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I don’t want all this fucking pasta!!

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Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:16

I know I’m not being unreasonable but I’d just like to take a second to scream into the void

whenever partner cooks dinner he seems to be expecting our saviour and his twelve disciples to arrive, this happens more so with cooking pasta. I have told him numerous times to stop with this bullshit which he agrees to do, but we still end up being expected to eat this shit for breakfast, lunch and dinner for the next 3 months. It was a nice enough dinner but I’d like to add something other than tomatoes, pasta and resentment to my diet

what do I do?? I’m here boxing up this crap ready for us to eat again and again and again and it makes me irrationally angry at this point. “Cost of living who?” he asks adding another fucking kilo of pasta to boiling water

I can’t LTB, he pays for everything and gets spiders out the house

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OneTealTurtle · 11/03/2026 11:24

Just throw it away. We always accidentally end up with extra and just chuck it.

YourWinter · 11/03/2026 11:22

DD used to have a partner who taught catering. He could not cook small quantities of anything. To feed four adults he’d always cook an entire 500g packet of dried pasta or rice. And he would never, ever eat leftovers, in catering they evidently endorse food wastage. It drove me mad. So I weighed, measured and marked lines on little repurposed tubs, showing how much pasta or rice to cook per person.

User567573 · 11/03/2026 11:22

It's literally men being too stupid to process the fact that pasta absorbs water and will end up a lot bigger than the size in the box! They are literally putting the same volume of pasta in the pot that they want to have in their meal.

Sheer laziness or weaponised incompetence. There is also no form of neurodivergence, ableism or MH issue that can excuse the inability to understand and retain the simple info that some foods expand when cooked.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/03/2026 11:21

YANBU

Pasta is one of those things that really is a lot nicer eaten when it’s just been cooked, albeit sauces can be batch cooked and in most cases keep well. But there’s little point batch boiling the pasta unless it’s for packed lunches. Even then it only keeps safely for 3-5 days.

I get that cooking in bulk can save effort later on, but the actual pasta takes less than 10 mins!

Gardenquestion22 · 11/03/2026 11:20

Don't eat it. Make your own tea untill he realises that you really don't want pasta anymore. My DH did this with my mash fixation - just said no. Apparently mash everyday isn't reasonable (it is).

damelza · 11/03/2026 11:18

Hide the pasta, replace with rolling pin.

KiposWonderbeasts · 11/03/2026 11:18

Get chickens. They bloody love that stuff.

PolyVagalNerve · 11/03/2026 11:17

You should team up with the poster with the casseroles !

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