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Another school stabbing- Embarrasing

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Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 12:40

https://news.sky.com/story/teenage-girl-stabbed-at-school-police-say-13517653

Total embarrassment now.
Is anyone ever going to get a grip on this?

Has anyone become nervous or their children about going to school?

There was one the other day too. Boy was injured.

Teenage girl stabbed at school, police say

Officers were called to Thorpe St Andrew School, near Norwich, on Wednesday morning following reports a girl had been stabbed.

https://news.sky.com/story/teenage-girl-stabbed-at-school-police-say-13517653

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Dweetfidilove · 11/03/2026 13:37

MermaidofRye · 11/03/2026 13:23

It is shameful for the country because as a country we have reached a stage where parents are unwilling to take responsibility for a child's bad behaviour.
Small breaches are tolerated until in the end much more serious breaches will out and that is what is happening.

As a society, not all of us but collectively, we tolerate road rage, shoplifting, putting on a wash in working hours, not saying anything when we see bad behaviour in the street-even if it is something as small as reprimanding someone for dropping litter.

Children excused for things they should not be excused for, such as being cheeky in class and a police force who seem to give the appearance of not wanting to attend to smaller crimes.

In the end, it all breaks down and yes, @Netcurtainnelly you are right to feel ashamed of the country and the mess we have allowed.

It is down to all of us because in tiny incremental steps, we have allowed it to happen.

This is absolutely spot on 👌🏾.

MermaidofRye · 11/03/2026 13:35

FernandoSor · 11/03/2026 13:31

@MermaidofRye wait, what is wrong with putting on a wash in working hours??

If you do it in your lunch-hour-nothing.

If you do it in time when someone else is expecting you to work, has paid for your time, isn't paying you to do your own wash, then everything.

If you don't know that then you are part of the problem.

It's dishonest. There, another word for you to tangle with. Enjoy!

MermaidofRye · 11/03/2026 13:33

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Ladybyrd · 11/03/2026 13:31

Embarrassing?

FernandoSor · 11/03/2026 13:31

@MermaidofRye wait, what is wrong with putting on a wash in working hours??

FreshInks · 11/03/2026 13:30

I’m just stunned that your first thought is that you find it embarrassing, rather than thinking of how devastating it is to the victim.

wishingonastar101 · 11/03/2026 13:30

It's not the schools fault. It's not the teachers fault. it's not social media or rap music or computer games.

It's the parent's fault.

FernandoSor · 11/03/2026 13:29

Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 13:04

How rude you are.
Just because I didn't say exactly the word you thought I should use.
In my opinion of course it's horrifying, but I still feel it's also embarrassing for the country.

Why is it embarrassing for the country? It's awful, and devastating when it happens - but it's only news because it happens so rarely. We have much lower rates of violent crime, including knife crime, than many other comparable nations.

You were called out on your use of language because declaring that Britain is an embarrassment on the world stage is a favoured tactic of the Britain-hating right and it's just a short pivot to the usual tropes about Britain having become a lawless backwater.

Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 13:28

MermaidofRye · 11/03/2026 13:23

It is shameful for the country because as a country we have reached a stage where parents are unwilling to take responsibility for a child's bad behaviour.
Small breaches are tolerated until in the end much more serious breaches will out and that is what is happening.

As a society, not all of us but collectively, we tolerate road rage, shoplifting, putting on a wash in working hours, not saying anything when we see bad behaviour in the street-even if it is something as small as reprimanding someone for dropping litter.

Children excused for things they should not be excused for, such as being cheeky in class and a police force who seem to give the appearance of not wanting to attend to smaller crimes.

In the end, it all breaks down and yes, @Netcurtainnelly you are right to feel ashamed of the country and the mess we have allowed.

It is down to all of us because in tiny incremental steps, we have allowed it to happen.

👌👏

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MermaidofRye · 11/03/2026 13:23

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 11/03/2026 13:07

Why is it embarrassing for the country?

This is down to the child, the child’s parents and the school. Don’t hold the country responsible for individuals being shits.

It is shameful for the country because as a country we have reached a stage where parents are unwilling to take responsibility for a child's bad behaviour.
Small breaches are tolerated until in the end much more serious breaches will out and that is what is happening.

As a society, not all of us but collectively, we tolerate road rage, shoplifting, putting on a wash in working hours, not saying anything when we see bad behaviour in the street-even if it is something as small as reprimanding someone for dropping litter.

Children excused for things they should not be excused for, such as being cheeky in class and a police force who seem to give the appearance of not wanting to attend to smaller crimes.

In the end, it all breaks down and yes, @Netcurtainnelly you are right to feel ashamed of the country and the mess we have allowed.

