to keep him off school some days at the moment

Gosh really???

Definition: Neglect is the
persistent failure to meet a person's (usually a child's) basic physical, emotional, educational, or medical needs, leading to potential impairment of health or development.

Also have a read of the best start in life research and the curriculum for reception. Children progress the most between 0-5 than any other time of their life.

Learning by play whilst covering phonics, number patterns, language skills, understanding the world

This is educational neglect. It sounds horrid when phrased that way, but it's what you're doing to your son.

I'm putting it that bluntly in the hope it may act as a motivator for you to investigate some of the workable options PPs have suggested. Easy? No. Workable? Yes.

I think DH dropping DS at breakfast club, changing his hours at work if needed, is your best option. You then just do the journey home. Or look at home schooling and make the decision to remove him from the school and educate him at home whilst baby gets bigger.

All the best.

If it’s only 2 miles how much would a taxi be just in the morning? Maybe just as a short term solution.

It does sound a hard commute when you factor in the SEN buggy and little baby.

Speak to your mp or email them and explain why you need transport for your son. I did this when I was disabled and couldn't get my disabled child to school and didn't meet the criteria for school transport. My mp intervened and school transport was arranged. My child was picked up by a bus at home. Many mps will intervene in this kind of situation.

It's not easy but you need to fight your sons corner and make a strong case for needing transport.

@tinyyturtle would not worry about reception, at all.

What are your plans when he has to go into P1 though, you'll still be in the same position?

OP your attitude is bizarre. Just one excuse after another.

You're going to have to "face" the bus journey.

Neglect, seriously? Actually, in reception, he is there to play majority of the time!

I said upthread your husband should apply for flexible working, has he done this?
Also could you learn to drive an automatic?

Apply for PIP for yourself and use the money towards childcare?

This is just a long list of excuses.

Have you considered home educating (at least temporarily)? It’s very basic at this age, only takes and hour or 2 a day (because it’s 1 to 1 so doesn’t doesn’t take all day) and would certainly be easier than doing that crazy commute every morning.

Are you homeschooling when he’s off school?

I’d take it easy. He doesn’t need to be there. Many parents don’t even send their child to any nursery or school until they are the compulsory age. There is evidence that the UK age of 5 is a bit young. A disabled child can even be deferred for a year and start when 6.

I would take it easy and work on a sustainable solution. Can you learn to drive? If so, learn and get a second car? See if you are short any disability benefits for you or your DC that could help with the costs. Talk to the school, they sometimes can help with the financial costs of transport if you’re more than a few miles away and it’s the closest/only school or if your child has mobility limits such that they cannot walk to school.

It sounds like you’re making a lot of excuses and dismissing all suitable options because you can’t be bothered.

If your son attending school also has mobility issues, what support is in place for them? If he isn’t capable of the distance walking can the school help you to access transport? Who have you actually sought support from, how, and what were the outcomes?

You need to find an alternative to not sending him. It is neglect and you are failing your son’s future success. Every child deserves the best start in life. Look at the statistics for later outcomes. He’s not there to play!

I was in the exact situation as you, many years ago, dc now 19, 17 and 15. I used to use a double buggy for the younger 2 and used rolled up towels to support ds2 to stop him slumping. There is also something that I think is called a go to seat that you can put in a buggy, swing etc for extra support. I used to either walk to school or get on a bus 2 buses earlier than needed so i had a higher chance of getting the buggy on one of the 3 buses.

I also worked out that the cost of breakfast club for ds1 was cheaper than the bus fare to school and back so dh used to take ds1 to breakfast club before work and i would do the afternoon school run.

It was really hard and I used to dread the school run. I completely understand how you feel.

Do not collapse your buggy on the bus - it’s a disabled buggy. You wouldn’t expect a wheelchair user to collapse their wheelchair.

I think I would be inclined to try the breakfast club, if the timings work with your partner's work. Ds1 may well not love it, but he will adapt, as the other children do. You never know, he might even enjoy it after a while.

Haven't read the full thread, but might DS1 be entitled to transport to and from school?

He needs to be at school. He needs to learn. It is his parents' responsibility to get him to school so if you are struggling, you need to ask for help.
(One might question why you went on to have 3 children, but that ship has sailed, so....).

Local childminders will do school drop off / collection. Can you see if there’s one close to you within walking distance that you could drop your son to easily. They could then collect for you too and you could pick up from them

Look for childcare options. Is there a before and/or after school club DH can drop off/collect from? A local childminder who can take him? A nanny? Missing school isn't an option, he needs to be in every day.
If you don't think you can afford childcare, are you getting DLA for DC2? PIP for yourself? It seems these disabilities are preventing you from getting your child to school and disability benefits are there to cover extra costs relating to disabilities.

Your son can't stay off school, it's as simple as that. School is compulsory from the age of 5. So he legally has to be in school the term after his 5th birthday. Up until that time it's not compulsory. However, you haven't deferred his Reception placement, you've started him in full-time education. I'm not sure you can now decide to change that with the LEA.

Ultimately, you have to find a solution, keeping your son off school is a quick fix. The issue is still going to be there in 2 weeks time or 4 months time. If your partner can't help, and you have no family support, then unfortunately you are going to need to catch the bus every day, regardless of the inconvenience. I would advise you speak to the school, and explain the situation.

Are there any parents of other children, who go to the same school, who could help?

Surely breakfast club is less traumatic than missing loads of days of school?

Well, your post has been deleted - and it wasn't me who reported it so I'm guessing others agreed it was nasty too.

You know, OP might well not have realised the extent of her DC2's disabilities before going for a third. Or might not have realised how tough the school journey was going to be with the disability buggy etc (which btw OP, you should not have to fold up, as it is effectively a wheelchair).

I'm not sure why you feel the need to come here and kick someone when they're down, but I suspect it says more about you than it does about OP. Do you have any constructive suggestions that might help remedy the situation?