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Three or four baths a week?

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christonapushbike · 13/03/2026 14:51

When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months. DSD enjoys using it 3-4 times a week and complains that her ensuite shower isn't usable as the pressure in her shower is 'too low' (its fine- not a power shower but totally usable!). Am I unreasonable to feel this is completely ungrateful attitude and an ensuite is a massive privilege (only she has one in our house) she spends up to 2 hours bathing in our bath and I've worked out each bath costs £3.50 in gas and water (it's 300 litre capacity). When challenged on why she refuses to use her own bathroom she just shrugs/ scowls. Her ensuite is a shower room with a toilet (no bath) for reference.

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OneZanyPoet · 17/03/2026 19:05

A bath as a treat every 2-3 months 😂

Fleurdalys · 17/03/2026 18:34

God how mean and incredibly tight of you🤦‍♀️
It’s a family bathroom?
Who are you to choose how she washes?

Katey83 · 17/03/2026 14:14

This is mental. Why did you install a bath that is so expensive to use? Why have a bath and then get so upset when it is used for its intended purpose? I am a stepmother and the thought that I would prohibit my DSD's use of basic facilities is unthinkable - and I'm hardly the world's most benevolent stepparent. But really, a child in your house is having a bath and you are annoyed about this? Get a grip.

shuffleofftobuffalo · 15/03/2026 11:13

I think it’s fairly standard that teenagers will put your bills up one way or another. Smile, grit your teeth and let her bathe! If you didn’t want people to use it your shouldn’t have got such a ridiculous bath. You’ve not said if you have other, younger kids but if you do you can look forward to them also having expensive baths.

ForAmusedHazelQuoter · 15/03/2026 11:02

LittleBearPad · 15/03/2026 10:35

Absolutely! But have no storage!

Plenty of storage in my four bathroom new build.

LittleBearPad · 15/03/2026 10:35

Tootiredcantsleep · 15/03/2026 09:50

It's definitely a new build thing. Huge hallways, ensuites, more toilets than bedrooms, but rooms like postage stamps. Not even a downstairs loo here (1920's semi), but I know many people in new builds with them.

Absolutely! But have no storage!

Tootiredcantsleep · 15/03/2026 09:50

KimberleyClark · 15/03/2026 08:56

Me too, 1930s semi here. Even the 1950s built detached house I grew up in didn’t have en-suites, just the one bathroom and a downstairs loo.

It's definitely a new build thing. Huge hallways, ensuites, more toilets than bedrooms, but rooms like postage stamps. Not even a downstairs loo here (1920's semi), but I know many people in new builds with them.

KimberleyClark · 15/03/2026 08:56

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 23:55

I don’t live in a new build, I live in a 1940’s build semi so it was a bit of an alien concept to me tbh.

Me too, 1930s semi here. Even the 1950s built detached house I grew up in didn’t have en-suites, just the one bathroom and a downstairs loo.

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 23:56

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 14/03/2026 23:32

It’s really annoying. Few of them around. Most annoying when you think you want to help too. Less so this one!

prob ai or someone bored and trying to think of bait to get people going.

Feel like the are put on to wind people up tbh

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 23:55

goingforgold123 · 14/03/2026 19:55

Most new homes have en suite bathrooms; the actual dimensions of these homes are often quite small compared to say 50 years,ago

I don’t live in a new build, I live in a 1940’s build semi so it was a bit of an alien concept to me tbh.

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 14/03/2026 23:32

CustardySergeant · 14/03/2026 20:21

How odd to start a thread and then not return to it at all. I don't understand the mentality.

It’s really annoying. Few of them around. Most annoying when you think you want to help too. Less so this one!

prob ai or someone bored and trying to think of bait to get people going.

Catcatcatcatcat · 14/03/2026 21:05

Is this a joke?

BudgetBuster · 14/03/2026 20:36

CustardySergeant · 14/03/2026 20:21

How odd to start a thread and then not return to it at all. I don't understand the mentality.

