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Entitled school mum parking (with diagram)

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OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 15:51

I will probably get flack for this but this is the second time this has happened in as many days. I get to school pick up early, parked my car noone in front and another car few metres behind. Another car comes and parks a few metres ahead. Another one comes and parks in between me and car ahead. Plenty of room to leave her car also bang in middle of both, but no she has to move her car as near to my bumper as possible. I move car back and she moves her car forward again right on top of my bumper. I beep my horn, she gets out of car asking why I did that, I said cos you've parked as near to me as possible, she says there's a load of room behind you, I said what if someone parks the same behind, then I'll move back she said (bear in mind she was leaving her car) and everyone's happy except you, i told her to sod off. And she parked over a dropped kerb. Aibu to think she could've just parked between the two cars leaving enough room both ways

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OhNoThankYou · 13/03/2026 19:08

saveforthat · 13/03/2026 17:14

Or walk, which is completely stress free.

I always think it’s funny when people say this, is it that you genuinely can’t conceive that some people may live too far away or via A roads without pavements? I find it fascinating that people have such a lack of awareness.

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 19:07

TequilaNights · 13/03/2026 18:54

As someone who lives in a road that is swamped from 2.30 with people who think they own the road because their children attend a school within 15 minute walk. Yabu.

How far have you read? Please re read my posts, if my DD could walk id gladly let her, fgs!

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OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 19:04

thebrollachan · 13/03/2026 18:47

It's a mystery why she didn't park behind you. But I'm wondering how close the other two cars were to the dropped kerbs - the one in front can't be very close, because the width of a dropped kerb isn't normally big enough to park in. If the car behind was closer to the other dropped kerb, I would have parked just on the other side of that dropped kerb, leaving a space big enough for use of the drive, but too small to park in. Then the annoying driver would probably park in the space you originally chose, but at least you could be sure of escaping (and no blocked drive).

PS did it really happen identically on two days in a row?

Edited

Yup, exactly the same, different mum. Didn't do or say anything yesterday (must control my anger issues). Didn't move the car until I left, probably where I went wrong today but certainly didn't expect her to move her car as well

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Ladybyrd · 13/03/2026 19:00

TequilaNights · 13/03/2026 18:54

As someone who lives in a road that is swamped from 2.30 with people who think they own the road because their children attend a school within 15 minute walk. Yabu.

As someone who bought a house by a school and then complains about the traffic, YABU too.

Ladybyrd · 13/03/2026 18:58

Some people are just thick. I had a Range Rover park 3 inches from my bumper the other day. Took a photo for the insurance in case I smacked it, and was fully prepared to. Luckily the car behind moved.

Sirzy · 13/03/2026 18:55

So if you had parked up to either dropped kerb two cars could have comfortably parked without blocking the dropped kerb. But you decided you needed to park in the middle making it impossible for others to park away from the dropped kerb?

TequilaNights · 13/03/2026 18:54

As someone who lives in a road that is swamped from 2.30 with people who think they own the road because their children attend a school within 15 minute walk. Yabu.

JustChillin70 · 13/03/2026 18:54

Park properly with enough room behind you without leaving a huge gap. Really grinds my gears when space to park is low and some idiot parks leaving the space for half a car in front and half behind them.

thebrollachan · 13/03/2026 18:47

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 18:25

Another diagram

It's a mystery why she didn't park behind you. But I'm wondering how close the other two cars were to the dropped kerbs - the one in front can't be very close, because the width of a dropped kerb isn't normally big enough to park in. If the car behind was closer to the other dropped kerb, I would have parked just on the other side of that dropped kerb, leaving a space big enough for use of the drive, but too small to park in. Then the annoying driver would probably park in the space you originally chose, but at least you could be sure of escaping (and no blocked drive).

PS did it really happen identically on two days in a row?

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 18:46

BookOfBritishBirds · 13/03/2026 18:37

These threads where the OP gets more and more irate as people disagree with them are always very amusing.

@OneGreyBiscuit have you considered therapy for anger management issues?

Either that or just have a nice biscuit and glass of squash because life really is too short to make such a meal of a low level parking themed altercation.

