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Entitled school mum parking (with diagram)

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OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 15:51

I will probably get flack for this but this is the second time this has happened in as many days. I get to school pick up early, parked my car noone in front and another car few metres behind. Another car comes and parks a few metres ahead. Another one comes and parks in between me and car ahead. Plenty of room to leave her car also bang in middle of both, but no she has to move her car as near to my bumper as possible. I move car back and she moves her car forward again right on top of my bumper. I beep my horn, she gets out of car asking why I did that, I said cos you've parked as near to me as possible, she says there's a load of room behind you, I said what if someone parks the same behind, then I'll move back she said (bear in mind she was leaving her car) and everyone's happy except you, i told her to sod off. And she parked over a dropped kerb. Aibu to think she could've just parked between the two cars leaving enough room both ways

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OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:54

Growlybear83 · 13/03/2026 17:41

Thst makes it ok then 🙄🙄🙄. I haven’t actually seen anyone being rude to you.

Edited

Really ok then

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Periperi2025 · 13/03/2026 17:52

Dery · 13/03/2026 17:48

She sounds a bit much but i find the way you parked odd as well: I live in London so would always park up close to another vehicle rather than leave dead space ahead of me the way you did. But i realise that may just be decades of London parking.

Not a london thing, I live in an welsh mining village with rows and rows of terraces and if you routinely parked selfishly here you'd have your arse handed to you on the local facebook group.

Downplayit · 13/03/2026 17:51

Sorry but I think you might be the entitled one here. Its obviously a busy parking road by school because of the number of cars arriving at that time. Its inconsiderate to leave a gap like you did and means others have to reverse park into a space rather than just pulling in. Sounds like she was trying to make as much space as possible for others. Most cars have such good sensors now that getting in an out of tight spaces is pretty easy.

thebrollachan · 13/03/2026 17:51

user1464187087 · 13/03/2026 17:43

So you could still pull out easily by reversing?
Wish I had so few problems that this would bother me!

She thought someone might block her from behind!

But she couldn't back up because there was a dropped kerb behind!

For the love of God, will somebody please make it make sense?

Mochudubh · 13/03/2026 17:49

Like @FancyBiscuitsLevel I don't understand why you moved back. I'd have stayed put. You had plenty space behind you which you reduced by moving back.

She maybe even thought you were moving back as a courtesy to allow her to move further.

Dery · 13/03/2026 17:48

She sounds a bit much but i find the way you parked odd as well: I live in London so would always park up close to another vehicle rather than leave dead space ahead of me the way you did. But i realise that may just be decades of London parking.

BoogieTownTop · 13/03/2026 17:47

PandaCwtch · 13/03/2026 16:12

In a place that you know is going to be busy for parking (school pick up general is), why would you choose to park in such an inconsiderate manner yourself? You've said that there was a car parked, and you've left a massive gap between them and you, rather than park up to the car already there, therefore forcing the next drivers to parallel park around you. Perhaps the other driver was making the point that you've parked inconsiderately? They shouldn't have parked on the dropped kerb, but you definitely aren't in the right with the rest of it.

This

user1464187087 · 13/03/2026 17:43

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 15:51

I will probably get flack for this but this is the second time this has happened in as many days. I get to school pick up early, parked my car noone in front and another car few metres behind. Another car comes and parks a few metres ahead. Another one comes and parks in between me and car ahead. Plenty of room to leave her car also bang in middle of both, but no she has to move her car as near to my bumper as possible. I move car back and she moves her car forward again right on top of my bumper. I beep my horn, she gets out of car asking why I did that, I said cos you've parked as near to me as possible, she says there's a load of room behind you, I said what if someone parks the same behind, then I'll move back she said (bear in mind she was leaving her car) and everyone's happy except you, i told her to sod off. And she parked over a dropped kerb. Aibu to think she could've just parked between the two cars leaving enough room both ways

So you could still pull out easily by reversing?
Wish I had so few problems that this would bother me!

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 13/03/2026 17:42

thebrollachan · 13/03/2026 17:39

I am likewise baffled. I think we need a better diagram, to scale, with both dropped kerbs marked. Otherwise I don't understand why @OneGreyBiscuit was in any way inconvenienced.

They weren’t. They were just pissed off as they think getting there early entitles them to get a big space.

Growlybear83 · 13/03/2026 17:41

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:38

I've only responded rudely to the ones who've been rude to me

Thst makes it ok then 🙄🙄🙄. I haven’t actually seen anyone being rude to you.