Lots of people do this when the responses don't go their way

CustardySergeant · 14/03/2026 20:21

How odd to start a thread and then not return to it at all. I don't understand the mentality.

goingforgold123 · 14/03/2026 19:55

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 16:48

How pretty standard to have en-suite? Really? Maybe for high earners / 2 income families.

Most new homes have en suite bathrooms; the actual dimensions of these homes are often quite small compared to say 50 years,ago

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 14/03/2026 19:20

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 16:48

How pretty standard to have en-suite? Really? Maybe for high earners / 2 income families.

Most new builds round here have en-suites. So nearly everyone I know who lives in a HA property has one.

IrrationallyAngry · 14/03/2026 18:23

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 16:48

How pretty standard to have en-suite? Really? Maybe for high earners / 2 income families.

I used to live in a very cheap 2 bed flat in a dodgy area of town that had an ensuite...

DoesthislookgoodOnMe · 14/03/2026 16:48

goingforgold123 · 13/03/2026 21:55

Lots of love earners have ensuites, they are pretty standard now.
The point the OP is making is that her new bathtub is 300 it's capacity whereas a standard one is about 100ltrs.
So effectively the SD is taking the equivalent of 9 to 12 standard baths per week.

How pretty standard to have en-suite? Really? Maybe for high earners / 2 income families.

ZenGarden89 · 14/03/2026 15:34

So you installed a bath as a decorative item and now want to vilify your stepdaughter for using it for what it was intended for?

This is NUTS. You’re either staggeringly mean or you really dislike your stepdaughter. Or both.

Im going out to my back garden now for a pee in the foliage as I purchased a naaaice loo seat recently.

PigletJohn · 14/03/2026 14:55

Octavia64 · 13/03/2026 22:43

I just googled that and it just gave me lots of pubs called the cock,

now my imagination is running wild

I think they're usually called the Inn.

HappyAsASandboy · 14/03/2026 12:52

I rarely have a shower as I prefer baths. I have a bath every day or two. I also fitted an enormous bath, and an enormous hot water cylinder to feed it. We calculated the cylinder size for the house/family and then added 25% because I absolutely hate running out of hot water and having to wait an hour for it to heat up again.

It is up to you what you allow your step daughter to do in your house, but having a daily bath wouldn’t be on my list of things to tackle with a teen!

Labelledelune · 14/03/2026 12:19

christonapushbike · 13/03/2026 14:51

When we redid our bathroom we got a lovely big deep tub with the intention of using it as a nice treat approx once every 2-3 months. DSD enjoys using it 3-4 times a week and complains that her ensuite shower isn't usable as the pressure in her shower is 'too low' (its fine- not a power shower but totally usable!). Am I unreasonable to feel this is completely ungrateful attitude and an ensuite is a massive privilege (only she has one in our house) she spends up to 2 hours bathing in our bath and I've worked out each bath costs £3.50 in gas and water (it's 300 litre capacity). When challenged on why she refuses to use her own bathroom she just shrugs/ scowls. Her ensuite is a shower room with a toilet (no bath) for reference.

Having a bath is a treat? You worked out the price? Did I read this correctly

Swiftie1878 · 14/03/2026 11:55

19 pages and not a single reply from the OP.
Wind-up merchant.

RhododendronFlowers · 14/03/2026 11:40

TheFormidableMrsC · 14/03/2026 10:48

Yes my young teen son is a shower dodger. He is ND and I think he finds the whole routine overwhelming. I sometimes wish he’d have a 40 minute shower, he’d smell so much nicer! 😆

Ah, bless him. I had one a bit like that, but he got better. I do think it's the routine.

TheFormidableMrsC · 14/03/2026 10:48

RhododendronFlowers · 14/03/2026 09:31

I hear you about the showers! I think most teenagers seem to go through this, though. Also, I was always grateful, because there are some teenagers who are a bit reluctant.....

Yes my young teen son is a shower dodger. He is ND and I think he finds the whole routine overwhelming. I sometimes wish he’d have a 40 minute shower, he’d smell so much nicer! 😆