Pleased to be a source of amusement. I've had years and years of crap thrown my way and I just take it and one time I decide I'm not going to take it I get asked to get anger management. Such kind people on here. The way some of you are talking you'd think I got out of the car and chinned her.

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BookOfBritishBirds · 13/03/2026 18:37

These threads where the OP gets more and more irate as people disagree with them are always very amusing.

@OneGreyBiscuit have you considered therapy for anger management issues?

Either that or just have a nice biscuit and glass of squash because life really is too short to make such a meal of a low level parking themed altercation.

Lambington · 13/03/2026 18:31

Maybe she was just a big Grace Jones fan?

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 18:28

ForPlumReader · 13/03/2026 18:15

No, you've been rude to the ones that disagree with what you have done.

So being called lazy, selfish and a liar isn't rude, really? Your rude and my rude are quite a bit different then

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FancyBiscuitsLevel · 13/03/2026 18:26

OK OP the solution is next time, you park in a way you can get out if someone else parks up to your bumper at one end.

Moving your car after you’d already parked is what caused your problem. Why did you do that?

And then if you are a bit stuck because someone else has parked close to your bumpers, if they are also on the school run, does it matter as you know they will move their car at the point you need to move yours.

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 18:25

thebrollachan · 13/03/2026 17:39

I am likewise baffled. I think we need a better diagram, to scale, with both dropped kerbs marked. Otherwise I don't understand why @OneGreyBiscuit was in any way inconvenienced.

Another diagram

Entitled school mum parking (with diagram)
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Coconutter24 · 13/03/2026 18:20

Weeelokthen · 13/03/2026 17:13

Give me a chance woman, are you always this impatient 😂
Because every primary school in North Lanarkshire is carnage at school in/out times with selfish/dangerous parkers and it really upsets me. I cannot imagine it's not common problem throughout the UK.

How is it impatient to ask a question? You responded to my first comment faster than I responded to yours.
If people park selfishly or dangerously then yes that’s a problem but most of the time people are called selfish or accused of being dangerous just for being in half a mile radius of a school. if they park correctly and drive with care there’s no problem

BeSpoonyTurtle · 13/03/2026 18:16

MarconiPlaysTheBamba · 13/03/2026 15:57

Parking over the dropped kerb is more of an issue as once she's gone no one else will park there on account of it not being a parking spot and you'll be able to move.

It's also illegal.

ForPlumReader · 13/03/2026 18:15

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:38

I've only responded rudely to the ones who've been rude to me

No, you've been rude to the ones that disagree with what you have done.

NerrSnerr · 13/03/2026 18:14

She sounds annoying but I don’t understand why it was such a huge issue when you said there was a dropped kerb and a space behind you. She wasn’t blocking you in as there was space behind you to get out. Why did it cause so much aggro?

AnotherHormonalWoman · 13/03/2026 18:09

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 16:42

Well I don't park over dropped kerbs so one out of two is ok

No it's not. Hers may have inconvenienced you and the person who may have used the dropped kerb. Yours inconvenienced everybody around. Don't do that.

MyDeftDuck · 13/03/2026 18:03

Looks like she was leaving room to be able to drive off without having to manoeuvre out of the parking space when she wants to leave. Also, she is in the wrong to park across a drop kerb as that is potentially blocking and exit/entrance.

EmbroideredGardener · 13/03/2026 18:03

I try and avoid this by parking next to/behind/in front of an already parked car so I can control the distance left one at least one side. It doesnt always work but its worth a go!

GoldbergVariations · 13/03/2026 17:58

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 16:33

When you're being spoke to in a condescending manner I think it was very appropriate, she was lucky to get sod

And there endeth the lesson for today, ladies and gentlemen.

BoogieTownTop · 13/03/2026 17:55

OneGreyBiscuit · 13/03/2026 17:38

I've only responded rudely to the ones who've been rude to me

I think I fully understand why the driver was apparently “condescending” to you.

Sirzy · 13/03/2026 17:55

It drives me mad when im picking ds up and people leave massive gaps between them and the next car rather than parking properly so as many people as possible can get in safely.