It is down to all of us because in tiny incremental steps, we have allowed it to happen.

VivienneDelacroix · 11/03/2026 13:23

Embarrassing suggests that there is something happening which sets us apart from other countries and shows us up?
The latest available figures show this isn't the case at all? Even compared to other European countries we don't seem to have "embarrassing" rates.

But it's the rhetoric that Trump et co like to float around - Britain is some knife-crime addled mega ghetto - despite the US having far higher rates than us (and that's just knives, ignoring their exorbitant gun death rates - which IS embarrassing considering they only have to look to other countries for examples to see how this can be tackled).

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/stabbing-deaths-by-country

Stabbing Deaths by Country 2026

Statistics on stabbing deaths by country, detailing the number of knife-related deaths as well as the rate per 100,000 people, including the answer to which country has the most stabbing deaths.

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/stabbing-deaths-by-country

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 11/03/2026 13:19

I suspect this one will come back to the Manosphere / online incel propaganda

RedVanYellowVan · 11/03/2026 13:17

There is a lot of very poor parenting and schools are loath to properly discipline teenagers. I live near a large secondary school and some of the behaviour I see as pupils walk to and fro is deplorable.

CousinBette · 11/03/2026 13:15

MigGirl · 11/03/2026 12:46

The thing is what was she stabed with? The article doesn't say. Kids will and can get hold of a lot of things that could be used to stab someone with. It could be anything from a sharpened pencil to a screwdriver.

I'd only be really concerned if they had obtained a knife or scaple (yes we use scaples in school for science) from school itself.

I wouldn't be embarrassed.

Do you mean ‘scalpel’ as in the thing used to cut into bodies? Used in biology?

Octavia64 · 11/03/2026 13:14

I left teaching a couple of years ago after twenty years.

not clear it’s a stabbing with a knife - I’m an ex maths teacher and you might be surprised how many kids stab themselves or each other with compasses and the like.

that said my various schools have had kids coming in with knives at various points in my career. I don’t know if it’s more common than it was.

at one point I did 1:1 for kids excluded and lots were boys who had been violent and knives were often involved.

FeatherDuvet · 11/03/2026 13:13

Let’s not mock OP for struggling to find the right word in what could be a new language for them.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/03/2026 13:11

It’s awful. The world has gone mad, young people who thankfully don’t have access to guns are opting for the blade. It’s all over Europe. Knife crime has skyrocketed in Ireland too, it seems normal to see some mad f*cker carrying a knife down the street.
Young teenagers in gangs carrying serious weapons in their trousers.
There was a time when I’d call out bad behaviour, not these days.
Talking about tragic violent crimes, those poor people burnt to death by a psycho drenched in petrol on the coach.
Life is genuinely scary these days, it is not if, it’s when more violent crimes will happen.

EvangelineTheNightStar · 11/03/2026 13:10

I think I know what op means.. it’s happening again and again, and there’s always the (as above) oooh it’s so rare… don’t start to panic..
The fact so much focus is put on the attacker “oh no! They must be so troubled.. they obvs need help! What do they want?”

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 11/03/2026 13:07

Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 13:04

How rude you are.
Just because I didn't say exactly the word you thought I should use.
In my opinion of course it's horrifying, but I still feel it's also embarrassing for the country.

Why is it embarrassing for the country?

This is down to the child, the child’s parents and the school. Don’t hold the country responsible for individuals being shits.

Rituelec · 11/03/2026 13:05

This is not even a 'bad' area :(

Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 13:04

Jc2001 · 11/03/2026 12:44

Embarrassing? I can only assume that English isn't your first language.

How rude you are.
Just because I didn't say exactly the word you thought I should use.
In my opinion of course it's horrifying, but I still feel it's also embarrassing for the country.

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EasternStandard · 11/03/2026 13:02

It’s awful. I can see you meant the thread title in another way.

Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 13:02

jen8556f · 11/03/2026 13:00

I guess teachers are the one to ask. But schools seem much more chaotic than when I was in school 20+ years ago.

Definitely, and more teachers leaving.

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jen8556f · 11/03/2026 13:00

Babsandherwabs · 11/03/2026 12:56

It’s not a problem unique to this generation though is it? I thought rates of stabbings were coming down. Maybe that’s just London.

I guess teachers are the one to ask. But schools seem much more chaotic than when I was in school 20+ years ago.

Babsandherwabs · 11/03/2026 12:56

ERthree · 11/03/2026 12:53

Not shocked at all. We have a generation who have been raised to do as they please. There is punishment at home nor at school. We have made our children entitled. They truly believe nobody has the right to chastise them.

It’s not a problem unique to this generation though is it? I thought rates of stabbings were coming down. Maybe that’s just London.