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:40

Flamingojune · 13/03/2026 17:38

So basically there is not enough safe space to park near the school?

The pavement quote was about the roads some on here think that my DD should walk down so I don't have to drive, nothing to do with the school road

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thebrollachan · 13/03/2026 17:39

Shithotlawyer · 13/03/2026 17:31

There probably aren't pavements in a very rural area. I don't see why parents shouldn't drive to school, they have as much right to use the roads as anyone else.

I am a bit confused as to why the woman parking was a problem though, because you had space behind you to get out. I don't get why you were upset that she parked close ro your bumper in the first place, she wasn't blocking you.

I am likewise baffled. I think we need a better diagram, to scale, with both dropped kerbs marked. Otherwise I don't understand why @OneGreyBiscuit was in any way inconvenienced.

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:38

Growlybear83 · 13/03/2026 17:33

The way you’ve responded so rudely to some people on this thread really doesn’t show you in a good light, OP.

I've only responded rudely to the ones who've been rude to me

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Flamingojune · 13/03/2026 17:38

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:31

No there isn't on large stretches, funnily enough

So basically there is not enough safe space to park near the school?

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:36

SleepyHollowed84 · 13/03/2026 17:30

So you allegedly

  • Had to get there early to get a spot
  • but at the same time you parked as far away from school as possible
  • left two massive gaps either side of you
  • beeped at someone

And then have asked if YABU but are challenging anyone who says YABU?

YABU.

Yes two massive gaps that someone could park in easily without having to kiss my bumper. You don't know the dynamics of this road or school for that matter. I leave early as I've said numerous times I'm about a 15 mins drive away (not all of us live in urban areas) and I like to leave before the school run starts up my road, and I park away from school so I don't have to encounter the type of prat that i did earlier if that's ok with you, anything else you would like to bash me for?

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Growlybear83 · 13/03/2026 17:33

The way you’ve responded so rudely to some people on this thread really doesn’t show you in a good light, OP.

FeetupTvon · 13/03/2026 17:33

Honestly, is this all you have to worry about?
Just reverse a bit to give yourself more space.
This is a non-issue.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 13/03/2026 17:32

Shithotlawyer · 13/03/2026 17:31

There probably aren't pavements in a very rural area. I don't see why parents shouldn't drive to school, they have as much right to use the roads as anyone else.

I am a bit confused as to why the woman parking was a problem though, because you had space behind you to get out. I don't get why you were upset that she parked close ro your bumper in the first place, she wasn't blocking you.

Some people think you need miles of space in front to get out of a parallel park.

Shithotlawyer · 13/03/2026 17:31

There probably aren't pavements in a very rural area. I don't see why parents shouldn't drive to school, they have as much right to use the roads as anyone else.

I am a bit confused as to why the woman parking was a problem though, because you had space behind you to get out. I don't get why you were upset that she parked close ro your bumper in the first place, she wasn't blocking you.

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:31

Flamingojune · 13/03/2026 17:27

Are there no pavements?

No there isn't on large stretches, funnily enough

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SleepyHollowed84 · 13/03/2026 17:30

So you allegedly

  • Had to get there early to get a spot
  • but at the same time you parked as far away from school as possible
  • left two massive gaps either side of you
  • beeped at someone

And then have asked if YABU but are challenging anyone who says YABU?

YABU.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 13/03/2026 17:30

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:25

I'll say it again for the hundredth time. I reversed back a bit and then she proceeded to move further up to my car again for no reason other than to antagonise me I think

You genuinely think a stranger was doing something just to antagonise you?

Flamingojune · 13/03/2026 17:27

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 16:53

FFS, I give up! I'll just let my DD play chicken with cars that are doing 60mph plus and hope that pleases you. Some parents me included have no choice!!

Are there no pavements?

Rollercoaster1920 · 13/03/2026 17:27

I get you. I wonder if it was my neighbour! She always reverses until her reversing sensors are screaming, then leaves it there. Occasionally someone parks close in front of her and she's pretty much blocked in if they do the same.

Some people just don't see how life can be easier if everyone is a little bit considerate and thinks things through.

TBF She's also generally a terrible driver, I saw her driving on the wrong side of the road once, and pull out from a give way onto a road nearly causing a crash.

SunnyRedSnail · 13/03/2026 17:27

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 16:16

She was parked over the dropped kerb regardless of whether she stopped in the middle or was hanging off my bumper so it made no difference

Its not illegal to park over a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking someone in. Its just bad manners.

I dont see the issue with her parking close to you.

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