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AIBU to think my husband‘s attitude is really mean

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Hayfield123 · 12/03/2026 09:39

Would you give up your time to be a witness at a strangers wedding? Husband and I were chatting to a couple the other day who are getting married, but they haven’t told any of their friends and family and they’re hoping to get to strangers off the street to be witnesses. My husband said that they’ll never find anybody, they said they were going to go to the local pub and find some people that were sitting there and just ask them if they would do it. I said if I had the time I would absolutely do it he said he wouldn’t. He said if he was sitting there having a drink with his friend, he wouldn’t want to be disturbed. I think that’s really mean.

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Thechaseison71 · 12/03/2026 09:54

Ifailed · 12/03/2026 09:45

All a witness does is watch people sign a contract and then counter-sign to state they saw it happened. That's it.

Obviously on here every has to make a huge drama of whataboutery though

Thechaseison71 · 12/03/2026 09:53

takealettermsjones · 12/03/2026 09:42

Well it seems like a nutty thing to do so I suppose I might refuse out of fear of being strongarmed into further nuttery...

What would you possibly be strongarmed into doing as a follow on? It's 15 mins out of your day. Id get them to buy me a pint and do it.
I don't think it's that nutty and wasn't that unusual either. My dad did it for someone he didn't know. Wished them well and never saw them again

BudgetBuster · 12/03/2026 09:50

I think maybe you are romanticising it. It all sounds lovey dovey... but in reality if a stranger came up to me in a pub and asked me to be a witness there and then I'd actually think that potentially one of them was being coerced and I'd be terrified of a) the relationship and b) my involvement.

Granted it might all be perfectly innocent but I wouldn't want to risk it.

sofiamofia · 12/03/2026 09:49

I don't think he's mean, it's not like they're hurt and need help and he won't interrupt his pint to call an ambulance. He just wouldn't want to do it, loads of people wouldn't want to.

Monsterslam · 12/03/2026 09:48

I'd refuse. It's drama and you'll get pulled into it. It'll turn out to be a sham marriage and you'll be sat talking to the officials for weeks as they ask you exactly how you know them and won't believe you just walked off the street or you'll end up in some god awful reception somewhere with whacky people. I don't know which is worse.

MorrisonsPlatter · 12/03/2026 09:47

The marriage could be coercive or arranged to circumvent immigration status etc. So no.

Ifailed · 12/03/2026 09:45

All a witness does is watch people sign a contract and then counter-sign to state they saw it happened. That's it.

takealettermsjones · 12/03/2026 09:42

Well it seems like a nutty thing to do so I suppose I might refuse out of fear of being strongarmed into further nuttery...