Husband not coming home early

I have read all of the comments and it seems I've divided opinion.

Maybe I am being unfair to expect him to show concern, ask how I am and come home as soon as was physically possible. It's something I need to reflect on, I am still upset by his reaction. But I am in pain and tired so this may be clouding my judgement.

Sorry for my short absence, I clearly need to clarify a few things that weren't clear in my original post - its easy when the backstory is your life to forget key info. I'm going to try and be as clear as possible.

I do drive. Nowhere have I said I do not. I cannot currently as the surgery cut into my leg muscle so movement is restricted. In other circumstances I would obviously just drive myself

We did not chose where we moved to, circumstances dictated it.

He is doing work within a family members home for them, tiling a floor. I do feel it could have been left to come and help me or he should not have gone, this has been a common argument in the past where I have been left to solo parent while he helps friends and family and charges mates rates.

He will be travelling back during the night at the same time as when I called and asked him to come home. I asked him to leave immediately he said he could not and would not be able to leave until lunchtime the following day which meant I would have to be at the hospital overnight. I am annoyed he was not willing to leave that evening or early the following morning (I agree if he got back in the evening it would be difficult for the kids).

He is now travelling back at the same time he originally planned, I am internally questioning if he 'fobbed' me off so he could see his friend.

I am not doing nothing, I am asking if I am unreasonable to be annoyed that given the circumstances he didn't come straight home. He has not asked me once today how my leg is.

Like many of us who post asking do I need to see doctors it is not always easy to self assess if you need urgent medical care/gp appointment/can wait a few days. My friend was adamant immediate, my husband that it could wait.

I am fully aware of how difficult things can be with no support living in the middle of nowhere. The work at his family members was not planned, he told me in the morning he had to go and do it because they wanted it done.

I did not really agree to Friday, I cannot make him come back. If he is taking me it will be on Friday to the appointment has been made clear. He knew I was upset about this, hence the conversations about me being dramatic.

The vitriol from some on this thread is harsh. I have never said I am sitting here like I am a damsel in distress waiting to be rescued just asked if my upset at him not being concerned was valid.

Sorry this is a looonnngg post.

An appointment that she wouldn't be able to get to, as she has said taxis aren't an option and no public transport.

Jesus H Christ I would not be leaving that til Friday @OneTwinklyBird Get a taxi NOW, get that seen today. It might be that your GP can deal with it, or a minor injuries, but either way, the last thing that infected, failing to heal, open wound needs is two and a half more days to fester.

An appointment that she wouldn't be able to get to, as she has said taxis aren't an option and no public transport.

An appointment that she wouldn't be able to get to, as she has said taxis aren't an option and no public transport.

Op has done fuck all too. She hasn’t even see if she can get an appointment to avoid sitting in A&E.
She could have phoned her GP yesterday or this morning and already have had an appointment!

Obviously they both chose to have such a large number of kids and live rurally and depend on the husband for transport, but since it's the husband who has left OP trapped, as the only driver, and since he's doing fuck all, he can rectify the problem.

HE chose?

I presume he didn’t hold the OP hostage to impregnate her five times and move her somewhere rural against her will?!

These are joint decisions and if you are going have large numbers of children, live rurally and not drive, you probably will have to fork out on taxis and childcare.

We can still see your original post lol.

Anyway, my help is "ring a taxi and take your kids with you" - she has no other option, after all.

You can argue about whether it was a good idea to move there later. She needs help now, not criticism

You can argue about whether it was a good idea to move there later. She needs help now, not criticism

You can argue about whether it was a good idea to move there later. She needs help now, not criticism

I don't really have much sympathy for people who choose to move to isolated, rural areas when they don't drive and have 5 children under 10, and then act helpless when they realise how hard it is, no. It's a very very silly thing to do.

If OP is in pain and struggling then she needs to call a taxi, take her children with her and go to the hospital. There's no other option as her DH is 5 hours away and she doesn't drive. It's not great but that's the situation she's in.

Perhaps she’s feeling very unwell, doesn’t have anyone to call on for help or to look after the children?

He has two kids, she has three!

So if the wound is rapidly deteriorating, why isn't she calling a taxi or asking a neighbour to take her to the hospital?

If she rings the GP what will he do? Not much! Better to ring 111. She still has the problem of the three children. I feel some posters are being hard on the OP who must be worried sick, and feeling unwell.