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Class party for few discussed on class watsapp

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Chickenandegghatched · 13/03/2026 17:34

DC1 is in yr1. On the class watsapp group a mum is asking can thoose that got individual invites from 5 year old child in paper form please reply as she isn't sure the ones her child picked has received them.
Cue a lot of confusion and some replies.
Then mum comes on to say it is only for x, y, z etc. Please confirm food.
Am I the only sane person that thinks this should have been a private message, not for the class watsapp. Honestly I think its the height of crassness. Maybe just me.
Poor mums have messaged back thinking their child is invited and now appears they are not. Its awkward as hell.

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TheTattooedLady · 13/03/2026 17:41

anddeepbreathandsigh · 13/03/2026 17:37

Im saying this from experience. You need to toughen up or you’re going to find the school years hard. It really doesn’t matter but I get it can feel that way.

I agree with this.

OP, you have many years of this ahead of you. You’ll have to learn to let it go.

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Chickenandegghatched · 13/03/2026 17:41

Myteenhonestly · 13/03/2026 17:39

Let it go. Will all sort itself out. The inviting mum probably didn’t know the parents of the children invited so had to group message.

But there is a parent/child list in the notes. So could easily identify the few she has invited and message privately. I feel awful for some of the mums that have replied saying "so and so would love to come they will have the nuggets" only to be shot down in flames saying oh sorry I dont think u were meant to get the invite. Its awful

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ChickalettasGiblets · 13/03/2026 17:40

This happened in our group chat a few weeks ago, except the mum didn’t say who was invited just “can anyone who got an invitation please rsvp”. The worst bit was after the party, she sent a message saying thank you for coming!!! Awkward as fuck.

I get not everyone can be invited to everything, but fuck me it stung realising your child didn’t get an invitation. Announcing it in the group chat isn’t on.

ArcticSkua · 13/03/2026 17:40

I agree OP, but is it possible that she doesn't know who is which child's parent IYSWIM? Her child has given her the names he wants to invite but she doesn't know the phone numbers of their parents and can't tell from the WhatsApp group (because they're not in her contacts list).

Myteenhonestly · 13/03/2026 17:40

Chickenandegghatched · 13/03/2026 17:38

For clarity I didn't expect my DC to be invited when I read the message but felt awful for thoose of same sex that have clearly been excluded. It just felt so embarrassing

Had I said… is my dc invited? And she’d confirmed the list and wasn’t on it… I would have just moved on without a second thought.

Myteenhonestly · 13/03/2026 17:39

Let it go. Will all sort itself out. The inviting mum probably didn’t know the parents of the children invited so had to group message.

UnhappyHobbit · 13/03/2026 17:39

I would see this as strange behaviour too op. She’s either lazy or a show off.

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Chickenandegghatched · 13/03/2026 17:38

For clarity I didn't expect my DC to be invited when I read the message but felt awful for thoose of same sex that have clearly been excluded. It just felt so embarrassing

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anddeepbreathandsigh · 13/03/2026 17:37

Im saying this from experience. You need to toughen up or you’re going to find the school years hard. It really doesn’t matter but I get it can feel that way.