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Funeral directors share our private road - AIBU about what I saw yesterday?

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Habbyhadno · 11/03/2026 22:09

This is such a random post but…

I live at the top of a private road just off a main road in a small town. At the main road end we have a funeral directors that faces the street, the building is tiny and it’s a branch of another directors in a neighbouring town where the directors is very much a shop front.

I thought this one would be the same, but they do seem to store bodies in there. We’ve had a fair few hearses park on our road as we turn into it (at the side of the shop), I literally have to squeeze my car up the road as obviously hearses take up a lot of space and the road isn’t wide at all, it’s a bit of an inconvenience but whatever.

However, last night me and my three kids 6,8 and 12 were heading out and we were all walking down the road and I spy a private ambulance with the back door open and clearly two bodies were in black bags in the back of the van.

There were two people out there about to start manoeuvring the bodies into the building, but I’m a bit icked out by it all, I don’t really think the kids need to see that and I felt a bit weird about seeing it (there’s not any other way we could have gone as the road is small and there was no getting away from it).

Do you think I should pop in and speak to them about being aware of who is around when they are unloading bodies or AIBU? I just feel like they could make the operation a bit more concealed rather than hoiking them out literally in the street, it seems a bit disrespectful and it’s been playing on my mind. What do I do?

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steff13 · 11/03/2026 22:13

Was the place there when you moved in, or is it new? Ultimately you would be unreasonable to expect them to check who's around before they unload a body.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 11/03/2026 22:12

It wouldn’t bother me. Death is a part of life. The body bags were supervised, protected and anonymous. Talk to your DC about it when they ask. Teach them not to be afraid of death and the dead, which are just as normal as birth, life, living.