Husband not coming home early

I can see why you're worried but I think its excessive expecting DH to drive home 5 hrs to take you. Of course it is!
You either contact GP today with a photo and explain why you need a homevisit or you ring a taxi and take the kids. If there was an emergency with one of your children while he was away you would have had to do that anyway.
Get it seen today OP and hopefully sorted.

Jesus Christ. What a bastard. He should have put the kids in the car and driven home as soon as he saw that photo. Stupid man.

YANBU, OP. He is doing something for a family member, not on a business trip that can't be rescheduled. He could have left the minute you called if he wanted to, and he's just carried on socializing and watching tv. I hope you are okay and get to the doctor ASAP.

Bloody hell, he's unbelievable. Why is he leaving it so late to leave with two children in tow. Ridiculous and so unfair on all of you.

He should have put this job off in the first place and rescheduled for when you could manage better. I don't understand how he isn't rushing, he should have seen that photo and been on his way!

Please make sure you get that leg seen in the morning if you don't manage to before. How far is the hospital, just pay for the taxi if you have to.

I would seriously lose my shit with him now.

He chose to go and 'work' away when you had surgery. He dodged coming home when you asked because it was the kids bedtime.
He then planned to travel another night at the kids bedtime so they'd sleep
Then he sat socializing all day when you NEED TO GO TO HOSPITAL.

Tomorrow after sorting your leg please rethink this relationship. He has proven he cannot and will not support you.

Have you made it clear to him you need him to bring you to the hospital tonight?

This is it.

Op had surgery, it’s split back open, looks infected. She’s in sole charge of three young children.

Does he not care enough about his children to want to make sure they are safe.

It’s all about his convenience.

She shouldn’t even had to tell him she needs him. Her being worried enough to send the photo concerned with how it looks should have been enough for him to be like, shit I need to come home you need to get that looked at.

Even if she said oh no don’t worry I’m sure it would be fine till Friday anyone with eyes can see it needs medical attention.

Christ on a bike some of the replies here piling in OP are astounding.
DH is a jerk for taking off;
OP should have said from the start she needed him home to carry the load until she could manage better;
Now that there is a problem DH should be getting home to help asap;
OP has a precarious situation being isolated with a DH who doesn't prioritize her or the children.

If OP had rung yesterday rather than dithering about, she could have been seen by a DN today. They can work fast if its necessary.

He clearly doesn’t give a shit, OP! You could die with 3 young children in the house

Wow he really doesn’t care about you at all!! Have my first ever LTB

You’ve got randoms on the internet who seem to care more about your leg than your husband.

I think you want to think the best of him but he is showing you with his actions or lack of who he really is.

He managed to arrange to get there with two children and stay all week no problem on his time line.

His wife needs him medically and he just cannot be arsed. His watching tv ffs.

Have you said to him “I need you to leave NOW and get home because otherwise I might get sepsis and die?”

What the absolute shit, this thread is wild. OP, your husband is being a massive bellend and I am genuinely aghast at his 1) lack of urgency, and 2) IDIOTIC sense of time. You aren’t being unreasonable whatsoever. I hope very much that you’re ok and your leg is seen to asap

I'd be upset in your situation too.
I think you and your DH need to have a serious conversation when he returns about him staying with his family and leaving you with young DC. That wouldn't usually be an issue, but if you genuinely have no one at all to call on and live in the middle of nowhere with no ability to drive, it's not suitable.

What happens if you do need an ambulance or there is a real emergency? You can't just leave the DC and they couldn't be in the hospital. There should always be someone available in an emergency if you have young DC. I don't have any help with childcare, but I know if worse come to worse there are people who could look after DC.
Your DH needs to stop visiting family/working such a long distance away until you either have a support network there or children are old enough to be left alone.

Wtf does he mean they haven’t had dinner yet? He was meant to be getting up and getting gone wasn’t he??

So he is 5 hours away. The nurse wants you to be seen today. He has not indicated he has left yet at 7:37pm.

I think he thinks you’re stupid. Sorry. As if earlier he didn’t know it was 6pm either children are known are running on hungry time. If they normally have dinner by 6pm they would have been bugging him.

I would be fuming in your place. That picture is frightening and he doesn't appear to be putting you first. If it was him with the injury I am sure you would be doing all you could to help him. In all honesty I would find it hard to forgive him for his apparent lack of care. I hope you get it sorted out soon. Next time he has manflu leave him to it!

I would be so annoyed.

So has dh left then?