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I don’t want all this fucking pasta!!

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Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:16

I know I’m not being unreasonable but I’d just like to take a second to scream into the void

whenever partner cooks dinner he seems to be expecting our saviour and his twelve disciples to arrive, this happens more so with cooking pasta. I have told him numerous times to stop with this bullshit which he agrees to do, but we still end up being expected to eat this shit for breakfast, lunch and dinner for the next 3 months. It was a nice enough dinner but I’d like to add something other than tomatoes, pasta and resentment to my diet

what do I do?? I’m here boxing up this crap ready for us to eat again and again and again and it makes me irrationally angry at this point. “Cost of living who?” he asks adding another fucking kilo of pasta to boiling water

I can’t LTB, he pays for everything and gets spiders out the house

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LeaderBee · 11/03/2026 13:40

When I used to live at home, mum used to cook Spaghetti Bolognese.
Once upon a time, Spaghetti bolognese used to be my favourite meal.

We eventually ended up having it maybe 4-5 times a week.

Mum said it was quick and easy.

I eventually stopped eating it and said I would make my own.
She got upset but things did eventually change.

I havent eaten spaghetti Bolognese once since I left home in 2017.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 11/03/2026 13:36

Yabu tbh, pasta is one of those things that will always be made with enough for delicious leftovers

lazyarse123 · 11/03/2026 11:53

Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:34

This is good to know, thank you!

piles pasta on to the roof of his car

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Just be aware that if the pasta is cooked with salt it can be fatal to birds. Apart from that your dh is a twat.

cingolimama · 11/03/2026 11:49

Well, I'm half Italian and the very idea of reheating pasta gives me the willies! Ditto freezing it. Disgusting.

Many people can't portion pasta by eye, and simply need to weigh it. The standard benchmark is 100g per person. It doesn't look like much when dry, but expands in the water and the sauce. Weigh. Weigh. Weigh.

TheSnootiestFox · 11/03/2026 11:46

User567573 · 11/03/2026 11:22

It's literally men being too stupid to process the fact that pasta absorbs water and will end up a lot bigger than the size in the box! They are literally putting the same volume of pasta in the pot that they want to have in their meal.

Sheer laziness or weaponised incompetence. There is also no form of neurodivergence, ableism or MH issue that can excuse the inability to understand and retain the simple info that some foods expand when cooked.

Are you feeling quite well? What an overreaction 😂

FYI, I have a degree in Catering management, a postgrad in secondary food education and was firstly a catering manager then a home economics teacher for the bulk of my career. It's still a standing joke that I always do too much pasta and I am certainly not stupid, absolutely not weaponising anything although I admit to neurodivergence 😁.

OP, give the bloke a break and remember his spider removing capabilities. We all have different talents and his is spiders, yours is estimating dry pasta requirements. Also, get yourself a couple of labradors as in our case they are excellent at dealing with any left overs 😉.

Duchessofmuchness · 11/03/2026 11:46

My pasta scooping utensil (like a spoon with spike on it to take pasta out of pan) has a hole in the middle which is the right size to measure 1 serving of pasta. So that covers spaghetti and for everything else needs to be weighed.

likelysuspect · 11/03/2026 11:45

Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:16

I know I’m not being unreasonable but I’d just like to take a second to scream into the void

whenever partner cooks dinner he seems to be expecting our saviour and his twelve disciples to arrive, this happens more so with cooking pasta. I have told him numerous times to stop with this bullshit which he agrees to do, but we still end up being expected to eat this shit for breakfast, lunch and dinner for the next 3 months. It was a nice enough dinner but I’d like to add something other than tomatoes, pasta and resentment to my diet

what do I do?? I’m here boxing up this crap ready for us to eat again and again and again and it makes me irrationally angry at this point. “Cost of living who?” he asks adding another fucking kilo of pasta to boiling water

I can’t LTB, he pays for everything and gets spiders out the house

OH cooks for the 5 thousand too except he wont eat left overs.

He piles stuff onto his plate with no recognition of what he is capable of.

