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AIBU to be annoyed when people comment on my teen’s acne?

31 replies

empee47 · 12/03/2026 09:29

14 yo DD has developed mild acne on her forehead all of a sudden, totally clear in November, started in December and has been getting worse. Bumped into several people in the last week who we haven’t seen for a while and all have said ‘ oh, you’re growing up, teenager now, got the acne etc.’ There’s just no need for that, is there? They’re not wrong but there’s no need to mention it, is there? Why is everything based on looks all the time? 🙈

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youalright · 12/03/2026 11:57

Yanbu i would of felt so uncomfortable as a teen if someone pointed out my spots. Even now as an adult I get the odd spot and would hate someone pointing it out. Just reply oh you've gained weight since I've last seen you and see how they like it.

dairydebris · 12/03/2026 11:57

People are dicks.

I'm torn between wanting to make an equally rude remark back or ignoring it so as to not draw more attention.

How's your DD. Acne really affected my confidence for a long time. Can you help her seek treatment or isnt she bothered. I'd be led by her.

MrsDoubtfire123 · 12/03/2026 11:54

rubyslippers · 12/03/2026 09:35

YANBU
no one should be commenting on someone’s appearance like that

this !!!

rubyslippers · 12/03/2026 09:35

YANBU
no one should be commenting on someone’s appearance like that

takealettermsjones · 12/03/2026 09:34

Bit tricky when it's people you know, but ooh I'd have great fun coming up with replies to this for strangers.

"And you too, got the receding hairline!"

ScarlettSarah · 12/03/2026 09:31

YANBU, that's incredibly rude of them.

I'd be tempted to say 'actually she's a bit self-conscious about it and it's unkind to point it out'. Something like that.