Am I wasting my last chance at another baby?

You can agree reluctantly but it’s still your choice. Why always blame someone else for your decisions.easy cop out

He's a good father figure but reserves the time you have with her. I assume your ex sees her so it's not even like you never get time away from her

I just think too much has happened between you that’s left both of you resentful in different ways. Not really a blame game but it just doesn’t sound like a solid footing for a successful relationship. Cut your losses and split up. You’re wasting time here, neither of you seem happy. Who knows what the future holds but you don’t need to be in a relationship to have another baby. It’s often easier to not be.

You agreed you wanted a baby with him before you'd been together 6 months?!
You have a child to consider. Let this relationship go. It's clearly not your route to another child and nor should it be. Sometimes women only get to have one child and that's ok. If having another would be detrimental to your existing child then you shouldn't have one, and in this context it would absolutely be detrimental. Let it go.

End it with this guy - it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere.

You could have another baby via IVF if you are dead set on another.

If a man doesn't visit you for a year it means he does not and will not want to have a baby with you.

Yes but when he said have a child a year later YOU changed that by cheating on him with your ex. Why aren’t you willing to take any responsibility for your own actions? It’s not his fault that you decided to cheat and changed the rules.
Put your daughter first and stop this shitshow.

You cheated on him. He clearly doesn't want a baby with you. He knows your age and is stringing you along while waiting for the right woman to come along. That isn't you.

If you want another child, separate, make sure your finances and employment are secure, and then go it alone. Focus on your family ( your existing dc deserves your attention) & your job. Stop wasting time looking for a father for your next baby, it won't happen in the timescales.

Why do you want another child? You are hardly mother of the year to your existing one. Absolute madness to me you cannot prioritise your poor daughter who has no say in this shitshow, yet are so insistent you should have another child. Why?

Everyone is reading it for the red flag it is. This man has a problem with your daughter always being around. How does that not disturb you as a mother. Everyone is reading that and your biggest concern is another baby, that’s clear your child isn’t your focus here

Exactly! You should not be having a baby when you are so reliant and dependent on this man to the disadvantage of your own child. You are allowing a man to feel irritated by her presence and your only concern is having another child?!

(Side comment - but I bloody love your user name @ChildrenOfTheQuorn )

You're a mother who is dragging her daughter here there and everywhere. Letting her witness relationship drama. Not ensuring financial stability. Forcing her to live with a stepdad who doesnt really want her. And you seriously want to bring another innocent child into this shitshow?

Apologise, I misinterpreted your post. But your DD was only a year old when you had the abortion? In that case it was a no-brainer. No way should you have had another child with a different dad that soon. You needed to prioritise your DD and her stability, you still do to be fair. This guy and your desire for another child is taking up way too much of your focus.

You haven't been a passive bystander, take responsibility for your choices. It'll stop the bitterness and resentment. Then you can recover from your choices. He isn't for you, or rather he doesn't want a family, he doesn't see your DD as his. He won't end it, he gets sex and bills paid. There'll be no harm done to him when he decides to use you cheating to drop you. That'll happen when you push for a baby, or get pregnant. Cut your loses and get out now before your DD will suffer when you split.

But they were only 6 months in. He couldn't possibly have known if he would want her to be the mother of his child at that point and OP has said she was unemployed and couldn't afford a child at that time anyway. The fact that she then went on to cheat on him probably damaged the chances of him wanting to have a baby with her ever.

People can agree reluctantly. People can pressure.

Edited to add: was this abortion agreed to under the premise that it was just a timing issue and there would be a baby in the future? If so, thats misleading, it doesn't sound like this guy was ever serious and happy to string along.

I would have ended it the second he expected me to abort his (and my) child. That's just me.

Would you want a baby with someone who cheated on you? I think not. He’s being very sensible while on the other hand you’re being extremely immature.
Bringing a baby into this messed up situation isn’t a good idea, you obviously don’t love him to cheat on him with your ex of all people. Your also blaming him for the abortion when both of you agreed which isn’t fair neither.
Focus on the child you have and stop this insanityx

This is going nowhere. He he right not to want to bring a baby into the current situation. And you seem to blame him for the abortion which you say in your post you agreed to...that's unfair Move on OP and wish you all the best

It’s going to sound blunt but you’re hyper focussed on a new baby whilst you’re giving the one you currently have a shitty life as it is. Put her forefront and get her a secure home of your own, away from a bloke who resents her being around, then perhaps you’ll be in a position to start thinking about a sensible relationship and a baby.