Things you secretly know

I hide chocolate all the time, usually in my knitting bag. The mars ice creams and stuff I put in the frozen peas

We are both mildly ashamed of hiding chocolate, so neither will ever let on that we have found the other out. He buys mini eggs, which I don’t like, and I buy Crunchies because he doesn’t like them- part safety feature, part politeness. It would seem the height of rudeness to hide a Twix, for example.,

Because I don't have to pay full dues for me and my family. For a few hours a week, it's more than worth my time. Financial assessment of new members is just one part of it (it's not actually a country club, btw). Mostly it's about ensuring the longevity of the organization, financially but also in terms of its ties to the city and county, compliance with laws, supervision of management etc. I enjoy the role, especially the compliance stuff which most people find excruciatingly dull and are happy to offload onto me. It's related to what I used to do when I worked. I just wish I didn't know so much about my friends' and acquaintances' finances.

If you're from out of town you can just ask around brazenly because you're going to be gone soon anyway so there's no blowback.

I have an unpaid role in an organization that people have to pay A LOT of money to join
Honestly? I wish I didn’t know.

Why are you working an unpaid role you don't even like in an organisation that could clearly afford to compensate you well?

I'm not angry about anything. It was not a big deal.

I'm not retracting anything. You said what you said. And it was odd.

I know I have enough saved to retire whenever I want. My employer doesn't and thinks they can keep piling on the pressure, giving me more to do and not paying me market rate. One day very soon I am going to tell them where to stick their job. Sure, no one is irreplaceable but I am already doing 3 people's work while trying to recruit to replace them and supporting several others, so I know how hard it is recruiting the required skill set. Most of the critical projects are in my team and anyone stepping in to take over won't know them like I do for at least 2 years. There will be delays, which will materially affect the company value.

I live abroad so different rules apply here, regulation is low and light touch, not at all like in the EU and European countries.

I have an unpaid role in an organization that people have to pay A LOT of money to join - sort of like a country club. It’s part of my job to assess the financial viability of applicants, to confirm whether or not they have the means to pay their dues. It’s a small area, there are only two or three such organizations, and people tend to go where the facilities best suit their needs which tends to be decided along lines like location and facilities. As a consequence, people in the same circle tend to gravitate towards the same place.

I know ALL about many people’s finances: their salaries, investments, properties and their valuation, pensions, monthly credit card statements, who their advisors are - everything down to the last penny. Everyone knows that I have this information, everyone knows I have this information about everyone else in their organization.

Honestly? I wish I didn’t know. It’s not a burden as such, but it certainly makes you see people other than as they present themselves.

It has the ring of inauthenticity.

The rich Christians in the village hated the poor people and when a lovely vicar (like Jesus!) who cared for the poor came along, they worked to get him out because like all Christians, they didn't care about the poor.

They were nasty evil moustache twirling horrors who threw crusts out of their Rolls Royce windows for the huddled poor begging for food and who drove over the foot of the Jesus like vicar, as he-a victim of their evil plans-waited at the bus stop for a bus to take him away- armed only with a plastic bag of belongings and the knowledge that Christians were shits.

He knew he must convert to a purer faith.

Or something like!

@Rhubarb24 - I know that you are angry that I called out your post. Credit to you that you have had it removed. However, you're still being unpleasant, offensive and your claim is vile. Please retract it.

Please do not claim that.
It's very offensive.
You are aware of my addendum

not all heroes wear capes 🥰

I live in hope but we live in Cumbria the wettest county.

The very well connected Irish businessman I worked for back in the day used to travel to London regularly and arrange for escorts to visit him at his hotel. He considered himself and his family to be pillars of the community and I'm sure his lovely wife had no clue. I found out completely by accident and was so shocked I left shortly afterwards as I couldn't look him in the eye. He was a cunt, anyway, an absolute bastard to work for. I've never breathed a word. He's retired now, he'll be in his 80s, and I wonder if he's still up to his old tricks.

You're glad?
It's pretty awful. However I added the child abuse one as I'd forgotten to do so. It's the worst. Which I'm sure you worked out..
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Same! I also knew he was going to do it in a place I didn’t really want it to happen so engineered that day so we would be in a better place 😂

I'm glad that my AA story shocked you more than this one.

Oh, actually that one about children being abused in the hotel 💐