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Neighbour just swore at me in front of my kids

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Oliveoiloli · 11/03/2026 09:13

We have a really tight corner on our road and for that reason I drive around it very slowly (10 /15 mph) today there was another car on the blind bend also going at a safe speed. As there is only room for one car and we surprised each other I did brake hard to let him past. Made me jump but nothing out of the ordinary or unsafe - this is exactly why we drive very slowly around it. The only issue is the man driving the other car went absolutely mental at me (I had my small children in the car). He is actually my neighbour but clearly didn’t realise that or recognise me. I am a bit shocked. Who swears in front of small children? I often see his wife when we walk the dogs. Should I mention it?

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GinaandGin · 11/03/2026 10:44

Pokko · 11/03/2026 10:19

I disagree.
I would say to his wife what happened and that his anger was terrifying for yourself and the children, especially as you did nothing wrong and were being as careful as possible in a tight space.

I would avoid him completely.
No harm putting him and her on notice that he has been seen.

I would be very pleasant to her, but I would let her know that his anger and foul language was very very shocking to witness.

Edited

Me to
He shouldn't get away with bad behavior just because "he's scary"
Because he has been allowed to be

Pokko · 11/03/2026 10:19

I disagree.
I would say to his wife what happened and that his anger was terrifying for yourself and the children, especially as you did nothing wrong and were being as careful as possible in a tight space.

I would avoid him completely.
No harm putting him and her on notice that he has been seen.

I would be very pleasant to her, but I would let her know that his anger and foul language was very very shocking to witness.

Flamingojune · 11/03/2026 10:18

Honeypizza · 11/03/2026 10:13

I think you're being a bit precious about the swearing but it sounds like he really overreacted to the situation. I wouldn't speak to his wife but would want to bring it up with him when I next see him. If he's a bit scary to confront, as you say, I'd be tempted to leave it.

Men going mental at women especially infront of their kids is something we should all be a 'bit precious' about.

Flamingojune · 11/03/2026 10:15

I would but in a kind of casual, jokey way - your husband s got a mouth on him kinda thing. What an areshole

Honeypizza · 11/03/2026 10:13

I think you're being a bit precious about the swearing but it sounds like he really overreacted to the situation. I wouldn't speak to his wife but would want to bring it up with him when I next see him. If he's a bit scary to confront, as you say, I'd be tempted to leave it.

takealettermsjones · 11/03/2026 09:29

I had an incident happen to me recently and I thought of doing the exact same thing, not because it's her responsibility, but because she should know how her husband speaks to women when she's not there. I haven't and probably won't, but I completely understand the impulse!

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Oliveoiloli · 11/03/2026 09:25

Thank you for your replies. Reflecting I think he had a go because he thought he was anonymous and could get away with it. I was thinking that by telling his wife I could burst that bubble - however I do agree with the advice here from both posters It’s not her job to clear up after his poor behaviour. I won’t be confronting him though - he is scary!

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OhBumBags · 11/03/2026 09:20

If you want to go over it again with anyone, do it with him, not his wife.

She's not responsible for her husband swearing.

What was his problem anyway, if you were going as slowly as you say?

WorstPaceScenario · 11/03/2026 09:18

He sounds like an arsehole, but it's not his wife's job to police his behaviour. If mine behaved like that (and I genuinely believe he wouldn't) in front of me he'd have his arse handed to him but it's not my job to either explain his behaviour to someone else or apologise on his behalf. Frankly, if that was his public reaction to a minor driving inconvenience then I wonder how he'd respond in private to his wife confronting him about it.