Gets through tons of brown sauce and mustard because he dollops spoon fulls of it onto the plate but proceeds to only touch each bit of food into the sauce so the plate sits there at the end of the meal with dollops of unused sauce

Drives me round the bend, he has what I woujld call a psychological sight issue, almost like a food portion dysmorphia if there is such a thing.

And if there isnt, I have just described it and coined it, so it better be trademarked to me.

I on the other hand eat very different food anyway and wont waste a morsel.

GoldDuster · 11/03/2026 11:45

Christ. Opt out of leftovers, and let him eat them for twice as long. He cooked, it he can decide if he eats it, or stays in the fridge until he bins it.

2026Y · 11/03/2026 11:42

Wingedharpy · 11/03/2026 11:38

On the upside, reheated pasta is better for you.
Something to do with "resistant starch" and "glycaemic response".

Yes! Lower GI for reheated pasta

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Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:41

Wingedharpy · 11/03/2026 11:38

On the upside, reheated pasta is better for you.
Something to do with "resistant starch" and "glycaemic response".

This is interesting however he must never know this

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Wingedharpy · 11/03/2026 11:38

On the upside, reheated pasta is better for you.
Something to do with "resistant starch" and "glycaemic response".

2026Y · 11/03/2026 11:38

Jaffalemons · 11/03/2026 11:30

Why isn’t he weighing it?

This is the only option. My OH used to insist on guessing how much rice we needed (which to be fair is harder than guessing pasta) but he was consistently miles out. He has seen the light and now gets the scales out. He also now times boiled eggs after having to admit he was no good at guessingwhether 6 minutes had passed...

Shmee1988 · 11/03/2026 11:37

Freeze the leftover pasta. Evidently, pasta is better for once its been frozen. Just grab it out the freezer and put into boiking water for a few mins. No waste. Tell him to cook something else. Simple

Sgtmajormummy · 11/03/2026 11:36

Recommended 80 gram portions from a 500g packet are easy to eyeball. You don’t even need to weigh it.
2x80=160 or a third of a packet.
3x80=240 or half a packet.
4x80= 320 or two thirds of a packet.

AlbieJiggered · 11/03/2026 11:36

Buy the 'everyday value' 28p spaghetti instead and eat out until he's eaten all the pasta batch.

Hide the big saucepans.

FasterMichelin · 11/03/2026 11:36

Can’t you just leave the leftovers for him to eat?

Or find a bowl/tupperware that’s the right size when filled and tell him to use that going forwards to measure the pasta. I like leftovers for the next day - less cooking!

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Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:34

damelza · 11/03/2026 11:33

If you are going to chuck it, the birdies love it..... just watch them descend and devour. 😊

This is good to know, thank you!

piles pasta on to the roof of his car

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damelza · 11/03/2026 11:33

If you are going to chuck it, the birdies love it..... just watch them descend and devour. 😊

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Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:32

Jaffalemons · 11/03/2026 11:30

Why isn’t he weighing it?

I honestly don’t know, he likes cooking in a “bit of this, bit of that” fashion so I assume it’s that. Except it’s not a bit of pasta, it’s enough to feed a local football team

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Jaffalemons · 11/03/2026 11:30

Why isn’t he weighing it?

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Iamsotiredandfedup · 11/03/2026 11:30

Gardenquestion22 · 11/03/2026 11:20

Don't eat it. Make your own tea untill he realises that you really don't want pasta anymore. My DH did this with my mash fixation - just said no. Apparently mash everyday isn't reasonable (it is).

Not with mashed potato 😩 what is wrong with these men

I think pasta strike may be the best option

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harriethoyle · 11/03/2026 11:28

Tell him to weight it dry: 75-100g per person

SeaToSki · 11/03/2026 11:27

Work out how much pasta per person in weight you eat in one meal.

Ask him to weigh it before he cooks it

If he doesnt, he has to eat all the leftovers on his own while you have something else

DanaScullysLegoHair · 11/03/2026 11:25

Launch it over the back wall.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 11/03/2026 11:24

Urgh, cold pasta is my nightmare food. Could you pre-portion it? Get it out of the bags and put individual portions into - something so he can just take out the number of portions already prepared? Has anyone invented a kind of elastic band to wrap around individual amounts of raw pasta to aid this measurement?

if not - I just invented it.

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