Husband not coming home early

Then she needs to ring NHS direct for advise or phone a taxi!

He has two kids, she has three!

If she rings the GP what will he do? Not much! Better to ring 111. She still has the problem of the three children. I feel some posters are being hard on the OP who must be worried sick, and feeling unwell.

The DH only said she would have to “figure it out” with regards to her leaving the hospital, after him driving 5 hours home to get her and then dropping her to the hospital late into the evening.
Surely it’s the only option though? He obviously can’t pack 5 kids back into the car during the night to collect OP from the hospital when she could organise a taxi.

You need to get your leg looked at now. It can’t wait for your husband to make a long drive even if he was leaving now.

I do think you set him up here in that you said you may as well wait for Friday then, but clearly expected him to still come home, but that’s an aside - your leg needs seeing now. He’s not around.

HE chose?

I presume he didn’t hold the OP hostage to impregnate her five times and move her somewhere rural against her will?!

These are joint decisions and if you are going have large numbers of children, live rurally and not drive, you probably will have to fork out on taxis and childcare.

So if the wound is rapidly deteriorating, why isn't she calling a taxi or asking a neighbour to take her to the hospital?

Things have changed, the wound is rapidly deteriorating , and she could end up with sepsis! The OP herself has said her husband’s attitude sounds uncaring.

Well, she will have to sort it out

He's five hours away with two children - and she doesn't drive and chose to move to a rural location where she doesn't know anyone. What did she think would happen if there was an emergency and her DH wasn't available?

OP isn't incapable. She can ring a taxi if she's genuinely concerned. Her DC will just have to come along with her and be bored.

Well yeah, they both need to set their lives up in a way that they can both transport them/all the kids. The situation was never going to work (five kids, one car, only one driver, rural) and is now almost an emergency.
OP needs to source medical treatment and transport somehow. Someone suggested she call the GP, which is a potentially good shout depending on how good it bad the provision is in the area.

She’s got the three other children with her! Her husband said she’d have to sort it out- doesn’t come as caring to me!

Have you even phoned your GP or 111 OP? It doesn’t appear like you have from your comments, I can’t understand why people are expecting DH to act like it’s life and death for someone who hasn’t even attempted to get any medical care organised.

You really can’t deduce that from the information at all.
OP told him she was going to wait until Friday, so they agreed together that he would finish his work on Wednesday as normal and return when they previously arranged.

Well, I don't really blame him. If OP was properly concerned she would ring a taxi and get herself to the hospital, not sit around waiting for him to drive 5+ hours home to take her!

Oh my love. Your husband is out of order. Can I ask what surgery you had done. If there is anything metal underneath that wound eg plates or screws or mesh then you really need to be seen today. If not then clean it and dress with whatever you have. Do you feel unwell or have a temperature? Is the wound red? If no to all these then you are probably ok to wait for him to come home but you need to be seen sooner rather than later in case infection takes hold.
Sending you a virtual hug and hope he will be home soon to at least support you.

You said you would wait until Friday. So that's what's he's doing. YABU.

He doesn’t come across as worried about the OP

Literally this! It amazes me that it always ends up being a man’s fault on here, sometimes it is deserved but not on this occasion. 5 kids, rural living, not driving, this won’t be the last time there is an issue.

It sounded like the DH was coming home, however didn’t want to drive through the night with 2 children and OP told him rather than go on Thursday she would then just wait until her appointment on Friday.
I mean it’s fair enough if she wanes to get it checked before but he’s 5 hours away and not a mind reader, she shouldn’t have said she was going to wait until Friday if she wasn’t happy with that.

You need antibiotics and ideally a wound swab - please don’t wait until you get a fever and the infection has spread to your bloodstream. You need to get to a gp or at the very least a phone consult so they can prescribe you some antibiotics. It may even need a washout as it looks like the wound is dehiscing- please don’t wait until Friday- this is urgent

Would a woman in the same situation be expected to drive 5 hours home at the drop of a hat, or would the man at home who refuses to drive be told to get a grip and ring a taxi?

This whole situation is bonkers - you expect your DH to drive 5 hours home from work to come and take you to the hospital? Because you've chosen to live rurally and refuse to drive?

Get a taxi. You'll just have to take your kids with you.

The husband’s attitude sounds uncaring- it’s inexcusable He should be organising things so he can get home asap!

Op needs attention NOW, so should phone husband and convey how urgent this is

Urm, it doesn't look great.

I'd def be getting that looked at ASAP.