Three or four baths a week?

DS too. I limit him to two now. Imagine telling them their next one is due in June.

Is the bath in the family bathroom or your ensuite?

I think the concept of getting a bathtub so big that you only intended to use it 4-6 times a year, absurd. So for that alone yes YABU

Unless you are really having to watch every penny financially, I find it incredible you’ve worked out how much each individual bath costs. It’s a lovely way to relax and unwind, so not just about getting clean.

Reading this I now have the sudden urge to have a bath.

It wouldn’t enter my head to stop someone using the bath in our home. There are loads of things I’d cut if we were short of money before i started to ration baths.

When I was a teenager, I liked to have two baths a day. Bloody love a bath. Now I’m an adult, I limit myself to one a day. Most of the time.

Do you generally criticise everything the poor stepchild does? Why bother investing in a bath if you refuse to let people use it? It's essentially a show bath... but for who? Who comes in to tell you regularly you have a lovely bath.

I could think of millions of things a young girl could be doing for 2 hours an evening to cause complaints, and relaxing in a bath in her house certainly isn't one of them.

Also, your math is wild.... there is absolutely no way your bath is costing £3.50.

Also, yes an ensuite is a luxury... But I'm sure she didn't beg for this luxury. You bought a house that has an ensuite and she got that room... end of. She doesnt need to be grateful her parents have put a roof over her head.

I'd actually be glad somebody was making use of the bath I spent so much money installing.

Why don’t you sort her shower out if you’re that bothered about her taking baths?

I have known DH have 3 baths in one day 🤣🤣🤣

YABVVU. Baths are there to have baths in.

It's not £3.50 a bath

If she is the only one with an en suite how many other people use the other bathroom? Showers that are not power showers are not great. Could you consider fitting a power shower? I would tell her that 2 hours is too long to tie up a bathroom that other people use.

You’ve calculated the cost of the baths but have money for a bathroom refit? You sound like you dislike her, it’s not pleasant to read.

You're happy to spend money on a bath you never intend to use, but begrudge DSD using it?

She's told you it's because the shower pressure is too low. Why don't you have a look at why she's using it and do something about it then? Have it changed to a power shower or have someone look at it to increase the pressure? Then she can use her shower and you can use your bath! Oh wait...

A bath as a treat every 2/3 months? Are you insane??

Stop being so fucking tight, weird and controlling. There is no possible way it costs £3.50 to fill a bath.

How old is she? in my teens I loved deep baths, especially when I had my period because soaking in hot water relieved the pain. If you can afford for her to use the bath, then let her. There are frequent posts on here by people who can't get their kids to wash at all.

Exactly! Op can afford en suites and fancy bath tubs to bathe in . However she calculates the cost of the water her dsd uses .

Peak MN... You spent presumably thousands to install a bath you intend to use four times a year? I can't believe you've also worked out how much each one costs. YABU!
It all sounds very controlling and as if you aren't DSD's biggest fan.

Compared to most leisure activities, it is only!

Plus lots of pps have come along and calculated it’s only a fraction of that.

I’m off to run a bath right now. I love a bath and have one most days.

why on earth would you have a bath and save it for ‘best’.

Amazing post. I was wondering how it could possibly be £3.50 per bath!!

Op stop picking fights with your SD.

Why on earth would you get a bath that you wouldn't want to use?

Some people really have the daftest issues.

I hate showers, so I couldn’t get worked up about an en suite bathroom with a shower.

Why not ask her to swap rooms with another of your kids who would be happy with the shower?

@ Archymum
“I've never understood why anyone would bother installing a bath if they only intended to use it 6 times a year.”

I never use my bath - but when I had my bathroom done, I was mindful of both DGC and the fact that if ever I wanted to sell my house, it would be easier to do so with a bath as well as a shower in the bathroom. If, however, any visitor chose to have a bath every day they were here,I wouldn’t consider that at all unreasonable.
OP, if your SD enjoys having a bath, I don’t see the problem - just because she has an en-suite shower room is irrelevant. I bet she uses the loo and sink in there. If you feel it’s a “waste”, her not using the shower, then re-arrange the bedrooms. But you are being unreasonable, installing a bath and then having a fit about someone living in your house using it.

if she prefers a bath, install one in the ensuite?