Things you secretly know

I know my father has a secret son who is around 20 years old now. My grandma told me this few hours before she died. He had an affair, shortly after he left my mum for another woman, had more kids. His second wife has no clue about his son.

I work for a large financial institution and it is explicitly noted that we are not allowed to access friends’ or family’s accounts. In fact I’m not even allowed to access my own on the system at work.

I have several friends who have accounts with us. It wouldn’t even occur to me that I could access their account details, know about their financial circumstances etc, and if they come through to me I have to transfer them through to someone else due to it being a conflict of interest.

If I inadvertently access someone’s account I know, e.g. if someone for instance called me from a different team and the details they gave me happened to be for someone I know, then there’s a specific procedure to declare it.

Accessing records of friends or family in the NHS is absolutely not allowed and the person doing so deserves to be fired.

I'm friendly with all types of people.

I'm sure all your friends are as pure as you...

Someone I know did this…

was a member of the PTA at school but the leader was a very controlling woman who bullied everyone for anything to make herself look better and would brag about all the things she had and how she didn’t need to work. One day during a school event my friend emptied a bag of icing sugar into her new handbag.

Well, I didn't find out from going to AA.

I used to work in very famous 5* hotel:

• One very famous actor used to book a room for few hours every week to have a sex with prostitutes (drug addicted, I believe most of them we even under 16). He married shortly after and I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw their interview on TV recently and his wife (famous too) was talking how lucky she is because she was "first" for him. *I know famous influencer promoting healthy lifestyle, sport, etc who is bulimic. She used to request bucket for every single stay, ordered insane amounts of food and ate/vommited all night long. I have no idea how she's still allive tbh. She's on drugs too.

Did the son tell you? If so I'm surprised you'd be so friendly with someone with no morals

Your sister could be sacked for this. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-41807717

Is that how you found out? Through the sponsor's son?

I know someone who is very well liked and respected in his community because just before COVID, he rallied everyone together, got the local counsellors and MP involved, worked hard and led the troops to get rid of the low life drug dealers and users that were plaguing a specific area close to his home and making people feel uncomfortable.

I've lost count of the amount of lines of coke and pills I've watched him take over the years.

He justifies it to himself in that his drugs are delivered to his office in the city underneath a take out lunch. HIS drug use isn't having an impact on the community like those low lifes.

He is not a nice man.

This is such an awful thread. Grotesque that OP kicks it off with lighthearted and a laughing emoji!

My family and I had been going to the same holiday resort for a few years and one time we went, another distant in law was invited to come along. She’s a smoker. First morning there she wanders off for a cigarette (no smoking in accommodation allowed). She comes back and tells us that the staff (cleaning crew) that she got chatting with asked if she was looking to score some drugs. My sister and I were like 😳. Never in the years going there would we have guessed this. She has had a rough time in life and you can see she’s had her problems. I think people can sniff out likely customers.

I know that someone who is officially on leave for burnout actually had affairs with not one but two of his colleagues and is now dealing with the fallout and broken marriage. Of course because I've been on MN for far too long this came as no surprise to me, but it's still a secret within the organisation. A woman has stepped into his role and is now pulling everyone well and truly into line as a lot of piss has been taken while people were busy not doing their jobs.

Nor me. A decent man's life destroyed. Not funny.

I know where the bodies are buried.

Great idea for a thread....love it!! Thanks for setting it up
Will definitely post later but gotta get to work....
Oh poor vicar - why did they hate him so much if he was so Jesus like? He sounds lovely....

How do know this? How do you know what he sent out for and what arrived within what timeframe?

Even with your aunty’s permission, she should not be accessing her records! Staff should have information governance training on a regular basis which spells this out.

You can get the sack/ disciplinary in the nhs if you are accessing records for a reason that is not related to your work. Your sis should know that she absolutely should not access your son’s record unless she is having to type a letter etc. In that case, the right thing to do would be to ask a colleague to type it due to the relationship. If they are electronic records, there will be an audit trail as to who has accessed them

I have similar. They left, not because as they've told everyone, they were headhunted, but because there was a serious allegations of bullying including discrimination and they were very likely to have been pushed.
They don't know I know and so I have to sit through their description of how their previous job keeps begging them to return but they are oh so needed...

Finally, in the C of E church in my old village where I grew up there were a bunch of smiley 'upstanding 'regular churchgoers who didnt like the new , slightly happy clappy vicar . He waa modern, and kind and seemed to care about the poorer people in the village . Rather like you'd imagine Jesus might have done. So the nice upatanding churchgoing regulars orchestrated a smear campaign against him and didn't stop until they'd made sure the vicar had had a breakdown and hadcto keave his post. It was.such a lovely, kindly village .🤣

That's absolutely appalling and I'm not sure why you've used the laughing emoji!

I know my dad cheated on my mum many times. He’s dead now and I found out after he died. I haven’t told anyone.

That’s a sackable offence in the NHS she’s an idiot.

I'm in the NHS and Social Care even if someone asks I'm nit allowed to look on the file unless I've good reason to be on there such as a professional involvement. Our systems have an audit trail built in so that these is a record of who has been doing what to the file and when. Aside from the moral issue its abusing your position. I hope the gets caught.