talking about home Ed, it's you that's 'banging on about it'

Whether school is compulsory or not doesn’t matter, if the child is enrolled then they’re expected to attend. The only other option is to de register unless there’s some sort of action plan in place with reduced attendance in place due to special needs/behaviour etc.So if he’s registered op, he must attend.

You’ve had some good advice on here op, the breakfast club sounds particularly viable. I’m
afraid you not being keen on it because you’d worry, is not reason enough to discount it as a way forwards. There’s presumably no reason you couldn’t do that some days and bus others- with a tag on the pram/wheelchair and learning to be more assertive- you’ll be sorted! These are all things within YOUR control.

Okay, so come up with a workable solution then! The OP's current morning routine sounds completely horrific. Simply saying the child must go to school, which the OP already knows isn't helpful.

I've never seen a thread have.so many posts deleted! I am happy to report you for fake accusation as you know full well that I haven't said that kids shouldn't exist! You have made up a fake and highly bersion of events! You don't keep.usvomg kids if they keep being born with mobility issues and mum has mobility issues and can't take one of the kids to school and is going to be in a situation where she's got 3 kids to get school and at least two with mobility issues but you think the more pregnancies the merrier? Really? The kids don't matter eh? Responsible behaviour os for losers eh!
If only you'd done your due diligence before reporting me! I have seen two discussions in the last several days about schools sending people to houses and grilling families of kids who have not turned up to school.for a few days! I'm talking people who have demanded to go in a teenagers bedroom to check he was definitely ill in bed, a father being questioned why he was in his pyjamas at home because he and his daughter both had a bug! On a thread I literally read today, a woman's kids are in care because one of the kids has bowel incontinence, it was a thread started by another mother whose daughter has bad bowel issues keeping her off school and the school are not happy and making the families life very difficult! And you think social services would be ok with the OP being too tired and too far away to get three kids to school every single day? Please can you stop being the free speech police! You are gas lighting the OP by not wanting anyone to speak the truth. Nothing I said was incorrect, I'm telling the OP what I've seen from other posts!

Don't be silly and extreme! They are at home for years before they go to school and you can't have this complex that you are kids need and schools are bad!

So, what’s on your action plan this week to sort your situation?

Kind of wonder how your kids will manage when they get a job if you have an attitude like this. 🤷

I mean they do in some cases. Not all parents are amazing at it. Not all schools are amazing. Plenty of room for nuance.

OP - I hope that you have been able to glean a bit of practical suggestions here. Your first question was if it really matters. The answer is yes - if you intend on mainstream schooling, reception is an important first step. So you need to decide what to try first to support your child. Personally I think breakfast club and a sign on the buggy to explain it’s actually a wheelchair gets you to a good place, but you obviously are the one who can decide. You’ll need a system before this gets even harder next year so this is a good time to try various options - or combinations of options.

Erm… they are?

“An institution is
a structured system of rules, norms, or organizations that shapes social behavior, persists over time, and serves a public purpose(e.g., education, law, finance). It includes formal organizations (banks, schools) and informal customs (marriage, traditions).”

I haven't RTFT but I did read OP's posts.

I think people may not realise the cumulative impacts of the various circumstances and how they impact on each other - you could cope with one of the issues, but not all of them. And it gets overwhelming when you have to fight for everything. You need a social worker to help you access proper support but you probably don't have the energy to fight to get one. Asking school for help may be a good idea.

Your son doesn't have to eat breakfast at breakfast club. He can have breakfast at home then your partner can drop him at school. It would massively ease the burden on you. I understand that he may struggle with breakfast club and it might not work out (and trying things which then don't work is very draining).

Things will change. You could plan out a timeline - when will DS2 get mobility DLA and what difference will that make? When will the baby stop being in a sling? (Mine was on my back for years). Is it just a stopgap until then that you need?

It sounds like mostly you're managing really well but with a few things which feel insurmountable. Can you look at what is working well and pin down the bits which are barriers?

It sounds like you are doing all the work and thinking and your DP is getting away with 'not being able to'. He really needs to take on the problem- solving as well.

They aren't institutions.

Yes let’s hand our babies over to institutions as soon as they are born. They’ll do much better job at developing them than actual parents.

You are stating the children shouldn't exist and upbraiding the parent for bringing them into the world.
"you'll end up in a battle with social services."
This is ill informed and stoking fear.
The children have rights enshrined in law , the Disabled child has a right to help consistent with their needs, as does their sibling, including the right not to be subject to this sort of degrading comment which I've reported.
It doesn't seem to occur to you that groups of siblings support each other as they grow up and your views about what is or isn't good for this family and indeed our community are very short sighted. How do you know the future?
If you read the thread you will see many different views about the value of reception level education.

OP you need a long term plan as none of your mobility issues sound like they will improve and as the kids get bigger they will get harder to manage.
I would focus on trying to get your oldest to adapt to breakfast club (feed him first so you don't need to worry about that) so your DH can drop him
Also look into DLA and PIP again so you can use taxis more when needed
Get a sign for your buggy explaining it is a wheelchair for a disabled child so buses are less stressful
Make sure you are on reliable birth control

But he isn't doing and the problem is he may have to actually look at finding a job that works less hours so he can do school runs and a part time job may not pay enough to cover the cost of raising 3 kids and that's if they have the common sense to stop any further pregnancies.

It's not a good way for anyone to be, if your relationship had broke down you would have been in a mess because you've sat at home and not worked all those years and dragged that arrangement out for longer than needed because you kept kids at home who didn't need to be. It's not something people should do because too many parents already aren't bothering to develop their kids in the way that they should in readiness for school. Also you and your kids sitting at home for years more than necessary puts financial partner for all the food, drink, heating extra electric! It definitely feels a selfish act!

And the father is not disabled, has a car and could maybe also pull his weight.
but sure let’s see if an MP can sort first and can arrange school transport as famously councils are flash with money.

But the issue is that the OP has created this situation, she has mobility issues yet keeps having kids despite the first kid having mobility issues too and a second has severe mobility issues, she lives too far from the school and has still had a 3rd child that at this moment in time is ten week old and what if it starts to become clear that the ten week old has got these mobility issues too! You don't keep getting pregnant if you already know that you can't get your kids to school. It's difficult for a MP to fight for people's bad life decisions.

Errrrr yes. That's obvious..I literally said I'd rather have them all home but gave them the choice to go to school from 6 onwards and they chose school.
Are you unable to stay home home with your children, or do you find being at home difficult? Because my comment seems to have personally bothered you and that usually means it's touched a nerve.

Sounds a bit like "me, me, me". Rather keeping them home with you than getting them to school.