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To ask why do many women are having affairs with prisoners?s?

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Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 12:03

https://insidetime.org/newsround/record-18-female-prison-officers-dismissed-over-illicit-relationships/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPMjc1MjU0NjkyNTk4Mjc5AAEeIlaAeXnTiibT5yAshkSzHct8UzfZNUkLDO8vGS38CBQ4yQkOMaCw24sPJCk_aem_YxM6Yr4bkJKo6soYCG7JeA

Says alot about them? Not the sort of person prisons want. With such a staff shortage though, maybe they are just taking anyone who applies?

Record 18 female prison officers dismissed over illicit relationships 

A record 18 female prison officers were dismissed in 2025 for having illicit relationships with prisoners, according to the Ministry of Justice. The figure was disclosed to The Sun following a Free…

https://insidetime.org/newsround/record-18-female-prison-officers-dismissed-over-illicit-relationships/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPMjc1MjU0NjkyNTk4Mjc5AAEeIlaAeXnTiibT5yAshkSzHct8UzfZNUkLDO8vGS38CBQ4yQkOMaCw24sPJCk_aem_YxM6Yr4bkJKo6soYCG7JeA

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MyTrivia · 11/03/2026 12:04

They think they can fix men. 🙄

ValidPistachio · 11/03/2026 12:06

Because it's not just men who can chase cheap thrills, have sex with people they shouldn't and abuse their position of power.

KimberleyClark · 11/03/2026 12:07

And the women, not prison officers, who have relationships with convicted murderers. I just don’t get it.

Summerhillsquare · 11/03/2026 12:09

MyTrivia · 11/03/2026 12:04

They think they can fix men. 🙄

Well that's what women are socialised to do 🤷 aided by highly manipulative criminals, I'm surprised it isn't more common to be honest.

Netcurtainnelly · 11/03/2026 12:09

Not to mention the nutter who wrote to Huntley.
What is she trying to say. It's ok to do what you did.? So much for the sisterhood .

Would she be so keen if he murdered her daughter?

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FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 11/03/2026 12:19

First I agree with @ValidPistachio .

I don’t know any woman who wants to work in a prison. Too dangerous. So what happens (I talked to one of these women who had an affair with a prisoner under her control) is that you start to develop a connection to whatever prisoner is least awful, and suddenly, they’re offering to protect you from the other prisoners. And you feel a lot safer. Then other feelings grow and… that’s how it went for her. But I do think some of these women are the same type who would date un-reformed ex-cons just because they love the drama. Between those two types, I think it covers a lot of these crimes. And I’m sure there are just some with weird prisoner fetishes? That’s plenty to cover 18 incidents.

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